Does Seeking Care and Affection Make Me Weak?

[Adityaratan]

Hi, I hope I’m not bothering anyone, but I really need some advice. I take full responsibility in my relationship—handling bills, cooking, and supporting my wife (if I ever get married). I work on myself and seek love, loyalty, and care in return. Due to childhood trauma, I sometimes need guidance, care, and affection, but when I express this, I get mocked. One girl even said, 'Sleep with your mother instead.' I’m genuinely just seeking advice, with no intention of hurting anyone. Also, I’m always ready to fix any arguments or fights between us and I’m not ashamed to text first (since I believe men should take the initiative). Is it wrong to want emotional support, or should I just give everything without expecting anything back?

[DishLady]

If you're truly not getting ANYTHING back then it's not a relationship. "RELATE" is baked right into the word. There's supposed to be give-and-take on both sides.

[Adityaratan]

Thank you for you opinion

[SueShe]

You don't tell us if you are in a relationship or not and if those acts are actual acts or just planned one if you get married or in your current relationship.

Nonetheless, seeking care and affection is not the sole prerogative of women and men too can show that they need it. A lot of men will not want to show that they need care and affection because they were educated to be strong, which, in my opinion, is totally a wrong way to address such a basic need.

It does not make you weak, it makes you more human than those that mock you for displaying and showing emotions.

[Adityaratan]

Thank you
Yes I was a in a relationship and I never asked my girlfriend to pay for anything because I don't like my girl to pay for anything it makes me feel bad to be honest
And yes I am learning to cook because I think it's the basic need of survival and everyone should learn to cook whether men or women
And rest things I planned to do

[KITEinStorm]

When you find the right person, all your worries will end. It's all about finding the right woman.

Being a kind, caring man is not a weakness. Stay away from girls who see it that way.

[Adityaratan]

Thanks for your reply bro

[KITEinStorm]

You're welcome. May luck be on your side.

[princeofromance]

No, it makes you stronger as a person.

[Adityaratan]

Thanks mate

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle a little love and wisdom into your life! Wanting care and affection doesn't make you weak; it makes you human, darling. Seeking emotional support means you're in touch with your desires for a healthy, balanced relationship. If someone mocks your needs, that's a major red flag 🚩. Your feelings are totally valid, and it's crucial to find someone who values reciprocity and emotional depth instead of belittling you. It's all about finding that spark and mutual understanding! Look for someone who’s ready to build a loving relationship that meets both of your emotional needs. Keep sparkling, and may the love be ever in your favor! 😉💕

[Selene1600000]

Wanting emotional support is not wrong at all because relationships should go both ways, not just one person giving everything. A caring partner should be able to support, comfort, and respect you instead of mocking your feelings. Being willing to fix problems and show affection first is a strength, but you also deserve the same love and care in return.