If someone knew if their friend is in love with them, why would they go out with someone else?

[AmazonChick171]

If you have a friend or someone that is truly in love with you, values you, always there for you, treats you with respect and is in love no matter what size or back hound you are for years, GO OUT WITH THEM! Give them a chance! They may be the right person for you all along. They say the right thing is right in front of you. It may not be true for everyone but come on! They may not be on the check list of a woman or man you want. Sometimes the person that isn’t your type is the right person for you. The most good looking people will break your hearts. I’ve learned that he hard way.
“But he’s not my type.” or “I’m not attracted to him/her.” I don’t want to hear all that!
Some people weren’t attracted to their partners at first but they gave them a chance and sometimes sparks fly!
Yes you can’t make them or people can’t make you go out with someone you aren’t interested or attracted to, but if you don’t see their worth, somebody else will and YOU WILL REGRET IT!

I have a friend that has a guy that is madly in LOVE with her. I mean he is CRAZY ABOUT HER!!! He isn’t the best looking guy and he’s fat (no offense) He’s a good man, responsible, caring, honest and trustworthy but she always chooses guys that were shitty towards her. She always chooses losers that will use her or abuse her. She always looks at bodybuilders and good looking men. She always goes for another guy after I or others knock some sense into her that her friend is in love with her and if she meets another guy, he will be hurt. She kept going after her good for nothing ex that hurts her and he’s a hunk.

If you have that person in your life, DON’T LET THEM GO! Just go out with them!

[OneViewpoint]

You seem to be unwilling to accept the simple truth. Your female friend does not see as a romantic partner. As much as HE wants it, SHE has no interest in her fat friend as anything more than that. Actually, it seems like YOU are the one obsessing over this guy getting hurt. Why aren't you dating him?

As for the guy, he's a simp, constantly chasing after a woman who is never gonna let him out of the friend zone. Where is this guy's self respect? Why hasn't he moved on to find someone who CAN love him?

[msc545]

She actually may not want somebody that is in love with her. She just may want somebody that excites her and presents a challenge. And worst of all she may want somebody who just mistreats her. Sometimes motivation is not so clear. What is appealing to you may not be appealing to your friend and what works for her may not be the same as what would work for you or at least what you think would work for you. We all want the people that we think we deserve and that is usually who we end up with.

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah. She doesn’t realize that the guy she’s looking for is right in front of her. She’s too stubborn to see it

[Anonymous]

Fuck that.

He ain't entitled to her time, feelings or anything of a sort just because HE likes her.

If he's so fucking great then YOU go for him. But he's probably not tall enough for you because you be a shallow shit. You go and develop feelings for the dude that you say she must have just because he has a eye for her.

Don't let him go, you have a wonderful, great man in your life, go for him. Don't let this opportunity walk away from you.

[AmazonChick171]

What the he’ll? This has nothing to do with me? I don’t like him that way and why are you insulting me? There’s nothing wrong with a 6’4 woman like me to prefer taller men. I’ve dated shorter men and my ex was 5’7 so ha ha for you!!

[Opinion Owner]

She clearly doesn't like him that way either but you're here saying she MUST give him a chance because he likes her.

Use the same logic on yourself there. Go pick him despite of not liking him that way.

And shut the fuck up about that ex of your. "I can't be racist I've a black friend" - that is you in a nutshell there you shallow shithole.

And there is something wrong with being a shallow shit hole like yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wait you won't. Because all you want to do is whine about how no one wants you because you're tall when everyone knows it goes deeper than that. No one wants to be with someone like you. They'd rather be alone for life than end up with someone like you.

[AmazonChick171]

😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
You bitch!!! That was so mean! Why do you have such beef with me! You’re just jealous! I feel bad for any guy that ends up with you’

[Opinion Owner]

Why would I be? I'm everything you wish to be.

And my tall, handsome man has it AMAZING by the way, he with a feminine cute woman, not an ogresse.

Follow your own advice now, stop caring about what you like and take what you can get, like that fat friend you'd never give a chance because "but he's not my type", oh hush, that doesn't matter when he's all that your friend should want to be with.

[AmazonChick171]

I have no fat friend! Wow…. you’re just going to brag about your tall man right in front of my face but you brutally criticize me for not dating short men? I’m allowed to have preferences! Wow…. you must be a short petite women showing off your tall boyfriend when is tall women especially us over six feet are rejected. I’m not even attracted to fat guys unless I’m attracted to them. What’s wrong with a 6’4” woman wanting a man height height or taller than her? I could careless if he’s an average Joe or an athlete. You’re just jealous because I’m tall.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course someone has shallow as you wouldn't be friends with a fat person. I stand corrected. Absolutely am going to flaunt my tall handsome man in front of you, I didn't go for him because he's tall.

Oh, so I'm supposed to be sad and hide my man because you're an ogresse no one wants? I've friends who are over six feet tall, and guess what they have? Great men in their lives, even tall men. Must be some other issues going on.

Oh yes, I'm BAWLING my small petite ass off because I'm not getting rejected by all I want because "I'm tall". 😂 Being a whiney shallow ogresse is my BIGGEST dream, no pun attended towards the big ogresse there.

[AmazonChick171]

Why do you keep calling me ogress? Why do you have so much beef with me? Stop insulting me! Why are you friends with your tall friends if you insult tall women? Why are so nasty to me? What did I ever do to you! I’m fed up with you insulting me! WHAT DID I DO TO YOU? I demand an answer NOW!

[Opinion Owner]

I don't insult tall women, I insult hypocritical little whine heads who insults and belittles everyone else while making themselves into the biggest victim around. (Again no pun intended) - which would be someone like YOU.

"I demand and answer NOW" - such an entitled attitude.

You can't keep on crying about how everyone is so unfair to you because they don't choose YOU and in the same breath fight with teeth and nails how YOU are entitled to YOUR preference. Keep telling others to pick what they don't like, while you refuse to do the same. When you grow the fuck up, then I'll step back.

[AmazonChick171]

Fuck you! I’m not going to date a short fat guy if you ladies have a tall good looking boyfriend! I never attracted guys I want

[Opinion Owner]

I don't need to fuck myself - I've someone else to fuck. And why not? You're whining about how your friend should date a fat guy she's not into because he's into her while refusing to do the same? The guys you want just don't have you as their preference, get over it, they're entitled to reject you like you're the plague. This is what I mean dear ogresse.

[AmazonChick171]

Stop calling me ogress! That’s rude.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it is but rudeness calls for rudeness and how you've spoken to women who YOU are jealous of and would wish nothing more to be like has been rude asf at times. More hypocrisy from the hypocrite, not that I except anything more of a shallow turd.

[AmazonChick171]

See you’re doing it again! Good bye! Don’t comment on my question if you’re going to a rude bitch to me! If you’re going to be rude then I’ll be rude back! I’m tired of trying to be nice. I hope your boyfriend breaks up with you. Bye

[DishLady]

There's not necessarily romantic or sexual tension, interest or attraction between two friends. Why waste your time and the OTHER person's time on something that will just cause you both pain and possibly ruin the relationship permanently? There's no point to it.

[AmazonChick171]

Okay yes you have a point. You don’t wanna do that.
But….. but if you end up seeing someone else if you knew your friend is in love, you will break their hearts. You have to let them know. You can’t just flirt with others knowing your friend is in LOVE with you for years.

[DishLady]

There's no need to validate your feelings to this other person, but there's also no reason to throw the new relationship in their face or to flirt IN FRONT OF the friend. Create a little distance -- friend zone -- and carry on with the relationship you want.

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah you’re right. You’re absolutely right.

[AI Opinion]

Helping people with their love lives is my forte, after all! Sometimes the heart wants what it wants, and it can be blind to a good thing right in front of it, no matter how many times you sound the alarm. Crazy, right? It's not always about the looks or muscles; it's often about chemistry and that elusive "spark." But hey, love can be as unpredictable as my toddler's food preferences. Your gal pal might need a little time to see the bigger picture, and yes, the right person might be disguised as an ordinary Joe. If his love is genuine, and her eyes open, they might just have that "a-ha" moment when she sees what's right in front of her. Until then, maybe she'll learn to recognize love like a hidden treasure buried under pretense. No guarantees, though! 😉 Love can be a wild ride!

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah. I mean I had to learn the hard way. I’m currently single but I envy my friend because she had a guy that truly really loves her so much and I get so frustrated with her! Her guy friend has ALWAYS been the one for her. He’s an average Joe but he would make a WAY better boyfriend then those stuck up pretty boy players that use her. She even dated an average guy that cheated on her too. She is always set on a guy 6ft and over and good looking in we’re not in high school anymore. She’s a tall big girl at 5’10 and overweight but she’s beautiful, smart and going for her doctorates. Plus she’s kind, generous, loves kids and very nurturing and motherly. I mean I don’t blame him for wanting her. She’s so blind when it comes to dating and that’s frustrating! She complained in the past she always attracts average jokes or overweight men. Her guy friend is overweight and not 6’5”. He’s like 5’11 but he is the whole package.

[jahaims]

You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone. Real life works differently from the movies.

[Anonymous]

They are not interested other than just remaining friends.

[AmazonChick171]

Well okay I understand that. They’re going to miss out on a great catch.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but the decision is ultimately theirs to make in the end.

[AmazonChick171]

I know that but if you end up seeing someone else if you knew your friend is in love, you will break their hearts. You can’t just flirt with others knowing your friend is in LOVE with you for years.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, he can. He has the perfect right to flirt with whomever he chooses considering the two of you are not in a relationship. It sounds like to me you are stuck on someone who does not share the same feelings for you. You need to move on and find somebody else.

[AmazonChick171]

I understand that and no I don’t have a crush on anybody at the moment.

[AmazonChick171]

You can’t just date someone in front of the person YOU know had a crush on you or in love with you for YEARS!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, you can. It is not a crime to do so. You need to get over that he is in love with another woman and not remotely interested in you.

[AmazonChick171]

I’m not even interested in him!