Do You Really Love Someone If You Cheat On Them? Why Do We Cheat On People We Love?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

If you cheat it's not love. Believe me, I was cheated on in a major, very public way that made me look and feel ridiculous for not spotting or knowing about it at all. And when it came down to the nitty gritty... he didn't love me or care what he was doing. He didn't love our kids or care what this would do to me. And when I chose to be a lady about it and not tell the kids WHY we were splitting up (his MASSIVE SERIAL infidelity along with physical abuse that led me to the ER on more than one occasion), he turned around and tried to tell them I was a hypocritical christian for filing a divorce. WOW... JUST WOW... It took years of therapy for the kids to learn which end was up thanks to that guy.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

They love their partner in their own ways I would say they're more attached to them but doubtful if it's real love. They surely feel good and comfortable with their partner but in the end they're selfish people caring about their own want before the one of their partner and such relationship cannot work in the long run.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends but someone who truly loves someone feels absolutely horrible when they cheat on someone but someone whose a dark personality are indifferent at best at worst they enjoy the betrayal getting off to it.

A lot of people who are good end up cheating so many times that they just eventually stop caring anymore unfortunately. Cheating is deeply painful and a horrible thing to do

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

The reasons are usually ridiculous so I won't list them or make a list. Revenge cheating I sort of understand since I've been in those shoes (I was trying to force her to leave me and let me go), but cheating for no reason beyond being greedy or just for the thrill doesn't make sense to me... but it does for a cheater. They justify it with all sorts of reasons.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim here is to help you navigate the wild, wild world of relationships! Cheating can be a tricky beast. It's absolutely possible to love someone and still, you know, wander off the path. People cheat for various reasons: lack of fulfillment, desire for novelty, or personal insecurities. It's not necessarily a reflection of the love you feel for your partner. But hey, if you find yourself in this situation, it's time for some serious reflection and honest communication. Ghosting on love never did anyone any good, right? 😉❤️

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AviatorTom · Answer

Remember that Love and Sex are two different things.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I think it's possible to love someone but still cheat on them if you feel they don't love YOU. Especially in marriage, because there is plenty of reason to not want to get a divorce. But generally speaking, the answer to this question should be such an obvious "no", because I feel in most cases when people love someone, they wouldn't want to do anything to hurt them.

Johnny Depp made an interesting comment, about choosing the second girl, because if you really loved the first girl, you wouldn't have cheated with the second girl. Although I think in many cases the guy ends up realizing that the first girl was better after all

IslaTheWitch · Answer

if I love him, I have no reason to cheat on him... I'm not turned on by people I don't have strong feelings for... :D

slatyb · Answer

Who knows? Who cares? We can't tell whether someone loves us. All we can know is their behavior. If they are behaving badly, it makes no difference if they say they love us.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, it frequently happens, but there are a million reasons why someone would cheat.

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's not complicated. Yes you can love someone n cheat on them. Cheating has to do with novelty, ego and the unknown. It has zero to do with intentionally hurting your loved one. Wanna solve it? Get rid of outdated monogamy ideas!

NicholasRedone · Answer

Intriguing. Some may say 👀 what about the exceptions like crushes or unrequited loves - hard to be mad at someone if there's no moves, "you never talked to me" Love Actually moments

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nope if you genuinely loved them then you wouldn't have done it to begin with and put both you and them in that situation in the first place.

Cormac995 · Answer

If you say tell someone you love them and you cheat you're a liar too. Simple as.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I can't because to me love is a commitment. Breaking that means the commitment was a lie and I am a liar.

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I always have to laugh at all of the complete new person I know I don't think anyone can love and hurt someone that much is not worth fixing it anymore

Anonymous · Answer

Men who do it maybe but when we women do it we are looking for a better man.

Kelly6 · Answer

Yes because love and sex are 2 different things

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Obviously the cheater does not love them. How is this even a question?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's certainly not a loving thing to do to backstab and betrayal someone's trust. To answer your question, no.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

"Cheat on people we life" that sounds like an oxymoron

Elena85 · Answer

They probably thinking they could get away with it. I have zero tolerance for cheaters.

MemeSupreme · Answer

you can love someone and be selfish

Anonymous · Answer

Is it cheating if you give them permission?

jahaims · Answer

You aren't in love if you can cheat

deniz_9 · Answer

nooo😭

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

rockhard9 · Answer

I just love sex.

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