Why do I crave affection?

[DarkWolfGal]

So, before anyone starts saying "Just focus on your studies instead of relationships" just hear me out. I've always had this longing for affection. It's not sexual. I just want someone to cuddle me, tell me I'm beautiful. It's probably because I've never really had any affection from my family. Sure my mum loves me a lot but my brother... I hate him so much. It's a deep hatred that I'd rather not explain. Anyway, I want affection from people who aren't related to me. I've felt like this for a long time. When some girls at my school fiddle with my hair (It's curly and people find it funny to ping the little ringlets) I enjoy it. And sometimes when my friends draw on my arms (We have little wars where we draw on each others arms) I secretly hope they would keep going. It's not just with girls. (I'm straight by the way). I've never really had a boyfriend before and I always just wish I had someone to cuddle with. And when I see people in my high school walking hand in hand it just... gets to me. Can someone give me advice? I don't really feel close enough to any of my friends to talk to them about it. (We've recently moved up to high school. New friends) And please no negative comments. =)

[FakeName123]

"It's probably because I've never really had any affection from my family."

You pretty much got the answer yourself right there. Since you never had it, it amplifies your need even moreso. Nothing wrong abuot the need though as long as it doesn't become an obsessive necessarity.

Also a lack of self-love can easily amplify the need from other peoples affection as well.

[ThunderButt83]

if its not with sexual desire, than it seems your still in that child stage where you need mommy and daddy.

[DarkWolfGal]

I don't have a dad... =(

[ThunderButt83]

it seems your longing for a loving father figure.

[BellePepper]

Because you've been consuming too much garbage media. You're at the point where you only see worth in yourself if other people value you instead of only needing YOU to value you.

[HOAAH]

Hormones, and you need to focus on yourself before focusing on someone else's life. Value your self, learn to love yourself.

[Luvme66]

i had that same feeling when i was you age... WHEN you grow up (2 more years) you will find some friends who makes you feel comfortable to talk about anything... till then you have to hold onto your self... by the way even if you find such friends remember they are temporary... because who knows you would care about them and they neglect you in return...

patience... i am open to listening what you want to say... and YES everyone at some point of their life crave attention! :)

[TCJ1234567]

You crave attention because you are human. We all do to some degree or another. It is natural, just don't do foolish things to get that attention.

[plae2345]

i think you just need to meet that right person and create the right chemistry and things will work out with time and patience