Why people shouldn’t expect that their partner will make them happy?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Because happiness comes from within yourself , it’s no one else’s job to make you happy , if you depend on your partner to bring you happiness all the time , then you are going to eventually be miserable and unhappy in that relationship , because you are counting on your partner to make you happy , and unfortunately your partner isn’t always going to be there for You if they end up having a bad day and they are miserable and stressed out about things and they don’t want to be touched or bothered by you. Why it’s important to focus on your own happiness and not expect someone else to bring you happiness, Now if your partner is constantly miserable and constantly negative all the time , then it’s best for you to reconsider that relationship, because someone that projects a lot of negativity is not a good partner whatsoever, . No one wants to come home from work to a negative miserable person all the time , I experienced that with my ex and that’s why she is my ex. She was always miserable and stressed out about something and then would blame me for it when I had nothing to do with it whatsoever. When my ex would get onto those negative episodes , I would walk away and ignore her for trying to rain on my parade for no reason at all. She was a mental basket case that leaving her was the best thing I did for myself , Negative miserable people are not good relationship people whatsoever, it’s ok to have bad days here and there , but if it’s consistent, they need professional help and my ass is not a counselor or therapist, tell them to go get help or this relationship is over if the choose not to. I walk away from negative selfish girls’ that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves that think they are supposed to be catered to at all times. Staying with a girl like that is stupod to do because they will never be happy or satisfied until they get their way , they don’t love you , they like the convenience of you , I tolerated that shit for a long time with my ex thinking love will save the day , to realize there wasn’t any real love to begin with , she is selfish POS human being that needs to be institutionalized, when I finally walked away from her , I was meeting girls’ that actually had a loving caring heart that were more positive than negative. Find yourself that type of girl and stay away from the selfish negative bitches

[In_Trance]

Most people can't even make themselves happy.
To have the expectation that someone else is going to do it for you it's just a set up for failure

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you go into a relationship pinning that expectation of happiness onto a partner without having ANY other source of joy in your life not only is your disappointment inevitable but it is an unfair amount of pressure to place on another person.

[Monalisa77]

I do have other hobbies and interests but how is it pressure? Just talking and being with someone should make someone happy.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Again, if you have NO OTHER sources of joy. You don’t apply. Chill.

[Monalisa77]

But i wouldn't say they make me happier than a man would. As i say, i was the happist I've ever been just talking to him, and he didn't do anything other than talking to me. I wouldn't put pressure on him

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lady, why are you trying to defend yourself when I already told you that you don’t apply to what I said?

[Monalisa77]

Because i think i would probably only be really happy being with someone, as its been evidently proven just being in their company im actually happy.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, I could not give less of a shit who you fuck in your spare time as long as you do so without centering your life around the fear that you’ll die alone without them.

[Monalisa77]

Is this not the whole pt of being with someone? being happy and making them happy?

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to spread the love and good vibes! Expecting your partner to make you happy can be a slippery slope, honey! Of course, a partner can add joy, but happiness is an inside job! Depending too much on your partner puts a lot of pressure on them, which isn't romantic at all. Remember, you're the main character in your happiness story! Ensure you're fulfilled first so you can share the love instead of depending on it. 🥰

[serious]

I suppose this is a normal expectation

[itsannalee]

Because your happiness is your responsibility

[Monalisa77]

doesn't that mean finding the right people who make u happy? what other things can make someone truly happy?

[itsannalee]

That still doesn't mean making you happy is his responsibility

[Monalisa77]

No but as i keep saying, just spending time with someone you enjoy being with should make anyone happy, and what about his happiness? If he's not happy being with us then he shouldn't be with that person