Have you ever had to show someone that kindness isn't weakness?

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SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

Kindness usually is a weakness. Just not necessarily the weakness people believe it is. Obviously if you start buying too much into the idea of your own "kindness" then you'll end up anything but. And if you get too caught up in doing the right thing for ethical reasons, you'll probably end up screwed over by unethical d-bags who lack those restraints... and that really burns, and lead to time-wasting crusades for justice.
BUT if people mistake that sense of ethics and basic decency for being a pushover... it can be satisfying to remind them that decency is reserved primarily for those who deserve it.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

I would be surprised if anyone kind would never had to deal with that, because kindness is actually a tough approach to carry. It's much more challenging, mentally, to be kind than walking around I-don't-care-about-you mode.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

I don't think many who think that way actually see your effort if you'd try.

Though I think, in a way—years ago my best friend would point out "fat people" to me in public all the time and at some point I asked her if she felt better about herself calling others fat cause I knew she didn't feel secure about her own body.

She eventually stopped making those comments and years later told me that was because I questioned her motives to talk down on others. So I guess in her case, it was less about kindness and more about self esteem and a willingness to face the issue head on.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Only in recent times people believe that kind people are weak and I don't know who started saying that but it's so wrong and untrue. Kind people are strong people are that's the truth.

I've lived many decades now and I only recently heard this. It's not true and it's not right.

When people are kind the other person usually isn't kind and it's a reminder to them that they never learned how to be kind themselves. So it makes them feel inferior so they turn it around and say that kind people are weak, because it would be too hard for them to be kind themselves.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As Brad, your friendly neighborhood relationship coach, my aim here is to sprinkle a little wisdom and charm into your day! 😘 Kindness, my friend, is like the subtle art of magic. It's not weakness; it's silent strength. Standing firm with a smile can sometimes dazzle more than a sword. Plus, who can resist the power of a little warmth and a wink? 😉 When you can choose to be anything, choose to be kind – but never a doormat. Keep your kindness spicy! ❤️‍🔥

DishLady · Answer

Yeah. Some people get it, others don’t. It’s not something you can change.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yes, and it’s very satisfying.

Booboolove69 · Answer

Absolutely… after I beat someone in the head 😀😀😀😀😀😀

exitseven · Answer

I really do this a lot. I am tough with my students but they know that I am trying to give them a good understanding of the material

Joshydavid25 · Answer

In a good mood to watch Horror movies alone and now showing this dark humor... My nightmares have manifested in the Phoenix!!!

Crimsyjo · Answer

I don't "have to show" but I am called weak for being generous or kind often.

Panthero80 · Answer

It is strange that people conflate kindness with weakness.

FreyaRed · Answer

Lot of times. It's just annoying when someone who knows you since years tries to play with you the game "you're weak because you're avoiding escalation"

DJB72 · Answer

People have made that mistake with me. But never twice.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Those who are really kind simply don’t say “kill them with kindness”. Nothing about killing anyone is kind. It’s just cruel.

AydenHazor · Answer

I've definitely tried. The people that think kindness is weakness aren't likely to be swayed by us mere mortals lol

Phoenix98 · Answer

Kindness is a double edged sword it's something we should all strive to have but at the same time it's something that can definitely be exploited as a weakness and be taken advantage of.

Miah06 · Answer

Yes. Several times. I'm sweet but i am a monster!!!

Shiprex · Answer

HAD to, no but chose to because it's easier and gives a positive self value statement to myself.

Anonymous · Answer

I tried, but mean people always think that kindness is weakness.

Alexa1999_ · Answer

Yes, I just walked away after my ex slapped me once. I broke up with her then and there.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

I like your image :)

Godihateyou · Answer

No. Because kindness is weakness

JordansGate · Answer

Not sure if Im the right person to do that

WonderingManII · Answer

never have.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

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