Do the people who cheat usually just think it's not that bad or know it's really bad but just have no self-control?

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If you have cheated, please share. I'm really curious. I've been overhearing some people talk about cheating like it's normal and okay, so I was wondering.

LONERLONLEY666 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion its more of a girl thing, they are wired to find the best mate possible, so they can't help but have a slight itch if somthing better comes around, guys receive the lable too, (typically when they are young and or dumb) but iv never seen one of my guy friends cheat, (i only have friends with integrity and they aren't dumb) but its always been the girls in my life i have seen cheat or entertain (the thought of) guys tend to gain their identity through pride and other things, were as girls want to be wanted and cared for, this one girl a week ago who i thought forsure wanted me ( always approaches me, always flirted in little ways (rembered little comments i made to her and spun them back on me in flirtatious ways months later) (telling me a i need a mexican girlfriend)(she's mexican) (catching gazes from across the room) (begging me to stay when i have to go) giving me all the signs basically, just found out she has a boyfriend and it was a surprise to me because i thought she was a good girl. Iv had many friends gfs in the past flash me, grab at me, want to sit next to me, never have i experienced the men in my life display this kind of behavior when in a relationship (just personal experience) if you see this kind of stuff from a man they aren't a man, get rid of them they will waist your time until they grow up. Or maybe its as simple as (some just need to feel wanted more then others)

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Cheating is a selfish act period , the person that cheats only cares about themselves, they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. They can’t resist temptations. Cheaters always make excuses as to why they cheated, especially if they are caught red handed , if they aren’t caught red handed , they more than likely won’t tell the truth, unless they want to end the relationship with the person they cheated on. Overall most people cheat one way or another , cheating isn’t just physical , cheating can be emotional as well. Basically when a partner keeps secrets from their partner , they are cheating. If you are flirting with someone else without their partner knowing you are doing so? You are a cheater. Investing your time into someone other than your partner , makes you a cheater. Relationships and love only grows between 2 people that choose each other over everyone else in this world. By removing selfishness for each other and resisting temptations for each other , if you can’t resist temptations for your partner , then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them period , because there will always be someone more attractive then your partner is. Your partner should always be your top priority the same way your partner should be making you their top priority , if you are just a convenience, you are best to reconsider that relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For me it didn't feel that bad at the time, as it was happening. It was almost like I didn't realize what I was doing and I just went with it. But it didn't take long for me to realize what I had done, and how bad it was. I was weak at the time, so I voted B. I lost a really good guy and I wish so much that it never happened.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Likely it includes both of those things. I've never cheated, but once was in a relationship with a guy who duped me into moving away with him, only to find out the move was for him to meet up with another girl he knew. I was back home in short order.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the complex world of cheating! My aim is to help you understand relationship dynamics with a dash of humor and love. Many cheaters convince themselves it's not so bad, wooed by the thrill of the forbidden, while others take the "oops, no self-control" route. 🚦 It's often a cocktail of self-justification, desire, and sometimes even a cry for help. Respecting your partner and making conscious choices is key. Swerving those red flags saves a ton of heartache! 😉

Summeroflove · Answer

I’m not a cheater but it happens because of both dark personalities are indifferent as best and at work take pleasure in the fact that it’s wrong. As where when good people make poor choices they feel horrible for it some choose to take accountability for what they did as where others excuse as well as justify it to make themselves feel better.

Cheating is only normal to people who made it normal many people don’t start off thinking that it is until they have done it so many times that it’s become part of who they are. The opportunity arises for them to cheat and they jump at it.

People who cannot form genuine connections will cheat no matter what. So if you’re being used by someone you better believe so long as they have the ability to cheat they absolutely will.

AviatorTom · Answer

Research shows that most people cheat because of an opportunity to do so. They're not really thinking about anything.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Brains on drugs will be quite selfish and what's wrong can seem right. Our bodies squirt out our own drugs at times, based upon the situation... it is short lasting.

So they are thinking but not in their normal right mind. Once the drug wears off, the reality of life is presented again and it becomes an emotional mess. Thus, necessity to not take drugs, be careful with the natural drugs you have by maintaining good and appropriate boundaries to avoid getting into situations that are difficult if not impossible to resolve without suffering.

Communicationisking · Answer

I haven't cheated but I know people who do and the reasons vary quite a bit, the answers you have on your poll are not the top things they talk about. The most common reasons that are shared with me is that they don't feel they are getting what they want from a relationship they are or feel like they are trapped in. The other common reason is that it is in my understanding some kind of revenge or redemption because their partner did it to them.

hahahmm · Answer

It all boils down to biological attraction and not being able to say no. Otherwise instead of cheating people would just become really good at martial arts, become a nun... go hiking and so on.

Do people sometimes think it's not a big deal? Sure.

From a spiritual point of view, Jesus said even looking at another woman and lusting is the same as cheating. Most people want to ignore/forget this because it makes it harder to judge other people.

Cormac995 · Answer

Cheating is the 4th worst thing you can do to a person. The only time I'll sympathize with a cheater is if they're SO is being abused. 99% of the time cheaters are selfish bitches/bastards with no self control that are too narcissistic to truly care about someone you love. If you cheat you have turned every "I love you" into a lie, every kiss is now tainted every time you felt close from making love is perverted.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Cheating occurs when something is horribly wrong with the primary relationship. Yes, it is a lack of self-control, but it is also a failure to address the issues that inspired the cheating in the first place.

RavVid · Answer

I think no self control is really a lack of morals. Some people think that if the partner doesn't know it won't hurt them and it is ok to do it. So they are deceiving scum only concerned with what is good for them.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was in my twenties, I dated a lot of girls and had a lot of girlfriends. I used to cheat all the time. I didn't really have any feelings about it at all. I just never thought about it. It seemed normal and it was just so tempting I didn't give it a second thought.

alice55 · Answer

None of this they just don't care, they want to do it so they do it, cheater are extremely selfish individual who believe they can do what they want and don't care of the consequence.

NoOneEver · Answer

They make excuses for themselves and their bad behaviors. They believe it isn’t that bad because they’re not the ones being hurt. They’re the ones benefiting from the cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

Oldschool1981 WHY at age 43 do you have to say your wife had sex with 400 guys in your answers to every single question? NO ONE CARES and it's not even true anyway, you probably don't even have a wife.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

It's not a matter of self-control. The know it's wrong and they simply don't care that it's wrong. You don't accidentally fuck a total stranger.

dustybiker2 · Answer

It simply someone giving themselves permission to cheat.

Pet68 · Answer

It's probably a combination of both. I wouldn't know though, because I've never cheated and I don't ever plan on doing so, because I'm not a complete and utter slimeball.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

The word "cheat" alone implies that it is bad.

NathanDavis · Answer

no idea... but either way, they obviously don't care much

OneViewpoint · Answer

Sometimes we think it's justified and the best possible solution to a bad situation.

Elena85 · Answer

Both they think they’ll get away with it. I have zero tolerance for cheaters. My father was a cheater.

NicholasRedone · Answer

They think it's not that bad or this woman's finally showing me actual interest

DrPepper12 · Answer

That's EXACTLY it. No discipline for the artificial creation of monogamy. They know it's bad but they're selfish and dishonest. That's all.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

My wife has sex with lots of other guys. Sex is her favorite thing in the world. So long as she doesn't get pregnant, I don't see the problem

LiamJHayden · Answer

Neither. Those people are selfish and care far more about their own pleasure than they do about their partners.

orange_roach · Answer

Either way, they just plain don’t care if they hurt you.

Nightmoon23 · Answer

It’s only ok if the partner knows about it and gives permission

Anonymous · Answer

None of those It happens when the primary relationship breaks down. There no love. Needs not being met.

Kelley1 · Answer

They think it is okay when they cheat.

Jessie1103 · Answer

They don’t care til it happen to them.

MikeRJ · Answer

They are selfish.

Hanrej · Answer

One does not exclude the other.

robocop666 · Answer

Ask Tiger Woods

Anonymous · Answer

I did and I sincerely regret it

Lokiion · Answer

It's both

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