When people cheat, do they love their partner?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

If people are honest once you love somebody that love will always be there that's the part that hurts about a cheater because the cheater is not only a cheater but there are a liar because they pre meditate what they are doing no matter what their excuses I'm sorry I was drunk that's called bullshit because in that moment you think about it damn I have my girlfriend at home can you say fuck that and you cheat because you think you're smarter and everybody else you think nobody will ever find out and then after you cheat you go home you're with the one that you love and you act as if nothing happened and this might go on for quite a while. But you will be found out in time. So to be honest when you're living one life and you say I don't care about it anymore I'm going to do this because I'm smarter and I want to do this even though you love that person you don't love that person you don't love that person deep enough to not do it so there you go the worst part about a cheater is when they come home and act as if nothing happened day in and day out and they think they got something over on you because they think they're smarter but the moment you find out and all their clothes are out on the front yard they will do or say anything possible to have those clothes put back in that house they should have thought about it before they did it because his clothes are not coming back in the house is there to going to play you like a fool be a wise fool and go find somebody else they will treat you right

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Yes and No. There are underlying reasons and most focus around the following:
-emotional connection leading to great sex (Women) verse great sex leading to emotional connection (Men).
-Women cheat and leaves when another caters and assigns Value to her cause then sex is awesome. She may still have “affections” for EX.
-Guy will cheat if PYT is enamored and can give a good blow job. Dead fish sex from 20-60 will never 👎 workout.
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-I’m quite attentive to her emotional needs because of her skill set. I have an old bankers bag and keep a sealed stack of 20s in it. There is always an open stack, therefore there’s, anywhere from 2000-4000 in there at all times. It stays in her nightstand and once she executes she grabs 20.00. Her secondary yearly income is 7000-9000 yearly +- 500.00. I have no idea what she does with it nor do I care. All I have to do is stay “clean shaven”…. and proficient is an understatement♨️

crimsonandclover2 · Accepted Answer

No, that's an oxymoron.
If they really loved their partner, they wouldn’t cheat on them, or be so inconsiderate of his/her feelings. Love is sacrifice. If one can’t sacrifice their temporary carnal desires to remain faithful to the one person who should be their best friend, companion and partner-even in difficult times, then no.. To sacrifice one's self for another is truly the definition of love. If they have a problem, they can discuss it with their partner and work it out.
Ultimately, if they really feel, there's no other way, they would rather break the relationship, than keep their partner in dark

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Generally, nope.
Some people don't love constantly. They love, they stop to love, they cheat, they try too approach the person they cheated again because they feel love, if they are successful this cycle repeats. It's very confusing for the person who is loved by this type of partner.
With exception of this specific type of people with 'schizophrenic love', people who cheat don't love their partners. A cheater calculates the possibility to lose their partner. Nobody will lose someone they love.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think they might love their partner but they love themselves and their self interest even more. Just like somebody can own a 2 karat gold necklace and somebody else can own a 15 karat gold necklace. The bible does not say bad people are incapable of virtue, the bible says a bad person’s virtue has little value because it can be bought and sold with money.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all, if they actually loved their partner they wouldn’t be cheating , the cheater should just move on and realize they don’t value their partner if they can cheat on them , cheaters that try to go back to their partner’s are wasting their own time by trying to go back to someone they really don’t love. They will never be able to look their partner in the face again knowing they are a piece of shit and that they cheated on them. Even if the cheater got away with it and their partner didn’t know they cheated , the cheater is still wasting their own time Going back to someone they truly don’t value , but cheaters are selfish people and they only really care about themselves , they don’t know how to love someone cuz they only love themselves , I feel bad for all the non cheaters that are with someone that cheated on them and they don’t have a clue , if the cheater truly valued their partner then the cheater should let them go and let them find someone that truly values them and that won’t cheat on them but instead they are selfish and wasting their time , If I cheat on a girl that’s my own answer That I don’t value her and I end it with her immediately , but some people take cheaters back out of desperation and that is sad to see , cuz that just shows that person doesn’t value themselves and probably has very low self esteem about themselves and they feel that they can’t get anyone else , I had sex with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , those girl’s went back to their husbands like nothing happened , But the 1 husband that did find out that I was banging his wife ended up taking her back which just blew my mind , I actually felt bad for the guy that he was that desperate , Me personally would never take a cheater back into my life the second I find out I was cheated on it’s over , I am not going to commit to someone that can’t commit to me there are plenty of fish in the sea

Browneye57 · Answer

Perhaps. Respect... not so much.
Mostly people cheat due to perceived shortcomings in the relationship. So they are open to approach, dialog, relating to a third party. Usually it starts with an emotional affair, and in many cases turns into a physical or sexual affair. They are always more exciting than the stale primary relationship. So it's hard to compete.

So while you cannot blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship. Old relationships tend to fail the intimacy and nurturing required to sustain both parties.

It's just not about love honey - it's usually about excitement, getting your rocks off. And love isn't exclusive, it's common to love more than one person at a time. DAMHIK

Bottom line is happy couples in love don't cheat. There's just no reason, no impetus compelling extraneous activity.

GlassTop · Answer

Can you still love someone if you lie to them? Of course. Can you still love someone if you cheat on them? Yes. But it’s up to you to decide if you are willing to love them back with that kind of abuse. If they cheat on you, they were probably hoping to continue the relationship with you without you finding out. At first, they may feel guilt and regret, but it turns into just another orgasm or activity. They won’t have remorse and regret nor feel the sorrow their partner feels if they find out. They will only wish they didn’t get caught and go back in time. It’s highly likely they will cheat again if they have the opportunity. They may remain faithful again for a while and try to gain your trust. Are you willing to go through with that heartbreak again? You also may never be able to fully forgive them for cheating. You will always remember it.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, considering I dumped my girlfriend to stay with my wife, yes. didn't plan on having an affair. I dont think most people do unless they're dicks. Just sort of happened and before long i was like "how the hell did I end up here?" I developed feelings for a coworker who listened to me when my wife didn't. Kept telling my wife for years I needed her to stand up for me before her mom, but my feelings didn't matter. The MIL kept running my life and making me miserable. I preferred work over being at home... it was that bad... so i found someone who did listen and make time for me. Does that make me a bad person? Ultimately my wife and I figured it out. It took the threat if losing me to inflict change. But that damage is done. I think lots of people dont quite understand that affairs are seldom one off events. Theyre very complicated and usually blossom when something else isn't right in the relationship. Thats my two cents from someone whos been there.

Idazle34 · Answer

The most common reason people cheat is because their partner isn't making them feel loved. When that happens they start to struggle to love their partner, which causes them to look for someone who does make them feel loved. a lot of times it isn't intentionally at first, but the more the outside person makes the cheating partner feel loved the more frequently the cheating partner will cheat.

DizzyDesii · Answer

They dont love their partner enough to treat them better. If they truly loved them, they’d talk things out or breakup instead of cheating. But they cheat because they’re weak, sneaky, selfish, feeling they deserve better than what their partner gives and overall they just want their cake and to eat it too

the_bruh · Answer

Of course they do, the sex department and love department are two separate departments in life. They're connected slightly but not entirely. When someone understands they love each other and takes no steps to improve or spice the sex department, shit can happen. If you tried to make things work and still they cheat, they for the streets.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Apparently, not enough or no temptation would get the better of them. And they seemingly don't seem to care if they may lose that person because of it. There is no love greater than this, that a person would lay down their life for a friend. Yet they would kill a relationship? Really, does that seem like love to you?

Anonymous · Answer

When people love their partner, do they cheat?

Yes to my question and yes to your question.

They're not supposed to. They're supposed to have integrity. They're supposed to have honor. They're supposed to have character.

What they probably don't have, are those things, along with emotional security, intimate conversation, and sexual satisfaction. So instead of speaking up, honestly, they go looking elsewhere, for them.

It's sad really. I'd sooner leave than cheat.

SHB84 · Answer

No. If you want you can sit here and believe the pure lies of people that say yes. Those people are either lying to themselves and you, or they don't know what love is. I will tell you one fact... I've been in love more than once, and in no way did that even try to cross my mind. It shows disrespect towards the other, selfishness, and it can try to be excused or made to seem like it's just physical... but either way... no.

Account · Answer

In monogamous relationships?

I do not think it is possible to love someone you do not respect. If you cheat on someone, you certainly do not respect them, which means you no longer love them or you never did in the first place.

dragoblack · Answer

From the stories i know of those who have cheated, it was to get out of a relationship because he didn't want to tell her he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. The others are usually situational him-being-drunk hookups or just clicking with someone in a lustful stooper that turned into a hookup. Very rarely is it actual love reasons for cheating.

DaveJord · Answer

Sure you can cheat on someone and still love them... but that does not make you right. Cheating is wrong, and cheating definitely can make others fall out of love with you... regardless if you still love them or not.

Buntyp · Answer

I don't think that would be possible, given that the definition of cheating is deceit, and I just can't see how deceiving someone about ones own fidelity and loving them can simultaneously occur. But that's just me.

Not_Average · Answer

They can. Cheating is a result of not having needs met in most circumstances. You can love someone, but still not have your emotional and physical needs met. Infidelity is much more nuanced than a simple is it love or is it not.

Heartache0405 · Answer

No. How could they? If love were even a real thing people who actually loved their partner wouldn't cheat on said partner. Regardless of whether it's with a male or a female. Why else would it be frowned upon or wrong to cheat?

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I think that cheating is a crime of opportunity. My opinion is that most people don't set out to cheat on their spouse, it just sort of, , , , happens.

dustybiker · Answer

I think not. It’s more afraid of being alone. Afraid to let go. Want their cake and eat it too.

slatyb · Answer

What does that mean? If you are asking about their feelings, there’s no telling, and it doesn’t matter. We aren’t affected by another’s thoughts. Only their behavior matters. Lying is not loving.

SynthKobra · Answer

I really don't think that's possible. It's one of if not the most definite and deliberate act of betrayal to someone you can do to you. I think if you really want to fuck other people you should just look into polyamory.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Yoi couldve never love someone and spitefully hurt them to the point you lose their trust. Thats like saying your loyal while doing unloyal stuff.

petitedollbabee · Answer

If you truly loved your partner/s, you wouldn’t have eyes for anyone else. So no, cheaters are filth.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I think people are damaged in all sorts of way and people define love differently. So in short - yes they can still live their partner and cheat. But it’s not the healthy kind of love.

shaysh87 · Answer

people cheat because they are either not meant to be monogamous, or they aren't fulfilled by the relationship. Usually, it's the latter.

Bel88 · Answer

If they did, they wouldn't cheat in the first place.

MyNameJames · Answer

Serial cheaters... No. One-time drunken mistakes... Probably. Both are still shitty, just depends on the person and whether it seems in their character to do so.

StrawberryShake · Answer

No. And don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If someone is willing to make you go through that much pain for their own personal gain, they do not love you, they never did, and they never will.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

They say they do, they just have a funny way of showing it.

cloudspy · Answer

More circumstances are needed for this. What is the situation?

Sasha_Gee · Answer

The person getting cheated on loves the cheater more. If there is no balance, it's dead.

LinaDaGoddess · Answer

It is possible for them to love their partners, but I feel like there’s no respect.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

If you really love someone you wouldn’t cheat on them

1millonlies · Answer

Yes, it’s ugly but these type of people love themselves more.

MartianBuddy · Answer

Maybe, but they don't respect them. Being exclusive is having enough respect in yourself and the other person the keep your word. If you can't, then you don't have it.

AdithyaR · Answer

I refuse to believe it. if my partner cheats on me, I will assume they never loved me, no matter how much they plead it.

UsernameXLTX · Answer

You can love your partner and still cheat. Humans are very complex and life is layered with nuance. There are many couples who work through affairs and their relationship become stronger.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No. When you love, you don't cheat. When you cheat, you don't love.

Naimgood · Answer

I don't know but that picture is hysterical. So here's cheating and kissing this chick while his girl stands a few feet away staring

Abinav69 · Answer

If you find that your partner is cheating on you, why not take revenge instead of thinking that they love you back?  There is no point in being honest with those who show you fake love.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

umm no, they dont. this should be self-explanatory.

Staximus · Answer

No. If they loved them, they would care enough to not cheat on them

Twalli · Answer

Possibly. You generally aren't getting everything you want with your partner. It doesn't mean you want to lose what you're already getting

Waldoe · Answer

Yes... and it is Crazy... hormones are sometimes overwhelming, some men are not strong enough to resist

Jackba57 · Answer

No. Absolutely not. They either love themselves…or the new guy. But they sure as fuck don’t love you.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How do you define "love?"

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. It's not a act of love, but sometimes we do some very stupid stuff to people we love.

Anonymous · Answer

Please, please, please do not try to pursue a relationship when someone cheats on you! You need to hold your head high and move on based on your self-respect!

driven159 · Answer

If they loved their partner they would not be cheating

EaterPeter · Answer

They can, mostly confused, it's always better for cheated. Nit immediately though, and only if they can see it in long run

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

I found lit that my ex basically cheated on almost everyone with the same guy. That is how she ends it.

007kingifrit · Answer

i think a man can have sex with other women and still love his partner

GMANN56 · Answer

I cheated once. For one reason. I was horny and she kept saying no, and someone else said yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. When I’m in love I have no interest in anyone else, even if I wanted to I just wouldn’t.

jimmy2 · Answer

They are Narcissistic abd only want and thank for themselves

Anonymous · Answer

Well ya baby, of course i love you... my dck is hard...

JosyJosy · Answer

Not enough. Break up material

Pterodon · Answer

Nope nor do they respect them

rabbitzzz · Answer

I don't think girls do.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t see how they could love them

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