Is it wrong to blindside someone with divorce?

[Anonymous]

so I know a woman who has a husband in the military. She treats him like shit especially on the internet. Treats his sister like shit and love playing manipulating games with people emotions. He’s home for the weekend and she asked him to take a picture. She post it on Facebook but she admitted that he’s not going anywhere. She wants the public to think they are a good happy couple. She treats people any kind of way especially him. She say he’s not going anywhere and etc. in real life she’s not realizing that she isn’t in control of him and he’s already gone. She treats people any kind of way and think you supposed to be there for her. In her mindset he will never divorce her and she can treat him as such.

in reality he may leave and never come back unless it’s to see his kids. Everyone has left her including his oldest daughter. She treats people very badly and disrespects his mother. I had to leave her alone myself. She love trying to outsmart you and play games with you. She treat people so bad

[Summeroflove]

People who use and abuse people in the military are scum human beings who deserve nothing but what they deserve especially if they lead a man to suicide. There are men who would rather be at war then home with their wife. Narcissists and other dark personalities prey on men in the military and women as well because of the benefits. Many aren’t honest about their true intentions either leading someone to believe they genuinely love them when they don’t.

He needs to be there for his children which if he documents the abuse well enough he may need to fight for custody as well as make documentation and get a good lawyer. Because this woman will go on the smear campaign both legally and with his reputation.

This is who narcissists are they need to keep appearances up so she needs to look like a loving mom and wife as well as having the perfect life when she in fact doesn’t. This is all too common when it comes to military marriages most are miserable and fail because of this kind of stuff.

A lot of these women notoriously chest, abuse their husband, abuse their kids, sit around the house doing absolutely nothing refusing to work, and refusing to lift a finger. Divorce is the clear option to get out of this situation because it will never get better. At some point she will probably initiate a divorce herself and frame her husband in a way that’s anything but positive. She probably is planning on it right now but is waiting until he’s out of the military or she finds someone better. So blinding someone with divorce is probably the safest option. Gather the information needed. Get a good lawyer and he deserves someone better.

He doesn’t deserve to fight for this county and go home to the one place That he should have peace, be able to be himself, get love, as well as emotional support just to wish he was deployed again.

[Asker]

Correct! You read this to a tea! The man mentioned that today when he was talking to somebody. he thinks it’s the money she wants because he’s planning on retiring. He outsmarted her already. She will walk out with absolutely nothing. That’s why she treating people so harshly

[Summeroflove]

If she was smart she would be keeping up appearances but many people once you’re living with someone just can’t mask who they really are all the time anymore.

He shouldn’t cheat on her though he needs to be very careful not to do anything that could screw him because she will use anything and everything against him.

If he plays it smart he will probably come out at the end of this. But he needs to fight and not fall for her pity games. Because if she starts to loose she will probably prey on his pity to try to go easy on her.

She probably knew he was a good man who wanted a real connection. Someone whose a provider and everything else. But she has nothing of value to offer. She probably love bombed and did all the things to lock down marriage. Most gold diggers aren’t honest about what they are eating.

[Summeroflove]

*wanting not eating

[Anonymous]

If a person is paying attention most the time they can't be blindsided. There are very few people who give absolutely no indication that things are broken. And if somebody is that secretive about how they feel. Then is it really a bad thing when they ends things? Because if they aren't going to share anything then you really don't have a relationship anyhow.

I assume you're suggesting he's going to blindside her with a divorce? Well the way you make her sound doesn't make it sound very tragic if it does happen.

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[AI Opinion]

Ah, relationship twists and turns! The situation seems like a classic case of emotional games and a lack of respect. 🚩 Blindside divorces can be harsh but necessary when someone feels trapped or mistreated in a toxic environment. It’s a survival move—like a plot twist you didn’t see coming! He might be silently planning his escape, so she's in for a surprise if she's underestimating him. If she’s treating people like pawns in her emotional chess game, she might end up in a checkmate of her own making. Life’s too short for lovebombing, ghosting, or toxic vibes, right? 😊

[masterSir]

screw people like that. he needs to leave.