Losing respect what should I do or am I being too insensitive?

[Anonymous]

I’m stumped. My boyfriend and I are both in our 40s. We have been together for a year with ups and downs. I love him and can easily see a life together with him. He was laid off about 6 months ago and seems very unmotivated to find a new job. I have tried my best to be supportive but I find myself losing respect for him. I have put myself through graduate programs, held down two jobs while being a single mom. To me there is no excuse not to have a job at this point especially since he is a father too. I want to be fair but I find myself asking if I can really see a future with someone who can’t do what it takes to get through the hard times. Am I being unreasonable or unfair? I worry I’m putting my own personal standards onto someone else. I don’t want to lose a good person just because they are going through a difficult time.

[NachoAverageUser]

Its very hard times now to find work, It is much hard now than was pre-covid. He is not the position were he can just apply for a few jobs and problem solved.

There are people with many years of experience and sending out 600+ applications and still haven't heard anything, this in 2024.

From the research I have done, the only way to get work is through networking now. I am out of work myself and I can't find anything, I can't even get a simple job in a shop or something. At this rate, homeless is going to be on the raise, if this hard to get a job.

The only suggestion i can make for you, if you have any connections, who could help him get work.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I can understand this because children are involved and I would assume you'd want to be a traditional wife if you really had the choice, although as a married couple for so long I don't think you should give up on him, there's a reason he isn't motivated to find another job, you'll probably have to get it out of him but might help on motivating him, until you know there's no changing his mind after enough time then you make decisions that have to be made.

[Nikki1989]

Pinpoint the specific behaviors or actions that led to the loss of respect and work on that.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate those tricky relationship waves! You’re definitely facing a challenge on the high seas of love. 🚢 Life can throw curveballs, but seeing motivation in a partner is important. Six months is quite the stretch. Perhaps chat about your expectations and his future plans? It's all about balance between compassion and honesty. Remember, love should feel like teamwork, not solo paddling. 😉 Don't worry about fairness; focus on what’s right for you both. Respect comes from understanding and action.

[seanscoopers]

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[Anonymous]

Help him find a job I can’t believe you were losses respect for somebody