For most men, this is not a problem, and for a lot of men, it's actually a positive. It means you don't have a lot of emotional damage and baggage from past relationships, so he's not going to be punished for what other guys may have done.
There are always going to be a few exceptions to any rule, so there WILL be a few guys who see this as a problem. That's life. None of us is going to be attractive to everyone.
But overall, this is more of a benefit than a liability. Mostly, you need to communicate openly and honestly, and you need to vet every potential partner, based on his morals, values, and life-goals, BEFORE you commit to being in a relationship with him.
If you were going to go skydiving, you'd (I hope!) check out the history and reputation of the skydiving company, and you'd take a close look at your parachute before you just assumed that everything would be fine and jumped out of the plane, right? Because once you jump, discovering a problem then isn't going to help you or save you, and you don't want to wait to learn an important detail until you are hurtling towards the ground to your death at 150 MPH.
It's the same with a relationship: you need to do your investigation and vetting BEFORE you commit, because doing it after is too late to avoid getting hurt. Likewise, vetting for the wrong things (shallow things like looks, height, money, education, status, etc.) instead of the right ones (morals, values, life-goals) will also get you hurt because you'll miss important red flags until it's too late.
For most guys, the fact that you've never been in a relationship is going to be about as important as the brand of tires on your car: it's WAY down in the list of things that are important to him, and certainly nothing most men are going to see as a deal-breaker. As such, it's not something you should be worrying about. Spend your energies worrying about the top 5 things men are looking for in a woman - things you are FAR more likely to be disqualified for if you lack them. That's a far better investment of your time and effort.
At your age, being inexperienced is nothing to be self-conscious about.
And, no matter your age, guys are charmed by women who are a bit nervous the first time they have sex with them.
So there is no need for you confess that you have never been in a relationship. But if you are a virgin, you will want to tell him before you have sex so that he will treat you gently and make the experience special.
Once you are in a relationship, then you can tell him that it is your first.
Hun you're 23 years old. There is absolutely nothing wrong with never having been in a relationship at your age. In fact, some guys will find that a plus.
If you want to start dating, then start dating but don't worry about never having been in a relationship before. Most guys won't be asking about that at first anyways. But if they happen to, just say you were focused on school or if you didn't go to school, working.
That is strictly your option to tell or not tell. Do not beat yourself up about this. You are very young. You have your whole life ahead of you
If I could go back and change things, I would have stayed single and learned how to love myself rather than pouring everything I had into a relationship. Don't worry sweetheart everything will work out and be ok😘🥰
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Yes, most men prefer that to be honest with you
@Finchie40
Well, some guys do. Most guys don't.
@Finchie40
Eh, why?
@Finchie40
Nah, I don't think so. I'm not territorial at all, and I never cheat. Know many other men like this as well.
Unfortunately she is probably cheating on you then without you realizing it , Girls’ aren’t as sweet an innocent as most of us guys’ think they are , Guys’ and Gurls’ that take a lot of space from each other is not a good relationship period. I can’t tell you how many taken girls’ I witnessed and experienced cheating on their partners’ during girls’ night , or girls’ trips , do not think they are being sweet an innocent
@Finchie40
She cheats on me for sure, because I've told her she's free to do so. :-D
Same with most women. We want pure men, not leftovers.
@Vampirelover_12 Most men and women want a partner with some experience, but not too much. Very few want a virgin. Usually just conservative religious people, and men who spent too much time reading red pill trash on the Internet.
@AnonAndrew Most women want a man who knows his place. Not to whore himself out.
@Vampirelover_12 I have no idea if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me.
@AnonAndrew Obviously disagreeing.
@Vampirelover_12 In what way? We were talking about sexual experience, and you replied with something about "a man who knows his place."
I don't think men's opinion exist on this topic. Because there isn't any consensus you can obtain to predict the reactions of this unknown man who will be interested in you.
There are reasons explaining why you have never been in a relationship, reasons are yours until you decide to share them. Depending on the nature of these reasons, I don't think it would be clever to share them indistinctly. As with any personal topic, it seems much better, much safer to share them with a trusted person.
Which is a way to say that the concept of men is a non-issue for you, what seems to matter much more is understanding who you're going to trust, which is one man, or several, but not men in general.
I never wanted loose women who have been run through by other guys. Women with trauma from past heartbreaks. When it came to finding a wife, I was only going to marry a virgin. So when you say relationships, that is code for men I've slept with. No. Why is you having other men's dicks in you make you a more attractive option? It doesn't.
Now a guy who just wants a girl to put out on the first date and for her to be into a lot of kinky stuff. A girl who has been around is probably what he is after. She's up for anything.
But for relationships, long term mate, someone to have kids with you having a lot of "experience" isn't a plus.
At 23 I wouldn't be fussed. If you are selective that's ok, given I seem to be qualifying.
I'd suggest you tell men you are interested in that you like men not boys and that is perfectly acceptable.
A lot of girls don't seem to know how to conduct themselves now in a relationship so a brief branch on that..
For myself I want a girl to be calm and genuinely nice. Nice is an umbrella term to me that includes being co-operative, not disputatious. It doesn't mean you can't say what you want but I want it to be requests not demands.
I'm sure you will do fine.
There are guys who absolutely adore girls who have never been involved with any guy. Firstly because it is a pride thing to be someone's first and the more mature reason is that, the more guys a girl has been with, the more trauma and insecuries she could pick up or develop. Not always but highly likely. And then to navigate through all that is a bit of a challenge for the next guy.
So inexperience is not a bad thing at all. It is a good thing if a girl has a clean record, a clean slate of relationships. The upside is also that she can learn about stuff from an experienced guy if she prefers so. Not s loss at all.
The picking up of trauma and insecuritied is true of guys too, going through several relationships and women. But with guys it is more like a scar and not like a chronic breakout or flare up of some infection. Scars are static, they are always there and constant. But flare ups and breakouts are unexpected. Emotional surprises in tow.
Most men don't care that much.
Some prefer a woman with experience (I belong to this group), but can usually go with a woman without experience if she has other positives to make up for it.
A very few prefer a woman with no experience.
Not at all. It's something that most men would feel honoured to be able to build a future from scratch with a woman FOR THAT TYPE of man who has his shit together and has a path he seeks to follow.
There ARE a lot of men (immature) who have no idea about where they're going or what they want.
Depends if you mean you're a virgin or you've slept around but never stayed for breakfast.
Decent guys - and there's more than you'd realise - don't care if you've never been in a relationship and never had sex. In fact most genuinely decent guys may be the same, just not prepared to say it.
The majority will appreciate it and recognise you as high value.
Actually I would prefer a girl who had no prior relationship. That makes it so you are her first impression, she can't compare you to others and you got it way easier. I did that with one girl but it still failed. To say that I'm absolutely livid and furious about it is an understatement.
How would they know that you haven’t been unless you announce it?
Most people don’t ask about previous relationships when you first start dating.
Sweetie... you know that this makes you even MORE attractive, right?
Most men will realise they don't have to compete with other guys from your past relationships or anything complicated.
Just be honest. And the guy that still chooses you, thats the worthy one.
I have never drank poison in my life people don't judge me on it they will say ok good thing.
Similarly if you have never been in relationship make clear to them it was on your own terms or you were just not ready.
Unless you think it's an issue no one else would , even if they do you don't need to hang out with them
Then again you are just 23 there is no hard and fast rule you should be always in some relationship.
I've never had a girlfriend before, and I've only had sex once and I would actually prefer her to have never been in one. Dating someone who has dated a lot before makes me feel self-conscious because I have no experience in dating and at my age woman expect certain things I know nothing about. If I was dating someone who never had a relationship it means we would both start out awkward and on equal footing and I'd feel a lot more comfortable and less insecure.
This is girl logic. We are not girls we are opposite creatures, we don't have the referance system you girls has. İt is less the better more the worst for us guys when it comes to your personal life that doesn't involve us.
Speaking on behalf of 4 billion men, it's not an issue. Learning how you want to be in a relationship is a skill. With the right guy, it will hopefully be an enjoyable learning process for both of you.
I see a pro to both.
Women who have been in relationships have experience.
Women who have never been in a relationship will most certainly not have any distain or possibly lingering feelings for an ex.
Depends on the guy. I think it's a red flag
Experience speaks volumes
Would you want to be a part of plane with a pilot who is never flown before?
How about receiving heart surgery with a surgeon is fresh out of school?
Only the immature and very insecure ones would have a preference for that. If a man tells you that, run like hell.
I think a lot of guys would PREFER to be in a relationship with a woman like that.
Chastity and modesty are two things a lot of guys want in a long-term romantic partner.
For me it's something normal, it would be a relationship like any other.
Virgin women are valuable as long as they are young.
This is a woman's hangup not a guys. Women usually hold this against men. Not men against women.
A guy may look at you with more discernment (and rightly so). But he isn't going to reject just on that basis alone.
It would make no difference to me. Everyone has to start somewhere
Nowadays it is very difficult to find a woman or man who has not had a relationship. That's why I think a girl like you is very valuable. For a man, a girl who has never been in a relationship is preferable in my opinion.
I specifically wanted a woman that didn't have a romantic past. I found her and we are engaged to be married. Although, I sometimes worry about those male friends from her youth, but I am lucky to have her as she is.
It depends if that woman is single because she wants to be or because of attitude problems. If she's pure hearted yes I would love it.
Of course. why would they not like them. I would respect her choice to not be in one
Yes thats preferred, but at least being a virgin is a must.
For some guys you not ever being in a prior relationship can be a bonus on the plus side.
TBH at 23 that's not necessarily a red flag but definitely odd.
The less the better. Thays why it's best to be married before you are 21. All the good women are long gone after that.
Who doesn't like a woman in her 20s who's hot and clean 🫧 🫧 🫧 and never been defiled by another man or woman lol 😂 😆
Never mattered to me, but the older you get, it won't be a concern.
Sure, I also never had any kind of relationship.
It makes no difference why would I go for someone that has slept around
I doubt that would actually matter to men.
It’s not a bad thing.
You're young, it doesn't matter yet
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you!
yes of course
I’m not picky
No thanks
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