Can I get some guy's advice?

[Anonymous]

So my guy friend and I called 2 nights ago and he told me that he likes me and I told him that I like him too. We are spiritual together and he sent me this message before we called "Hey I want to say that I am sorry for never being serious when talking about love. The truth is that I am a big coward. I am not saying this to get sympathy or anything. It's a big sin I struggle with. I am afraid of hurting people because I am not completely sure what love is. I know that sounds crazy but I doubt that in my whole life I have actually loved a woman the way God created me to. I want God to teach me how to love... So please be patient with me..." obviously I'm like being such a girl and so like 🥰🥰🥰 so we talked and said we both like each other. But then the next day we are texting and he tells me he wants to ask me a question, I said sure what is it. Then he says "Well there's this girl at work and I want to share the gospel with her, I just don't know how to do it, Should I just tell her if she want to get coffee?" I'm like what? He's asking me about this, about asking a girl out basically. I just dont know about it I'm confused about him now what is your guys opinion?

[quaranta]

Be careful: when a guy describes his flaws or limits, they are usually true, and not a way to be comforted through the opposite. This guy is telling you that he is bad at managing his feelings and to slow down, he is unsure to reciprocate feelings and knows he can hurt people. Take it for a what it is: possibly an avoidant person.
Avoidant people give a huge amount of mixed, opposite signals, and can jump from a person to another overnight as a defense mechanism after getting intense feelings, to regain control (this, assuming he wants to ask her out as you fear, but of course it could be just casual and there is nothing else behind).
Further: confessing feelings and reciprocating them doesn't automatically mean wanting a relationship afterwards or strenghtening the bond. It usually follows up like that but he might have no actual intention with you, just casual "liking". It's something to consider until he is explicit about what he wants with you (you could ask him).
Don't let him give you too many mixed signals though. If you play along with an avoidant (if he is) you'll find yourself overthinking, trying to put a sense through all things that don't make sense with each other, struggling and investing a lot of emotional health in there.
If you find yourself too confused or overthinking, ask clarity, direct questions.
In this case: ask him what are his intention with her, if she likes her. If yes, then ask him what are his intentions with you instead.

[MrHopper]

I think it was some miscommunication, he was talking to you as a friend and saying he wants to open up to you that he has problems being honest about love and when you talk about it you might need to be patient with him.

[Asker]

I told him I understand and everything. Then I asked him why he told me all that tho and he called me and told me he likes me and I confessed that i did too. But my problem is the next day he tells me he wants to share the gospel with a girl from his work, and he asks me if I should ask her out to coffee. I just am confused because he wants to ask a girl out after not even 24 hrs ago he told me he likes me. It's just bad timing

[MrHopper]

hmmm... sounds a bit strange, unless he actually means he really does want to share gospel with this person because he views that they need it over other people

[Asker]

He does love to share the gospel with everyone. He was one of the people that converted me. So I know that he most likely really does want to share the gospel. Maybe I'm just overthinking because it's a girl. I wish he was talking about a guy dang lol.

[MrHopper]

I understand! I used to care about such things but then after dating a couple of bi sexual girls you just end up learning to not worry about it else it will drive you crazy! :)