Am I overthinking this and what should I say to them?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been messing around with a guy for 3 years sneaking around. For his 21st birthday he invited me to Europe with him, but also I’m meeting his family (both his parents, 18 year old sister and older brother). I’m really nervous meeting them and what to say, because of past experience with my ex bf’s family traumatizing me.

[SueShe]

When you say "messing around" I presume you mean fornicating, right? That means he is a friend with benefits and nothing more.

Well, just tell the parents and family that you are copulating with him and there is nothing more than that. I am sure they will understand that you are just using him for your physical pleasure. Even the kids in the family are adults, so they would understand and hopefully not be judgmental since their son and brother is doing exactly the same thing with you.

And if you are afraid of the reaction, then simply don't go to that family gathering and come up with an excuse.

[PeachyPie93]

Why are you sneaking around for 3 years and not dating? Not sure why you would be scared, since how could a guy you aren't even dating family traumatize you? Just be nice and friendly and shit should be fine..

[Finchie40]

What do you mean by messing around? Are you cheating on someone to be with him?

[Asker]

😂 no having sex obviously. And absolutely not

[Finchie40]

Then if you both are just f buddies then just be yourself and be respectful and polite around his family , His family
Might assume you are both in a relationship together , so if that’s the case just be honest and say you are both just friends’ and keep it at that , if he wants you to be his girlfriend and wants to make you both official then his ass needs to open up to you and make it official , but as of now you are both just friends’ with benefits

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic meet-the-family jitters! 😅 First off, remember that they've invited you, which means you're special to him. That’s a pretty big step, so congratulations! Meeting the family can feel like a mini-series of lovebombing episodes – in your head, filled with "What ifs?", but try to relax. Charm them with your genuine self, spark up with your radiant smile, and let your comfort be your guide. Have confidence that you’re worth knowing, both as his special someone and as a person. Just avoid overthinking – your brain is a sneaky ninja like that sometimes! 😊 And remember, his family probably just wants to know the amazing person he's been sneaking around with! 💃 Good luck!

[itsannalee]

What do you mean by messing around 🤔?

[Asker]

Like I said messing around having sex

[In_Trance]

Wdym messing around?