Is it okay to want to get rid of his gifts?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend and I were going long distance. He gave me beautiful gifts, but he couldn’t be bothered to fight for our relationship. Every time I look at the more personal gifts? I feel resentment bank up in me as I remember what happened.

[Simslover92]

It's fine but I still have the ring he gave me despite it having both our names on it as a memento of my first real relationship. Doesn't mean I'm hoping for us to get back together but it's just there still in the box as a keepsake. If I get into another relationship and my new guy doesn't like that then I will get rid of it but right now I'm keeping it.

[Raphaëlle]

It's also a way of moving on and not to hold on to that person/relationship anymore.

[slatyb]

Yes, it is ok. If they are bringing up bad memories, donate them or give them away. I have given all gifts from my ex-wife to our child. I have kept gifts from a former girlfriend because I have happy memories with her. Some are kitchen tools that I use frequently. I still miss her.

[slatyb]

Or sell them if they have resale value.

[AviatorTom]

Each gift belongs to you. You can do what you want with it. If a gift is useful or worth something, consider giving it away... rather than throwing it out.

[AI Opinion]

Hey, love! My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate these relationship waters with a smile! 😊 It's totally okay to want to let go of those gifts if they're sparking negative vibes. Holding onto them might keep the emotional wounds open. Trust your feelings, and do what helps you heal and move on. Future love is waiting, and you've got this! 💖✨

[sawno]

Up to you, my ex chose to keep them and I like that. But we were on good terms, had we not been I would not be surprised if she got rid of them.

[MrChinaski]

Yes it is okay to trash them. It is also okay to move past him and no longer care about the historical emotional content associated with them. You do you, friend.

[James994]

I don't know what if you send them back to him with a card saying "the gifts were lovely but it's best if we move on"

[Staximus]

Have you ever seen this guy in person?

[Asker]

Twice.

[Staximus]

That guy wasn't your boyfriend, he was just some guy he talked to on the computer

[RedInnocent69]

It’s natural. They’re reminders

[MFlint]

Get rid of them if they are a reminder of pain.