Does my wife respect me or not?

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I’ve started questioning whether my wife respects me. She interrupts me when I’m talking, doesn’t seem to value my opinions, and often makes important decisions without asking for my input. Sometimes, it feels like she’s dismissive or even talks down to me, especially in front of others. I try to bring it up calmly, but she either changes the subject or gets defensive, saying I’m overthinking things. I love her and want us to have a strong, equal partnership, but this has been bothering me more and more. Am I reading too much into this, or is this a sign of a bigger issue in our relationship? What should I do to address this?

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

if you feel that way than you feel that way

talk to her, bringing very specific situation, describing what happened and how it made you feel... ask her for her perspective

most people who interrupt don't realize it, so you can't expect changes immediately... talk to her about what could help her to realize she is interrupting you... it will be very frustrating to her in the beginning

about decisions, set very clear boundaries, that you both must make decisions that affect both of you... period...

also present her your perspective about her being dismissive and talking down to you... do it the same way as with interrupting... specific fresh situation, express your emotions, no judging, ask for her perspective

one conversation per one problem... never try to solve all problems at once, never judge her or she become defensive... talk about what emotions this situation creates in you...

always make an agreement and summarize it at the end of conversation, to be sure you both are on the same page

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

this needs addressing and you need to make her understand this needs a serious talk and that she NEEDS to take part without shifting topic. It may be something really fucking simple, but this lack of communication ain't working.

If she won't agree to it, you need to offer up a therapist session to get both sides out as you need a mediator. if she can't do that either, its time for some serious thinking because you feeling this way (even if nothing is intentional her side) and her not addressing it with you IS a lack of respect.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

You are allowing her to walk over
You , stop being nice to her when she disrespects you , the second you hear her disrespecting you, you need to put your foot down to her and tell her you will no longer be disrespected from her , and if it doesn’t stop , I no longer want this relationship with you , if she chooses to walk out and leave? Let her Go my man because she doesn’t love and value you , if she stays and apologizes that means she does love you and wants to work things out , Most females ‘ are drawn to a dominate man , not a weak man , Most females’ like to be put on their place , you don’t have to be an asshole to her , just make it clear to her that you will not tolerate her disrespectful behavior. And if you hear her do it again the relationship is over. Never kiss her ass if she is trying to walk over you

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

She definitely does not respect you. Being dismissive of a partner and telling them they're overthinking things is a big indicator. Not valuing your opinions means she feels that what you think doesn't matter.

Seems like she must've only married you for either money, your status, or maybe even your looks. She obviously sees no value or importance in you beyond one of these things. You said you've already tried talking to her about it and she still isn't changing or seeing how you feel. I don't think there's much more you can do other than separate, which might seem extreme, but I really doubt it'll get much better.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the delicate dance of respect in a relationship—it’s crucial and sometimes complicated! 😅 It sounds like you're feeling a bit like a ghost at your own party, which isn’t fun. Ideally, both partners should lovebomb each other with respect and affirmations. Try a heart-to-heart when you're both relaxed—maybe over dinner or a cozy weekend morning. Explain how these behaviors make you feel, without pointing fingers. It could open her eyes to the red flags she's unwittingly waving. Keep that communication flowing; that's where the magic happens! ✨

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

She interrupts me when I’m talking She doesn’t seem to value my opinions She makes important decisions without asking She either changes the subject or gets defensive She's saying I’m overthinking things VS I want us to have a strong, equal partnership - I think you made your point? You have all basis needed to discuss that with her. I would not expect a calm and easy discussion, this is going to be extra tough to talk about all that. Good luck to you🍀

blunty · Answer

If she’s constantly interrupting, dismissing your opinions, and making decisions without you, it doesn’t sound like respect to me. Avoiding the convo or getting defensive just adds to the problem. Respect is a two-way street, and this feels one-sided. You shouldn’t have to fight to feel valued in your relationship.

bjork · Answer

It seems like she might not be respecting you as much as she should. Interrupting, ignoring your opinions, and making decisions without consulting you aren’t signs of a healthy relationship. If she brushes it off when you try to talk about it, it’s definitely worth addressing. Don’t ignore these feelings.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask her who she thinks she is, remind her that you are her husband, and state that her casual dismissive attitude is not working towards a strong long term fulfilling relationship.

And if she accepts that that's is the goal, she needs to discuss all major decisions with you before then are actioned. The alternative is that you are just two individuals with all that that entails.

You perhaps need to work on your own inner self image and confidence. As hurtful as their behaviour can be, your emotional centre and self validation should be within you rather than let her wrecklessly trample all over it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

something is wrong, wehter lack of respect who knows. sounds like stress.

I'd assume... bigger issue... it's more than respect. I wonder if you are out of your legal to handle her emotionally.

just a week of the month or all the time?

hahahmm · Answer

No. Go find my Mytakes with these words in the titles & read them: Leadership, Equality, Trust, Acting.

Personally, I would not even settle for my wife talking down to me in private -- to say nothing of in public. Basically the moment she did it we would basically be divorced (just not on paper) and she better change her mind and apologize before I have time to sleep, wake up and hire the moving vans. I also treat her with respect.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Your wife interrupts you when you're talking, doesn't seem to value your opinions, makes important decisions without your input, is dismissive or talks down to you, especially in front of others.

You've answered your own question. Sorry.

It sounds like you and your wife probably need marriage counseling. Hopefully this can be fixed.

Good luck.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

How did you end up marring someone and not seeing these issues before? She sounds like a bitch, I would recommend couples counselling so she can't gaslight you in front of someone who will let her know her own faults.

blackjack · Answer

Dude, I get you. Respect is key in any relationship, and it sounds like something is wrong here. You're not overthinking it, it's worth addressing. Try having a calm, open conversation about how you feel. If he keeps ignoring it, maybe counseling could help. You both deserve a strong, equal partnership.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She does not respect you at all. Most modern women, not only don't love their husbands, they don't even like them.

There is an excellent chance you aren't her first choice and it's really starting to bother her.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Some smart girls do that and that kills the mood. She can keep it to herself if she know that it hurts you to be ignored. Tell her how you feel about it. No one wants to be ignored

Sunlight4 · Answer

Sorry to hear that, but I don’t see any respect from her towards you, there must be a missing circle in your relationship with her.

Ariesman81 · Answer

If you want an equal partnership... it means you're on the wrong side of equal.

Anonymous · Answer

You sound very passive. Wives are attracted to strength. If you’re being passive, there is likely a vacuum of authority and power. She’s simply filling the void.

jahaims · Answer

She doesn't respect you and you are both bad at communication.

Elftro · Answer

I would chill this is just a dumb time period. In a month or so you see just an time period or not you can always address it but reverse not

Juxtapose · Answer

If you have to ask..

In_Trance · Answer

You would have to ask your wife this question

Anonymous · Answer

Leave the wife and relive the bachelor life 😎

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