Do women like men that haven’t been a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been in a serious long term relationship but it’s not without trying. My longest relationship was about three months and sexless. It felt more like I was a placeholder than a love interest, I was inexperienced and she needed someone to fill the space of her ex. As short as it was I learned a lot about myself and realized I spent most of my life trying to please and not piss off women. Since that fling I’ve done a lot of work on myself and continue to, there just hasn’t been any women that have been interested. I chock up the disinterest to my wavering confidence, I know women like confidence but it’s hard to feel that way when I see how much I’m told I’m the problem or that men like me are a red flag and it seems I can’t win so I mostly just stay home.

[Smashingdoozy]

It's not a deal breaker but it does make things more difficult when it comes to conflicts in relationships.

[Asker]

Conflicts like what? I don’t feel incapable of solving problems.

[Smashingdoozy]

Experiencing a conflict in a relationship for the first time is incredibly daunting. Even with experience it's a hard thing to work through especially because there's so many emotions in the way. Being new to relationships you can quickly get this feeling of not being good enough or it's not worth trying to fix. Even if it's something so small and silly.

[Asker]

I see. It’s not that I haven’t experienced conflict I’ve just never had anything that lasted more than a couple of months. Also I don’t think conflict is exclusive to romantic relationships.

[Smashingdoozy]

Of course it's not, it is however, different when in a romantic relationship

[Asker]

I see. Is this a huge concern for women upon learning information like this? I come across a lot of media if women saying they don’t like inexperienced men.

[Smashingdoozy]

I think it's the not wanting to have to teach you the ropes. We want to be able to relax and enjoy a relationship not be the teacher

[Asker]

I see, I’ve heard this before of not wanting to teach. It’s a bit frustrating as a guy though cause I’m thinking she’s making a drastic call of her own speculation and not of who I am as a person. Also how does one gain experience if no one gives them the chance?

[Smashingdoozy]

I agree, that's why I'm not opposed to it

[Asker]

Where do I find more women like you? Lol

[Anonymous]

Why do they say men like you are a red flag?

[Asker]

Who knows, it feels like just existing is unacceptable. I get nervous approaching women sometimes and I suspect they interpret the behavior as a threat somehow. It feels like women only want perfection.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you nervous approaching women?

[Asker]

Honestly I’m afraid of looking like an idiot. My track record with women isn’t great so drawing confidence feels foreign to me. At best my interactions with women are just friendly with no sexual spark and recently I feel clueless on how to get there. It feels like everyone knows something fundamentally that I somehow missed out on growing up.

[Billlewis]

I think it varies from woman to woman, depending on what she's looking for in a relationship.

[In_Trance]

Early in life, yes
Later in life... no