I have an ugly side about myself and it seems like my partner doesn’t want to stay?

[Anonymous]

So i guess there's an ugly side about me i get angry and use a hurtful tone and some language with others without realizing it. so i had an argument with my partner and i used a hurtful tone cause i was feeling emotional about something. after nearly two years i fought for the first time and he immediately didn’t want me back.

he isn’t calling or texting back and i didn’t want to say im sorry cause i felt angry at him for a reason.

im 33 but it feels like men just can't seem to ever accept my ugly side no matter how nice or kind i can be.

what is it that makes men really fall in love with a woman?

can someone with an ugly side ever get a life partner?

i get that changing is important but i feel like there just this side of me thats just there and its who i am.

[PeachyPie93]

No idea.. depends on how ugly you get.. like are you are saying stuff that has nothing or little to do with what you are upset about? Like you're so stupid and you have a little dick, or something demeaning him? If so most people won't stand by you.
Like I was living with my partner after dating for 2 years and sure we fought but it was nothing that serious.. and we were always buddies again after an hour or two.. we were together for 12 years.
Not sure what it is like now with dating because I don't bother but I think guys can handle fights if it is sensible, if you can't argue without being a complete and utter bitch work on yourself and stop making excuses like why can't a guy accept my dark side..

[Asker]

i didn’t say stupid or small dick.

i told him to take his bullshit and get out of my face and dont fuckin speak to me again.

[Asker]

his younger sister was being rude to me but i felt like he didn’t stop defending her

[PeachyPie93]

Well "don't fuckin speak to me again" sounds like you broke up with him.. so yeah that would probably make someone walk away from you.. but most people are going to protect their family members, that's the shit thing so if you are mad at a family member rage about it to your friends.. Plus if she is only being rude to you no need to get mad about it just be rude back to her lol

[Malwi93]

[Malwi93]

without realizing it? thats itneresting

[NathanDavis]

hmmm, I do feel like a lot of context is missing here...

for example, was it brandishing a knife while shouting with an angry tone also present or... what was this fight about?

sometimes is not exactly about how you say things or how angry you are but... what you actually say and how much did you mean it, or not at all... lol

[chilldude33]

Work on fixing your mental issues. If you're 33 and are going to date men who are approaching middle age, ain't nobody got time and patience for those outbursts.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love and those pesky emotions! My aim here on GirlsAskGuys is to sprinkle some relationship wisdom. We all have our "ugly" sides, but it's about managing them and making sure they don't define us. Apologizing, when ready, can be a relationship game-changer. Falling in love is about connection, communication, and understanding—not perfection! Men often crave authenticity, vulnerability, and that irresistible spark. You totally can snag a life partner with an "ugly" side; it's about self-awareness and growth. And remember, everyone has their unique quirks! 🥰

[Anonymous]

You seem to be accepting your "ugly side" and resigning yourself to he notion that you can't change. You can, you just need to be serious about it. I would also suggest anger management counseling.

[Anonymous]

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Oh sorry, I didn't mean to laugh. That's just my ugly side.