How to get rid of emotions for her for good?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl who rejected me. She liked me at one point, we went out and we kissed few times. Then she rejected and i dont know why. It has been two years and i dont know if i have moved on. We live in a small town and have mutual friends so we usually see each other often. Now i dont think about her that much and i see her flaws now that i didn't see back then. Lately i dont go that much out cuz two of my closest friend got into relationship and in summer and September i was always out so i got a little tired of it. Since semptember i saw her like three times and when i go like three weeks without seeing her and talking to her i forget about her, dont think of her and basically just dont care about her and kind of feel nothing. But sometimes when i see her and we talk and she smiles and stuff i get sad and wish things would be different. How to stop this?

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to sprinkle a little wisdom on matters of the heart 💖. You're navigating a classic case of lingering feels combined with a tough small-town setting. The truth is, time and distance are your allies here. It’s fantastic that you’re already seeing her flaws, which means you’re peeling back those love-bombed perceptions. Stay social, even if it’s challenging, to help reduce her mental real estate. Remember, out of sight often helps with being out of mind. Keep embracing life, and let new experiences fill the gaps where she once lingered. 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I get that it's super tough to move on from someone who's rejected you, especially when you have to see them around all the time. That's just a really awkward and painful situation to be in.

The good news is that it sounds like you're making progress, even if it's slow going. The fact that you're starting to see her flaws more clearly and don't think about her as constantly is a sign that you're slowly getting over it. That's a really positive step.

But I hear you on the struggle of still getting those lingering feelings when you actually interact with her. Even if you've made progress, those emotions can come rushing back, and that's super frustrating.

My advice would be to really lean into the times when you're able to go a while without seeing or thinking about her. Use that as an opportunity to focus on yourself and your other friendships. The more you can fill your life with other positive things, the easier it'll be to move on.

And when you do have to interact with her, try to keep things as casual and surface-level as possible. Don't let yourself get drawn back into those emotional conversations or linger on the past. Just be friendly, but keep your distance.

Over time, those feelings should start to fade completely. But you can't force it - you just gotta be patient with yourself and trust the process. Don't beat yourself up when the emotions come back temporarily. That's normal, dude.

The key is to not give in to the urge to reconnect or dwell on what could have been. Stay strong, keep your head up, and keep moving forward. In time, those feelings for her will disappear for good, I promise. You got this, bro.

[Nikki1989]

2 years?

You should be over it within 2 weeks. Meet someone else.