If people cheat on their partner do they really love them?

[Brando10222]

Genuine answers only. No BS

[thebe34]

No cheating is not love its a choice and not a mistake and anyone who says they cheated on there partner or are Cheating on their partner and says I cheated or I am cheating but I still love my partner are liars I call bs anyone who does that doesn't care who they hurt in the process and doesn't care about broken hearts or anything they just care about themselves they are home reckers

[Brando10222]

I agree with you!

[DizzyDesii]

You can love someone and cheat. But you can't be IN LOVE (which is greater in my opinion like a ride or die type love) with someone and cheat. Either way, cheaters dont deserve the person they’re with and they should own up to it and breakup. Wouldve been much better if they broke up in the first place to avoid being labeled a cheater

[Paul_in_Indy]

I think you can be “in love” and still give in to temptation and do a horrible thing.
Humans are entirely capable of containing huge contradictions. I wish that our own love could make us immune to sinning. Unfortunately, we cannot become sanctified merely by feeling; nor even by choosing.

The very basis of betrayal is love. We can’t betray someone we don’t love. Unfortunately, the inverse is not true.

[DizzyDesii]

love and in love are nowhere near the same level to me. In love is like an unconditional thing so most never experience it anyways

[Paul_in_Indy]

I wish that it could inoculate us against bad decisions.

[girlwalltheqs]

@Paul_in_Indy I agree with you on this one... I do believe we can be in love and still screw up. Especially if alcohol is involved.

[DizzyDesii]

Good thing i dont drink then. I won't allow anyone to use the alcohol excuse with me. People might not be able to control the effects/consequences but they can drink responsibly and stop it soon enough before it gets there

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, you can't. Infidelity in and of itself is a consciousness decision against the person you care about. It's purely selfish and show that they don't love their partner.

[girlwalltheqs]

@NostalgiaSenpi So the real question, then, is this: Can you be both in love AND selfish, simultaneously? Perhaps what it comes down to is an individual's system of values, personality, etc., rather than the sole act of loving or being in love with another, that contributes to the conscious decision to cheat...

[Paul_in_Indy]

@NostalgiaSenpi There is no referee to stop you and prevent you from doing the wrong thing until you have first consciously renounced your love…and done whatever else is on that checklist. I assure you that you can love someone and be foolish, selfish, deluded, etc.

Love is not a magic spell that inoculated against bad behavior, destructive attitudes, selfish desires, stupid decisions, etc. Love doesn’t keep you behaving properly until you disable it, switch it off, uninstall the program, whatever.

[magiusX26]

both yes and no. it can still be a type of love just not truly in love with type as that is now only a mythical love that is unconditional, something modern man (humans) lack the ability to do/feel/have.

[Brando10222]

Nobody should be in a relationship and cheat unless their partner is fine with it. If they want more, break up and go with someone else or hook up if it's sex.

[ChiTown33]

No. They just think they do. Because you don't cheat on someone you love. It's really just that simple.

[Brando10222]

Exactly!

[SteveSmith1985]

No. They do not love them.

[JustMeL120]

No. Noone who cheats loves the person. I dont understand the logic of cheatibg why not just break up and date someone else. I think cheats have a fear of being alone. They see the origibal partner as life time company and other people as people that they can use.

[Pinz89]

No, they don't. If I love and cherish my phone, knowing I won't get another one like it, do you think I'd break it? No! What would I do? I'd try not to break it, right? Okay then. This is common sense!

[Paul_in_Indy]

But loving your phone can’t prevent you from breaking it. You can still act foolishly and end up breaking it; even though you will break your heart in so doing. I wish love could prevent you from breaking it…but it can’t.

[Anonymous]

No because they don’t respect them.

How are you gonna love someone who you’re gonna put at risk of diseases. At risk of permanent diseases HIV, HPV, Hepatitis, Ébola, Monkey Pocks.

🤡🤡🤡🤡 Yeah 🤡 So much love 🤡

Go on and contract and absorb, diseases and ebola all by yourself. 🖕 Don’t let anyone do this to you. As a woman you can even catch cancer from HPV and die. These cheating pig 🐷 can literally kill you. Just know that

[Opinion Owner]

If you’re a woman and having casual sex like I used to, good luck getting stabbed, pocked and pinched. Cause you’re gonna need to draw blood and do blood work 🩸💉💉, just to make sure that the trash-bag broke piglets didn’t give you something deadly to you. Or something that can make you go infertile indefinitely 🤡🤡🤡

[Opinion Owner]

And once the cheating Dogs, cheating Trash-Bag Pigs 🐖, give you cancer.
They aren’t the once that will pay for your cancer treatment 🤡🤡🤡🤡

[iron_ninjs]

No they don't. If you love someone, you won't cheat, no excuses.

[Paul_in_Indy]

That is a very strange take. I would contend that to look at someone who broke his marriage vows and say, “he must never have loved her” is making an excuse for him. If he didn’t love her, then what he did is expected. That’s an idea designed to let him off the hook.

If you mitigate betrayal by diluting it, you are making excuses. If you acknowledge that betrayal involves hurting the person you love, then you are looking the crime squarely in the eye.

[Paul_in_Indy]

You wouldn’t make excuses for murder by saying, “A person could never steal the life of another person just like them. You couldn’t murder a person if you knew they were a person. So, a murder must think what he killed was not a human. He must not know what he did,” would you? I say we don’t make excuses for adulterous by saying, “he must not love her.”

[Paul_in_Indy]

(I know you aren’t trying to excuse crimes. I am just suggesting you re-examine your position and consider that you may be inadvertently inverting yourself.)

[iron_ninjs]

Murder and love are two different things. You can murder a person out of revenge, anger, and a number of other reasons. But you'd still consider the victim a person. If you don't consider the victim as a person, you're just mentally deranged.
But it's different with love. I didn't say that you didn't love the person at all, of you cheated on them. It just means you stopped loving them, if you cheated. Because, if you love someone, you wouldn't want to hurt them like that.
And it's not an excuse, as you put it. Tell me, what normal person would cheat on their significant other, if they love them, and would you? Why would you continue to cheat on someone if you love them?
I've seen a lot of cheaters over the years. They don't feel guilty for cheating, until they get caught. And only then do they profess their love for the person they cheated on. They make excuses like " It was a mistake", or some other excuse. But the reality is, it's your own decision to cheat, no one's forcing you.

[Paul_in_Indy]

It’s your decision. Don’t try to make excuses for yourself (I know it’s not YOU, but…) by saying you don’t love your wife enough. That’s a cop out.

[Paul_in_Indy]

It’s not possible that an adulterer “only professes love when he’s caught.” That’s not adultery. He professed his love before. He made a choice to promise his faithfulness because of love. Then he betrayed that trust. You can’t let him off the hook by pretending he doesn’t love her.

[iron_ninjs]

Okay, I'll admit that that's true. Sometimes, my emotions get mixed with my logic, so it doesn't come out right. But your logic seems sound. And , when I take time to see what you wanted to say, maybe you're right. Sorry. 😅

[Beatrix7]

most deffinetly not if they love there partners so much they wouldn't cheat at all on scum sucking rodents cheat when there in a relashionship

[AdithyaR]

Nope, I don't care what anyone says. If you cheat you have no right to say you love your partner cause you don't. You made a conscious decision to betray them and hurt them in the worst possible way.

[Sasha0426]

Absolutely not! If your partner says they love you AFTER they cheated, everything that comes out of their mouths is a lie. I mean, they lied throughout the whole relationship, why should you believe anything they say?

[midnightcavern01]

It's not always the case. There's a chance they do but they don't feel they need to be tied down with you to be faithful. They're not as committed as you so it's best to call it off

[Brando10222]

Its better to break up and then be in someone else's bed. Relationships are not a joke.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, anyone who cheats does not love their partner.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No. Anyone that says differently is lying to themselves.

[CreatingWonders]

No,


If you loved your partner why would you cheat knowing it would hurt them?

[TrillXHippy]

If a girl cheated on me that love she says she always had for me is gone forever and ever

[Dinosaursandanime65]

They don’t know what love is, their thoughts are purely based on horniness levels like measurements for an earthquake.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Yeah but it not enough respect for your partner or yourself to stay loyal.

[Worrying]

The cheater loves himself/herself.

[serious]

The answer is No. It is obvious.

[douride2]

Short answer is NO.

[TrueConfection]

They might love them, but not enough.

[Catarine]

You cannot

[Papabubbles]

Nope