Is it easier for guys to get over a breakup after a serious long relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I brokeup almost 3 months, (we were together for 7 years) , the first couple weeks, we still talked on the phone, but I felt very painful and sad every time we finished talking. So I stopped calling him and he didn't call me either. We have no contact for 7 weeks now. During these 7 weeks, I've tried very hard to let go and not to think of him, but it's extremely difficult to cut him off my life. As time past, my pain is getting less now, but I still think of him everyday. On my birthday, he didn't send me birthday wish, not even a Christmas greetings. I did send him a simple email and text message to wish him merry Christmas, but he never responded. Does it mean that he has already gotten over this breakup and moved on ? & years of serious relationship is a long time. But to me he seems like he already has ? Is it easier for guys to get over a breakup than women ?

[worldwanderlust]

I am still licking my wounds after 6 months so I don't think men are any better then women. I think it may be easier for the person who was distancing themselves in the relationship before the break-up. My break-up was pretty mutual (gf of 4 /2 years) but she had been obviously less into it then me for a while. My guess is that your ex had been distancing himself for awhile but is no doubt still hurt. He probably is just abiding by some sort of no contact rule that a lot of people swear by. In a lot of ways, no contact helps not thinking about the person. I still think about my ex everyday but it is a lot more intense or hurtful every time we have even the slightest bit of contact. I guess my advice would be stop trying to read his mind and go on with your life. Obviously this is easier said then done and I sometimes /i can't even follow my own advice.

[Atomizer]

Breakups are hard on both partners. But because guys usually handle it differently than girls doesn't mean we get over it any quicker, or that it hurts any less. women _show_ their emotions easier than men do, but men feel just as many emotions.

In my case, I don't want to be friends with her after a break up, don't want to talk to her, don't want to see her for a long, long time. it's too painful. if an ex emailed me only 3 months after the breakup of a 7 year relationship, I'd think twice about writing back. not because I don't care about her, but but because it might stir up too many emotions.

[KittyMeow]

Im sorry to hear about ur situation. It hurts a whole lot. I myself is also broken up about 3 months ago. I'm hurting a whole lot. Seems like we are on the same boat. It was a sad december, xmas and bday because there was no love, he won't open his heart. Anyways, As for your question, it really depends on a person. Guys are emotional too, but many of them don't know how to express it. It gets more difficult when a guy just closes of completely while all you wanted is to open up and get some emotion out of him. Why did you guys breakup? Was there cheating (sex) involved? Was there constant fighting? Its a tough question because people change feelings/attitudes/beliefs and people do act different depending on their "title" A guy can choose to be the same or he can just blow you off and be cold to you.

[redheadbabygirl]

it's not so much a matter of guy versus girl as to the speed with which they get over a breakup as it is personality. I think girls are bred to be more sensitive, as it's more socially acceptable for them to be, so from that angle, I guess guys might get over it or appear to get over it more quickly. But it really depends on the guy.

[everett520]

Wow, that is rough. I would say it depends on the person more so than the gender in dealing with break ups. I think by not responding to your texts, he is attempting to make a clean break. It doesn't mean that he doesn't think of you also, just that he is attempting to move on with his life. Judging simply based on how long you were both together, I seriously doubt he is "over you."

[Romanticguy1988]

Women and men are equal.

Women are no doubt more emotional..thought men cover up most of the time their feelings. The answer is no.. Men don't recover from serious relationship any faster than women... It always depends..everyone is individual.

[Anonymous]

We're human beings as well! We have feelings too ... it's just that we're good at covering up those feelings that we have inside.