Can I get advices about the guy I like?

[Pink_Strawberry]

Ik this question can sound stupid and ik a lot of people can tell me to look for someone else and bla bla bla.

There's this guy i love, we are both adults and he is not just my crush but he is also my first love (not just a guy i have feelings.. like i had with other guys). We met online a few months ago, we became friends and after some time we started flirting and things got spicy between us, we were and still are very close but last week he messaged me to not flirt with him because he met someone else by the way we live in different places but i had plans on visiting him.

Since i started having feelings for him i let him know that and he always told me he liked me too, also the day he broke my heart and told me he was seeing someone he also told me he likes me too, i think our biggest problem was the distance but i was going to see him and even planning to move with him if he wanted me to.

I love this guy and he told me he still likes me, he told me he isn't serious with this girl yet and i wanted advices on how to maybe get him back and make him see me that i love him and i'm willing to leave everything to be with him, i told him i could wait for him and here i am but i do want him back, i feel so depressed, lonely, feeling low, i feel miserable because i do love him and i wish he could see that, i think he can just be insecure about our distance but i want to prove him i love him and we can be together.

i want advices that can work naturally, nothing that forces me to flirt or being dirty with him or at least nothing that shows that i'm trying to be like that.

I just want to be with the man i love.

(and please don't judge me or anything and also you can ask anything if you need to understand better)

[PeachyPie93]

Sadly he only likes you and isn't feeling you. If he was he would want you the same way you want him and he would make it happen. The fact that he isn't trying for you or even thinking about trying for you shows how little he is invested or interested. Move on and let him go it will save you time and a more devastating heartbreak.

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

That sounds unfortunate but if we’re being realistic LDRs almost never work out. Your best bet is to drop him and let him see this other person and you should go and look elsewhere. Guys love attention from females, same way females love attention from guys, and he’s feeding off of it, it’s easy for a guy to tell you he loves and values you when he doesn’t mean it. You’ll save yourself a lot of wondering and heartbreak if you cut him out now

[Pink_Strawberry]

But we weren't in a LDR yet, we just had a "thing" going on and i was planning to visit him and he was excited for this, i would visit him for 2 weeks and we would see if being together would work for us, then we would start a LDR for a short period of time until i get everything i needed to move to his country. He still likes me at least he told me and he keeps complimenting me all the time. I love him a lot, i won't be able to stop loving him and all i want is him back. Oh and he said he's not in a relationship, he doesn't know how serious is going to be and he just said he doesn't want to flirt, be spicy or show any love just for now.

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

I really hate to be the bearer of bad news but he’s playing you. It sounds like he was love bombing you and now he’s bread crumbing you. Run away fast.

[Pink_Strawberry]

well i don't think so, it's impossible to give context of everything but when you see our conversations and our video calls he was definitely not love bombing me

[HungTexan]

To begin with, if you haven’t actually met him in person, how can you be in love with him? Maybe arrange to meet and see what happens!

[Abbycado]

So you are in love with a guy that is in a relationship and you haven't met. 💀

[Pink_Strawberry]

no, when we met he wasn't in a relationship, he still not in a relationship he just meeting someone and he just haven't met in person because we live a few countries aways but we video call all the time and talk to each other 24/7

[AI Opinion]

Hey love, it sounds like you're deep in the feels, and hey, emotions tend to throw us for a loop, right? One thing's for sure: love's a wild ride and sometimes we crash into the distance dilemma. 🥺 But hey, you've got to look out for those red flags. If he's already started something with someone else, it’s vital to respect his space. Yeah, it stings, but trying to "win" someone back might not work like you hope, and could make things tricky. Focus on you, keep those vibes positive, and let actions speak louder than words. If it's meant to be, the universe will work its magic. 🌟 Take care of you first, because you deserve all the love, including from yourself!

[StevenMcGarrett]

Make a plan to go to him. Then show up and tell him how you feel. I would suggest being friends with the new girl. Keep your enemies closer.

[Pink_Strawberry]

well I don't know where he lives, I don't know who's the girl. We don't live in the same country lol

[StevenMcGarrett]

You really love him and you don't know where he lives? That is going to be a problem. Can you ask him?

[Pink_Strawberry]

I do know where he live like state and town but not the address, i never asked because he lives with other people and it would be creepy if I asked for his address

[StevenMcGarrett]

Well, do you love him enough to ask him the address?

[Ariesman81]

You sound absolutely perfect