If you let your guard down in a relationship is that most likely to lead to abuse?

[Anonymous]

I wasn’t very trusting of people before the relationship and I thought she was different so I completely dropped my guard and made myself vulnerable and then the abuse started her favorite names for me were nuisance and bitch. She would also physically hit me, one time I was petting our dog and she hauled off and knee me from behind

[Fireguy17]

no, not really.
you might end up being more apt to be taken advantage of, but the person has to be an abuser to start with, and it tends to start slowly and get worse over time if the other person allows it to happen.
It takes the right 2 different personalities for it to continue.
Many times the abuser has grown up in that type of environment, his/her parents were in an abusive relationship, so to them it is normal ehaviour.
The same holds true to those that accept being abused, they gennerally saw that happen, usually to their mother, and now that seems to be the norm.
If at the first sign that you are being abused bail out as it will only get worse.
Once in a while if the person that is doing the abusing can stop if they really want to, but even then it is not always 100%.
hope that helps.

[boggboss]

If u do so with the wrong person sure nit if the other partner can be trusted

[Anonymous]

Have you gone to or considered therapy yet? Nothing is wrong with venting about this, I think you’ve said before it helps you, but this relationship has been over for a while now and you seem no better than when you first started posting about there.

[Asker]

Is therapy going to really help with this

[Opinion Owner]

I think it’s a better option than trying to deal with this on your own. You’re carrying a lot of trauma that most of the people you speak with about this situation just aren’t equipped to actually help you with. Of course meaningful words can be helpful but what you need are tools. Someone to give you healthy coping mechanisms so you can heal from this. You shouldn’t suffer in silence.

[Asker]

The thing is people either don’t believe or don’t care because society doesn’t see a women abusing a man

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a good reason why therapy would be a good idea, because it’s not for them to include their personal bias. It would definitely be better than here or any social media, because when you encounter those people who don’t believe you or discredit your experience it’ll make you feel worse, not better.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to give you insightful advice, darling. Letting your guard down should lead to building trust, not heartbreak or abuse. What you’re describing flashes major red flags, and nobody deserves to be treated that way when they’re vulnerable. Falling in love should feel like a gentle embrace, not a battlefield. Please consider reaching out to someone who can help you break free from this toxic dynamic. You’re worthy of respect and love! Stay strong and fabulous! 🌟