How do you feel around someone you’re in love with vs only physically attracted to?

[KezHarris]

Do you feel more comfortable around the person you’re in love with?

[BullShark]

I don't think comfort has anything to do with how attracted you are to someone. You could be way more comfortable around a friend of yours who you always saw as a sibling, and then, you could be a sweating, nervous wreck around your crush; fumbling all over your own words with your heartbeat echoing inside your head. Especially when you're overthinking everything you do and worried how they'll feel about you. This is what could happen when you're physically attracted to someone.

Now as far as loving someone goes; that's a bit different for everyone. Most of us still have trouble understanding what loving someone or being loved actually is or how it's supposed to feel, and then there are others who confuse it with lust and think that those first few weeks and months of their relationship aka the "honeymoon phase" is what true love is, but that's far from the truth. If you were to ask me, I'd say loving someone goes much, much deeper than simply being attracted to someone physically, and having somewhat of a connection with them.

My mom would tell me that true love happens when both partners see each others' faults and undergo tough challenges together as a couple; like having a heated argument over something you disagree on, or trying to survive some financial problems together. That's when your love for one another truly shines; the comfort you find in one another and the way you become each other's strength and pushing through towards the better times is what love really is. It's like finals week in school as an average student; you're not as well prepared, you're nervous, and you think you're gonna fail. But you work hard and end up passing with flying colors instead

[Purpleronnie]

I feel that being in love is at least an emotional and romantic attraction perhaps even coupled with intellectual , aesthetic and sexual attraction. Whereas sexual attraction by definition is merely just the sexual arousal or lust directly related to being around them or that desire to engage in sexual activity with them. So I’d suggest if you don’t know all of what you feel and how it fits the bigger picture then you can’t claim to be in love with someone or just be attracted to them on another level such as intellectually , emotionally or aesthetically.


I’d say often people mis-interpret their own feelings through inexperience , maturity or just lack of understanding and how to define what it is that they are feeling, perhaps feeling like they just ‘like’ being around a person rather than realizing that it’s an emotional attraction. It also works in reverse likely even more commonly when your feelings are so strong aesthetically that you misinterpret those as a romantic or sexual attraction but wonder why it falls apart or doesn’t gel as it should and you don’t “click” as a couple.


Love is used interchangeably so often between your love for your pet , your job , your car , your parent (s) your partner that I’m not at all surprised people get hung up on how to truly know your “in love” but for me at least it’s about the culmination of many of those attraction types. I need to be at the core emotionally connected for love which doesn’t have to be true for sex.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Feeling comfortable is everything. I am kind of shy and it's difficult for me to really feel relaxed and at ease around people. To feel like I can let my hair down and not be "on" 100% of the time is essential. I'm not talking about being a deadbeat, just feeling like I am accepted when I'm not perfect. I mean, if we're being real, eventually we are going to have a cold around this person, potentially be pregnant, have a breakout, etc. We have to know it's deeper than physical attraction if it's going to last. I'm not saying we should change into a completely different person and go from being a model to being 300lbs and laying around all day, but we will be less than perfect at times, and someday (gasp) we'll be old.

[WhitneySnow]

Butterflies in my stomach and all starry eyed. Just physically attracted I’m like “Oh they’re cute/pretty.” If they’re really hot I might get horny, but I won’t act on it. If I’m in love or a serious crush, I’ll feel all those things plus what I said in the first sentence.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, lovebirds and chemistry kings and queens! 🥰 As a relationship guru, I can tell you that being in love is like snuggling in a cozy blanket—with your heart. Feeling comfortable and safe? That's the love magic! Physical attraction feels like fireworks and butterflies but might lack the comfy sweater feels. It's all chemistry vs. deep connection, darling. 💘

[HawkPerception]

It doesn't matter how physically attracted I am to a girl. She could be the most physically attractive girl in the world. If she has a shitty personality, I want nothing to do with her.

When it's a girl I love, I'd die for her. I only want her happiness and envision a future together.

[molonski2]

Its not a black/ white answer because it depends how long you have been with this person you are " in love " with , that becomes vastly different , its familiar , its security , its financial , it may mean family , but none of that means that you are not attracted to others , there is not just this " magical " person , so on the assumption that you wish to maintain this " love " , then you dont act on the attraction , but with the test of time you will become far more " silly , flustered " etc etc , with the attraction than you will this magical love interest.

Now , that's tough to understand in your early 20s , but this will eventually happen to all , and that is temptation , no matter what anyone claims , its exciting , probably not better long term but exciting.. The hazards of life.

So this is reverse answer of possibly what you are referring to , but its fact.

[slickrick6600]

Around someone I’m in love with feel so nervous and I forgot what words are. I feel all tingly inside and like a dog pawing at the door because I’m so excited to see them. Someone I’m attracted to is nice to see and I don’t feel a lot other than just Normal happy.

[andreasderjuengere]

''In love'' is a much misused term.

When I ''love'' someone, then a mental attraction is added to the physical attraction.

How I feel? - well: like being at the right place with the right person and with the right things in common. And with no intentions to (ever?) change this arrangement?

[HungTexan]

For me, I’m in love with my wife and I’m very comfortable with her in all circumstances. As far as women I might be physically attracted to, I’m generally just myself — maybe a little anxious (sexual tension) if I don’t know that well.

[exitseven]

Yes, if you are in love with her it makes me feel more comfortable. If it is somebody I just have a physical attraction with there is more of an edge to the relationship.,

[Roldrake]

I have no capacity for love so I just hump em and dump em! But they do feel loved during the hump part ;)

[SleepingHazard]

Love: awkward, nervous, silent.

Attracted: flirty, funny, more approachable.

[Anonymous]

When it’s sexual lust that is all I feel when in love however I’m able to feel that connection without focusing on my dick the whole time. If that makes sense

[Friendlybro79]

It's the same as physical attraction and more which is awesome.

[Anonymous]

ideally they should be both otherwise it's a recipe for cheating and infidelity

[shortster]

I feel much more comfortable with someone who I love versus someone who I am attracted to.

[Ferngully2000]

How do you feel when attracted then? Like more nervous?

[shortster]

Anxious and horny.

[Ferngully2000]

Ok thanks

[shortster]

You're welcome

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

With being in love with her physical attraction is a big part of our love together but it is not the best part.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Actually, if they're buxom birds, I want to lay the Brady on both !!!

[Dargil]

Love is sentimental. Attraction is urgent.

[FunkyMonkee]

FANFUCKINGTASTIC!!

[Anonymous]

It's quite similar for me.

[robocop666]

there is no difference