What does feeling "safe" in a relationship mean to you?

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Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

- having a fight without worrying their friends/family are going to weigh in before it's resolved
- knowing that intimacy, if for whatever reason you're no longer into it or something starts hurting/not feeling good midway, they'll stop immediately
- forgetting to do a chore or breaking a minor promise (ie. Promising to be 5 mins early but then ending up 5 mins late lol) and knowing they'll accept your apology even if they're mildly annoyed
- coming home to your favorite snack they picked up for you
- being able to get annoyed at the small things because they genuinely know it's not your default state so something must have happened and maybe it's presentable in the future.
- being able to share your income/ financial spending information without them judging or taking advantage of you

peachragdoll · Accepted Answer

- Not being threatened to have the relationship end after every argument, being able to agree to disagree, being treated with love and tenderness even when annoyed.
- Knowing that the person that you are with sees hurdles as both of you together versus the problem.
- Being able to trust them when they give you their word. Actions that match their words.
- Someone where you know that you will both fight for each other and have each other’s backs.
- A relationship where you both make the effort to make sure that the other knows that they are loved.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Knowing your partner has your back and that they are on the same page as you when it comes to the relationship with each other , you feel calm and relaxed and loved , You aren’t feeling stressed or insecure , you can be yourself without feeling like you are walking on egg shells. You know
Your partner loves you the same way you love them, that’s when you feel safe in a relationship, if you don’t feel safe in a relationship then something is wrong that you should be concerned about and either try to fix what is broken , or walk away

Joshydavid25 · Accepted Answer

Feeling like I don't always have to put up any tough facade constantly.. Being a bit more vulnerable about my insecurities, and worries without losing that respect.. Ultimately putting my trust into my SO to be that soft place to lay my head on when I need rest..

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Feeling "safe" in a relationship is all about comfort and trust, darling! It's that warm, fuzzy feeling when you can truly be yourself without fear of judgment. When your partner has your back and your heart skips a beat, not from fear of a red flag, but from the thrill of falling in love. It's like cozying up with a great book, knowing there's no lovebombing or ghosting plot twist waiting for you! 🥰📚

DishLady · Answer

Feeling calmer and loved when you’re with that person. Being able to “let your hair down” and be yourself. Seeing that they feel they can be the same with you.

glennos89 · Answer

Being able to open up to my girl whenever I'm having an emotional breakdown of feel sad. Sadly a lot of woman can't seem to handle when a man is crying and that's a dealbreaker for me wanting to continue the relationship with her. If she can't be there for me emotionally when I need it the most... for me there is no point then in having a relationship with you and sharing our life together.

A man will feel unsafe communicating his feelings to her when she isn't able to be there for him during those moments.

sage2021 · Answer

Knowing that he has my back at all times. That he's a good guy and makes me feel that I am worth protecting and sharing my life with him is that I know that I can feel safe with him like no other guy has before. That he believes that I am his precious cargo.

Bricealan · Answer

@7phoenix7 For me it means something more than physical safety.  If I feel good with a mate, and have confided in her my deepest secrets, desires, experiences, and I know she would never compromise me in any way by divulging those things to another... that is a 'safe' relationship to me

HighValue · Answer

Having a prenuptial agreement and a paternity test.

Also if she is actually loyal (most women are not loyal) by not having social media, not posting provocative/revealing pictures online or having any contact with any ex.

So basically her being a good moral person, which is nearly impossible to find.

thegreenyogi · Answer

A feeling of safety in a relationship means to me personally that I can trust my partner enough to know that my boundaries won't ever be crossed, that I am accepted for who I am and that my partner will be there regardless of what obstacles or challenges I will have to face without judgment.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Allows me to be myself, be emotionally vulnerable, and trust my partner to love and care about me even if I mess up or am not making good decisions. Feeling safe is freedom and let’s me relax and just enjoy the present moment without worries what I tell her or do with her will hurt me or others. Knowing that she’s got my back and will fight for me

AydenHazor · Answer

Being with someone who sees all of me for who I am and doesn't try to change me. Someone who sees my flaws as well as positive traits and lives me for who I am. Someone who doesn't try to "fix" me. Someone whose company I truly enjoy and who enjoys mine. Sometime I can talk to for hours on end or be comfortable sitting in silence with. Someone who allows and encourages me to find out who I am and be true to me.

All of these apply in friendship as well as romance

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It means that I'm certain I can understand her psychology, in the complete sense, as well as being certain she can understand mine. When that setting is in place, I fear nothing and, ideally, neither does she.

Shiprex · Answer

Knowing your partner will let you be you when you want to be whoever you wish to be. That in spite of societal pressures the person you are is accepted, loved (not just tolerated) as you love them.

exitseven · Answer

To me it means that i do not have to worry that I will be dumped next week.

Professor-college · Answer

Well in my opinion they probably means that you feel your girlfriend or wife actually cares about you and you have the chance to talk about anything with her and she won't be just attacking and scolding you instead of just listening and then giving you her opinion at the end... Some women you feel like you're working through a land with underground mines trying not to get into an explosion of her rage I don't like that at all

alice55 · Answer

Being free and comfortable to say whatever I want without fear of being judged. Not having to worry about them cheating / talking to someone else.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

for me it's more about trust... trust builds this feeling of safety... no "what-ifs"... we are honest to each other and we care for each other... it's my "safe"...

Account · Answer

Being understood and feeling comfortable enough to express any concern instead of feeling like you are walking barefoot on broken glass.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Feeling like I can communicate my perspective without worrying that she will weaponize it against me later. It is so so so common for women to do stuff like that.

Miah06 · Answer

You been asking a lot of relationship questions lately🤔

Shanom12309 · Answer

Safety for me means I have the ability to show how much I love and appreciate someone without having any doubts or second thoughts. That I can trust showing that person all that I am, the good, the bad

loverguy123123123 · Answer

Being able to be yourself and let your guard down. When you genuinely feel like you can be you around someone

DJB72 · Answer

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Jamie05rhs · Answer

It means I'm actually in a relationship. I don't feel safe if she's playing games and won't commit.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

She won't shoot or stab me while I sleep !!!

Anonymous · Answer

She demonstrates her loyalty to me often. I don't have to say anything about it, she just does it.

Phoebe85 · Answer

You have complete trust of person you’re with.

Godihateyou · Answer

It means the relationship is dead. You are roommates

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It mean being in a relationship with someone thatsloyal respectful and loves me unconditionally

Anonymous · Answer

Any kind of relationship, I've never been in one, so I can't be sure.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Hmm it's difficult to describe.

notCryHONEY · Answer

To be sure of my princess's '' :') '' loyalty, seriousness of relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Not having to deal with constant death threats all the time

Agape93 · Answer

Knowing you won't be hurt or betrayed

Sluttt · Answer

Lots of sex and no one watches us

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

That she's not going to move

Smegskull · Answer

Not living in a no fault divorce country.

Booboolove69 · Answer

Trust & honest

Eempriyanka · Answer

Actions and words

WhitneySnow · Answer

Taken care of

Blackcat1952 · Answer

All by myself

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