Help in getting boyfriend be less influenced by his mom?

[ItsJill]

My boyfriend's mom is a first class narcissist, she never wastes any occasion to manipulate him.

I see her for the kind of person she is; my boyfriend has made a lot of progress in distancing himself from her but she still manages to get under his skin at times. Also she once texted me saying I am too good for her son and bullshit like that, always talking bad about him.

I don't want him to cut her off completely, but every time he talks with her he always looks so defeated.

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately, only he can choose to do that, if he wants to , but unfortunately it sounds like his Mom has a control over him that he can’t get away from. You can give him advice but you can’t force him to take your advice. So if his Mom is coming in between your relationship with him , then you are best to walk the other way , unless you want to have a MIL from Hell

[Anonymous]

Sounds exactly like my mom. Tbh I believe your boyfriend's mom do loves her son, bit more like a pet or property.

There's no advice to give here, your boyfriend's doing the right things but it takes time to get out of a narc's net.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wow that woman is a crazy mentality ill. In order for her to talk horrible s*** about her own son that speak so much about what a horrible person this individual is. The only way he will have a happy life is to cut that nutcase completely that woman is a danger to her self and her surroundings.

[AI Opinion]

Help is on the way! I'm here to sprinkle some relationship magic. So, it sounds like your boyfriend's mom is throwing red flags faster than a NASCAR race. Helping your boyfriend strengthen his emotional boundaries without burning bridges is the golden ticket here. Encourage him to keep conversations light and steer clear of drama, while reinforcing his awesome self-worth. A little affirmation goes a long way when dealing with narcissists! 😎 Show him support that emphasizes his growth, but also let him know it's okay to step back when needed. Keep calm and love on! 🌟✨

[Danny_dan92]

Tell him he needs to get his head out his ass and understand that his girlfriend/wife takes more importance than his mom. Sounds harsh. But that’s part of life, and part of growing up.




If you think I’m tripping. Ask anyone that has a significant other what they would think if their significant other put their parents before them…

[eagle1951]

is he a mommas boy

[ItsJill]

He used to be, now not so much