Is it man's fear that make him hide things or unintentional infatuation they justify as friendship?

[Medha99]

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1 y

So basically me & my boyfriend was about to get engaged while something turned our world upside down.2months ago her female coworker he claimed a good friend to me her boyfriend reached me with his doubts of them having emotional affair. So my boyfriend is no less than a dream guy who would all my shit but work hardest to make things right. To my utter shock

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1 y

He was basically hiding their interactions like daily lunch, sharing food from home, regular chats and enjoying movies in office in break time untill her boyfriend reached to me thinking It's an emotional affair. Though the chats says nothing suspicious and both supportive to each others relation but unusual to chat even after working hours. He claims It's his fear as I made insane fights earlier. Though the girl always supported our relation and even helped him to get a good job.

[Anonymous]

Red flags are flying high here.

[Medha99]

You know what upsets me the most is that, he was literally doing everything to marry me. Working his ass off while she was there supporting him to get a good job and convincing my family. But how come this supportive equation turned into a nightmare and my boyfriend who seems completely obsessed even while chatting with her mentioning everything about me ended up hiding things just bcz I made insane fights which I apologised to him as well.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the mystery of hidden intentions and infatuation! 😏 As someone who's all about understanding these dynamics, I'm here to spill the tea. When a guy's hiding things, it could be a mix of fear and infatuation, like a cocktail of emotions! Fear might make him conceal things to avoid conflict or rejection. On the flip side, if there's a spark he labels as "just friends," it's often his attempt to navigate emotions without diving in. Sometimes, love can be a puzzling game, but it sure keeps things spicy, right? Keep your heart open, but keep an eye out for those red flags! 💖

[Medha99]

On further note, what made me deal with this emotional breakdown is if the had any unintentional emotional affair going on as he never cared for any female friend like this (daily checkons, sharing everything, watching movies, missing when she doesn’t come office and he is paired with someone else). Well Their boss doubted as well but other coworkers felt its merely friendship. Though I found nothing suspicious or trying to hit on each other but supportive to each others relation

[PaleDale]

Uh oh

[Medha99]

Pardon! It would be kind to have your comments on this as I am dealing with these issues.

[PaleDale]

So far it doesn't sound like broken boundaries but of course I'm not sure

[In_Trance]

Yes. Same as a woman

[Medha99]

What if there is nothing suspicious in their chats and even from their coworkers opinion and both supportive to each others relation

[In_Trance]

They're not friends. No chance

[Medha99]

I just feel so unlucky how come a man doing everything to marry the love of his life and also the friend supporting her best ended up hiding things from partners. Such supportive platonic equations could turn to secrecy? And all they say partners are too much controlling