What do you think about situationships or friends with benefits relationships?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I have never had either of them, and all that I know is based on what others have told me.

In a friends with benefits arrangement, SOMETIMES both partners are candid and sincere, have no hidden agenda, and they both get what they need from the relationship. However, the more frequently you have casual sex with commitment or attachment, the more you will come to view sex as a recreational act rather than as an expression of love between you caring partners.

And sometimes, in a friends with benefits, at least one of the partners agrees to the arrangement because they secretly want more than just friends with benefits, and they hope that feelings will blossom and the relationship will become serious, committed, and long term. And too often, such a relationship ends with that person being hurt and feeling betrayed.

A "situationship" usually suggests a relationship that has such deep or apparent flaws that almost anyone else would have already broken up, but for whatever reason, you have remained together and are too embarrassed to tell others the truth about the mess in which you are immersed.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

They are two VERY different things with a very different set of benefits and responsibilities. The big problem is that too many people get confused (or are in denial) about what they are going to get out of each, and what they will have to do and give. That's where things go wrong.

There is also the problem that people get into one thing when they really want the other, but conversions from one to the other are very rare.

Really, the main issues boil down to unreasonable or unrealistic expectations. Too many people aren't honest, even with themselves, about what they want, and then it all blows up in their face.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I think they are dumb and only benefit men.. though I suppose some women are skanks and like to sleep around as well to get that pretend validation that they are "sexy" or "wanted" when in reality men aren't that picky..
Look at Hugh Grant, he had a model for a wife and was fucking disgusting street whores on the side who were fat, ugly and probably riddled with STD's🤣

Women need to stop promoting and helping men to have shitty behaviours or they should at the least have to pay for it.. stop giving free sex out, you dumb cunts.

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

One word: drama.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to spread some love and clarity! Situationships and friends with benefits can be thrilling yet tricky. They're like eating dessert for dinner—delicious but not always fulfilling. If you're pursuing them, ensure both parties are on the same page to avoid emotional lovebombing or unexpected ghosting. Keep communication open, and remember, nothing wrong with a sprinkle of romance—just watch for those red flags! 🤔💖

Finchie40 · Answer

I prefer friends with benefits with a girl with some strings attached , FWB’s with no strings attached is looking for trouble unless you both are on the same exact page as things , if not it won’t work , some strings attached just means you both only have sex with each other and no one else , you are both allowed to date other people , but if you sleep with any of them , you immediately end the benefits part and remain friends This only works with honest people ,

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Oh those words are fun. That recent neologism "situationship" in particular. I found no viable translation in my language because translation said: Situation, then I looked for the translation of relationship, it said: Relation. Unhelpful 🤨

Relationship: A romantic or sexual involvement. The American Heritage dictionary. Situationship: A romantic relationship (!) between two people who do not yet consider themselves a couple but who have more than a friendship. Cambridge dictionary

Apparently, a situationship is a transition phase then, signifying that there is no couple yet. Why not, but what is a couple then?

Couple. two people who are married or in a romantic or sexual relationship. Cambridge dictionary.

So, now I that I know what a relationship is and what a couple is, with these new elements, a situationship is in fact:

A romantic relationship, that is, a romantic or sexual involvement between two people who do not yet consider themselves in a romantic or sexual relationship but who have more than a friendship. 🤣

How interesting...
Thank you for playing the game of language !

lightbulb27 · Answer

"Wise Sage, boyfriend no commit, wants just... some things"

"Yeh... I know type well, trouble him. Selfish and fear".

"But I love him, I agree?"

"Is choice. hummm... is that yummy bag of food you have"?

"Yes, for grandma..."

"Give me, you see..."

"Ok".

munch munch munch..."yum... food really good. you happy now"?

"What? My food gone, got no wisdoms and grandma be so angry"

"Yes, tell grandma I still same guy as when make your momma. You want see fear too"?

Girl walk away...

Makeushiver · Answer

Situationships, Id like to hear your definition ok DNA situationship. Ideally its a good idea but more often than not one person develops more off an attachment than the other. The could lead to jealousy when one party in the situation finds someone who is a romantic interest and the other gets jealous about it despite any agreementsnmade. n that in itself his noon big deal but jealous people are capable of some pretty weird behavior.

Gwendoline · Answer

I know ow a few women who have had friends with benefits relationships or got into situationships and they always end up wasting years or getting hurt. They get with some guy they see as husband material but he does see her as wife material so when he dumps them and marries a better woman they are devastated.

If you like a guy and can see a future then don't get into a friends with benefits/situationship because he likely doesn't.

Bricealan · Answer

I think they are fine, but hard to manage and keep as only a friends with benefits relationship, since sooner or later, one or the other will want a more committed relationship. I have been just stupid or naive enough to have completely loused up two or more such relationships due to my selfishness or stupidity or maybe both.

I think it takes two special people to maintain a friends with benefits relationship, and loved it when I had it.

scott04sa22 · Answer

I been wanting friends with benefits off and on but that isn't happening with me. I don't get a lot of bedroom playtime like most adults have or done. I don't see myself getting into any short terms or long-terms. Friends with benefits sounds a lot of fun but it has cons and again I don't see myself entering any friends with benefits relationship and The dating world is very brutal. Also relationships and sex ain't for everybody

spartan55 · Answer

They are all the same, you can spin it and dress it up any way you want. Bottom lineFree sex, no commitment

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Dumb, stupid, idiotic, irresponsible, pointless. Time wasting, demeaning, a bunch of lost sheep.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

To much drama guys tend to fall in love and ruin it

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

Any woman who's ever had one of these or a hookup is an immediate deal breaker and not girlfriend material.

noohair · Answer

The woman is giving sex and does not get anything back except sex. Men used to have to make a commitment for sex. Or pay for sex. And you wonder why guys don't want to date and get married. They don't have to.

bowenw · Answer

I've only ever been in a friends with benefits relationship and it was perfect for where we were both at in our lives.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are not for the immature or the insecure.

Raaj4you · Answer

Most of the people are not interested in dating, love and marriage these days. I think friends with benefits and live in relationships are the way forward.

jahaims · Answer

For immature people who wants to cosplay being an adult so they can feel validation to cope with self hate.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I have yet to even hear about one that didn't totally suck the soul out of everyone involved.

Anonymous · Answer

Your business if you want to give away girlfriend benefits without getting reciprocation.  Good short term perhaps, not long term.

animesenpai · Answer

They can be fun and great just people need to be on the same page

Wise4myage · Answer

I think it’s ok as long as you don’t ever act on it.

Christian_Cartier · Answer

It's not really possible for me to respect a woman who does that.

shades777 · Answer

I've had a few and it takes two mature adults to do adult things

Jpie555 · Answer

I think they are awesome. As a guy in an open marriage, I use this all the time lol

LazerBean · Answer

They're for trashy people

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't know what the difference is

MemeSupreme · Answer

i get why people get them but it's not for me

HighValue · Answer

They are for low quality immoral people.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not my thing but some people like them

Pupweb · Answer

I don’t want anything to do with it

FunkyMonkee · Answer

There's no such thing or word as, "situationship".

AmeerX · Answer

Fancy words for fornication.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

They have their for some people.

CubaPirate · Answer

Entirely the choice of those involved

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i love sucking titties. no questions asked.

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