Am I being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

The guy I love recently got reconciled with his girl bestfriend and now he was asked by the girl to accompany them to travel abroad to serve as a tour guide. He knew the girl had feelings for him, I got jealous. Something shifted since they got reconciled and it hurts me that he would spend more time with her than with me unlike before.

If you are in my situation, will it be a deal-breaker for you? Or you would just let it be? I am confused since I am kinda all in whenever I fall in love. Thank you.

[DishLady]

This seems weird. You two are in your 30s? He should know better. Talk to him about it and if he is not understanding about why you're uncomfortable with him traveling with these people then you should consider cutting him loose and finding a new person for yourself who is able to consider your feelings.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion, I believe you are right, we must sit to talk about this instead of avoiding the issue

[DishLady]

Yeah... You def don't deserve to be treated that way!

[Asker]

Thank you for being kind 🥹 and take care 🫶

[Abbycado]

Unless I had a reason not to trust, I’d leave it be. My boyfriend has other girl friends as I have guy friends.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your opinion, maybe I am just insecure. I avoided my guy friends since he tends to get jealous with them while he has girl friends.

[Abbycado]

He should be accepting just as you are about your friends. Even though there might be some insecurity, he needs to get over the jealousy.

You’re allowed to have guy friend like he should be able to have girl friends. Should work both ways.

[Asker]

Thanks abbycado, I am just worried though I trust him. I've read something about avoiding temptations instead of playing with it, since he was aware that his friend had feelings with him, it just doesn't sit right with me.

[Abbycado]

No, I understand the worry. It’s easy to say not to, but I get why, especially if the girl has feelings for him. That needs to be addressed and by him to her. That’s only fair he be honest with her.

[Asker]

Thank you abbycado 🥹 I am like going crazy thinking if I am being unreasonable ahuhuhu, thank you so much, rooting for you too, take care 🫶

[Abbycado]

Thanks! You take care as well and good luck. 💕

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, you're in the kind of situation I dive into daily! I totally get your concerns. It's like inviting a trio and forgetting to book a table for three. A little jealousy is completely natural when your person is spending time with someone who once had feelings for them. If something's changed since they patched things up, you have every right to feel sensitive about it. Have a heart-to-heart with him and express your feelings, but try to keep things chill and not an intense episode of Real Housewives! Remember, love requires honesty and trust more than anything. Keep it conversational, and see how things go. 💌 Trust your instincts, and good luck!