People that are in relationships should stay off of social media as much as possible, Agree or Disagree?

[Finchie40]

I came across an article that said How social media affects relationships, and I totally agree with it because I feel social media played a big part in ruining my marriage with my wife , that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with before Facebook was even really a thing. When Facebook came out that’s when my marriage started going down the tubes or when I noticed it going down the tubes. The article I read primarily focused on how most males’ and females’ compare their lives to other people’s and how social media plays a big part on doing that to people, basically implying
that people compare their lives’ to other peoples’ making people think grass is greener on the other side. Most relationships and marriages ended due to things they read and seen and heard from social media. Basically saying it contributes to turn happy relationships into bad relationships and how all of a sudden your partner no longer desires you and loves you like they use to , because they compare their lives to other peoples’ by thinking that’s where they should be and thinking that’s how they should be treated etc.. So my advice to people in relationships, Stay off of social media as much as possible , and realize what you already have in front of you , is all you need and realize you are blessed if you found someone that loves you like
You love them , not everyone ends up with a partner , so respect your relationship as much as possible , you didn’t meet each other to fall out of love and to become enemies , you met because you fell for each other for Love , , the only time you should walk away from a partner, is if you are being beaten and abused , or constantly lied to and cheated on , otherwise fix your relationship with your partner , and stay away from social media. Social media was designed as a money making tool and a platform to make money. All the negative things you read and see on social media is ways for divorce attorney to make money

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Disagree.

Staying off by default is unfounded, because social media isn't the prime cause in that article you summed up. The prime cause is thirst for comparison, this lack of capacity to comprehend that appearances are deceitful. Developing that capacity is the cure, to pierce through appearances, what society is, what it isn't, what we want to see, why we want to compare what is in fact not comparable. In short, developing knowledge, critical thinking, education.

The social media that is YouTube gives me a wild access to music, and when I wish for that, edutainment content that I wouldn't necessarily find somewhere else. Upside here.

The social media that is Instagram showed me a lot of unknown artists, I couldn't even think they existed. Upside here.

The social media that is G@G is a plus for my relationship, because we're all, using questions and answers, opening a lot of priceless topics. Some, many I wouldn't even think about, alone. So it's a gold mine here, to me. As I'm using it, almost daily, to get to know better my girlfriend, what she thinks, what I think, to deconstruct or confirm what we thought about each other without saying it. Big upside here.

[RavVid]

I'm oddball in that I have never felt inclined to social media. Technically I guess that I am with GAG and Youtube but I see them as different.

I think classic social media breaches mate guarding. Both guys and girls mate guard their mate guard their partner and mate guard themselves. Even animals do it. On GAG you do see people who are unhappy that their partner is follow and interacting with the opposite gender to a degree that would have been difficult before Facebook.

So it quite likely causes an under-current of suspicion and jealousy between couples.

I can see your main point as being quite real. The more sexual partners a woman has had correlates with less happiness with her husband. With 20 past partners, it is quite probable that one of them was better at fixing cars or better at cooking or better at being empathetic. The husband is likely inferior to that past stable of 20 men.

So the wife is unhappy with the husband in every major aspect. It is not hard to see that could also happen via social media as well. In fact it is hard not to see that happening.

Women tend to be more jealous and to feel bad at another woman's success. There is probably always going to someone on a big overseas trip to be jealous of.

Oddly husband happiness with wife has no correlation with the number of past partners. However you are indicating that your happiness with wife reduced from social media.

Girls on the internet being nicer and more charming to you than the wife could well be a major factor. I would like to know more about how you became less wife happy.

[RavVid]

A little more. People who flirt turn out to be less happy with their partner than those that don't..

[Crimsyjo]

It's good advice but I think some people can use social media without issue. I think to an extent they must be looking for this stuff. They could go on socials just to talk to family. Or look at funny animal. memes. if they start looking at relationship memes or toxic things that says something about where their mind is beforehand and maybe once those things start flooding in it doesn't help but I think people who are truly happy won't read into those articles so much.

[Apple1996]

Nah social media would only destroy a relationship that wasn't strong in the first place. I often talk to family, friends and my husband through social media so it would be really isolating not to use it

[spartan55]

Yeah, it's incredible to think that any relationship ever survived at all before likes, follows, and 'being posted'. /s 🙄

[AI Opinion]

Spilling the relationship tea is what I'm here for! 😏 Social media can be a double-edged sword in the love game. It's a place where lovebirds can feel trapped by comparison, leading to some serious relationship turbulence. 🚨 It's all about those boundaries, darling! Keep your focus on your partner and the awesome connection you've built, not the highlight reel of your friends' #PerfectLife. Open communication can do wonders in shifting focus back to what truly matters: each other. Forget that social media envy and remember to do your love thing IRL! 💑

[AviatorTom]

I disagree. There's nothing wrong with social media... when it's used properly. In a relationship, it's perfectly legitimate to use social media to stay in touch with family, friends and colleagues, and to communicate with your partner.

[Finchie40]

Even if used properly the article was stating that it can easily brain wash people without realizing it is , basically filling their heads with nonsense without realizing it is, Social media was designed as a money making platform , to brain washes people into wanting certain things that they really don’t need , and making them think they need it , it all comes down to money , Most divorces occur because social media was involved , a partner secretly having an affair with an old friend or an ex , that easily came back into the picture , So all it was saying it can brain wash people without them realizing it is. They say females’ are the most likely to fall into it because they are all about fashion and beauty and comparing their lives to each other , thinking grass is greener on the other side. So it mainly targets females’ more than males’ because females’ are apparently more vulnerable than men are , Like I said it’s an article that I kind of agree with considering i experienced and witnessed social media being a reason for breaking up a relationship. When one partner decides they deserve better than what they already have in front of them

[princeofromance]

I agree 100%. Social media is very harmful.

[NicholasRedone]

@Finchie40 Without such folks GAG would be less informative to hear other couples having a banging good time banging away 😆 "my boyfriend bought me a new dress and I love it" or "my girlfriend thinks we need a new toy, so should be me a"

[Twalli]

I think that people generally don't show their problems on social media. So, all you see is their good times. A friend of mine posted a picture of his girlfriend kissing him and she sent it with a caption saying how much she loved him. 3 days later they were broken up. No indication by anything either of them had said online.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Superb example lol

[Cormac995]

People should stay away from social media as much as possible. It's a drug, I was off social media for 3 years I made a couple posts here looking for advice and now I'm coming back here again daily and I can feel it messing with my head some.

[Nikki1989]

Social media can only harm a relationship when that relationship is doomed to fail anyway. It is a handy excuse to use but hardly a valid one. Ultimately, the impact of social media on a relationship depends heavily on the individuals involved, their communication styles, and their internet habits.

[Finchie40]

It was just stating that social media can be a gateway to ruin a relationship or marriage by brain washing people to believe in things without them realizing the impact it is doing on themselves

[dustybiker2]

My man flipped off the news with a quick swipe the other night. That's love.

[Finchie40]

The news can be bad as well lol

[dustybiker2]

Yes. Like a train wreck.

[AMS700CX4u2]

People in relationships should not take social media too seriously. It appears that we are considering others opinions and the steering factors they present way too much.. Be yourself and stop trying to force yourself into their mold. Be you. As far as a relationship is concerned Your friends opinions should be meaningless. However, I would be remiss to leave out warnings about abusive spouses. But I think most people know when they are being abused.

[jshm2]

It was probably written by some 70 year old hag on her third marriage, and you should laugh at her.

If a relationship is good; then there is little social media, gossip, or reading half-assed "relationship" blogs can do to make things turn south.

The problem is that kids today think they are inventing a new wheel. When in fact how people get together, make a family, and make it work, has never changed.

[Geo1970]

I don’t see the problem of interacting with social media, as long as it does not govern your life, what’s the big deal?


In my opinion when it comes to social media or people filming themselves, subsequently walking down the street and not looking where they are going is more irritating in today’s society.

[Shiprex]

I think there is merit to this idea. The whole social media landscape is too enthralling and distraction. The ease with which people can be drawn in to inappropriate and damaging situations as well as the lack of accountability of the platforms for scams and criminality is too great.

[beenherebefore]

I've deleted social media one year ago and to me it was a good decision. My partner still uses social media tho.

[strateguy632]

Good idea because it social medias
cause so much frustration and even anger!

[DryGermanGuy]

Everybody should stay off antisocial media as much as possible. It's way healthier.

[sage2021]

I believe that for it to be effective you have to stay off social media websites to begin with. Period. Even way before the teenage years before it can poison your mind.

The ONLY social websites that I have been on is this one.

[strateguy632]

I disagree because giving marking likes to pretty gals pics, is just a compliment. I see ladies on bus and train to job! But people say i= a man can't look at lady Instagram That is unreasonable.

[aquamarine321]

It depends on the individual, because not all people are influenced by society and social media

[TheSpaceGnome]

People should stay off of social media as much as possible whether in a relationship, or single.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I also don't see gag or youtube as social media, gag is a question and answer site, youtube is a video hosting site, things like facebook are social media, where the focus is on everyone's day to day lives.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also my readoning has nothing to do with yours, I think social media is bad because of the same readon cekeb worship or obsessing over politicians or the news is bad.

Letting other people's lives drown out your own free time is a waste.
People should get hobbies and learn new skills instead of "following"other people's lives.

[TheSpaceGnome]

reasoning*

[TheSpaceGnome]

celeb*

[NathanDavis]

none of my eyes are that much into social media... I don't even have them

[Anonymous]

What a load of bullshit, your wife did right in leaving you

[Finchie40]

LOL I did right on leaving her and what does this have to do with my question? I was just saying what this article
I read was saying about relationships?

[Finchie40]

And social media

[nawtee_me]

Everyone has the right to be on social media.

[Finchie40]

What’s that have to do with my question lol of course everyone has a right to be on social media. The article a read was just saying people in relationships should stay off of social media as much as possible because it apparently can brain wash people without them realizing it is , which in turn can effect your relationship with someone , by thinking grass is greener on the other side

[LiaRaven]

I don’t see a reason for that

[Finchie40]

It was just saying how social media can easily effect relationships without realizing you are doing so , Saying that social media was designed as a money making tool to brain wash people into buying things to make money , So apparently most of the Memes that pop up and say your partner is cheating if they are doing this or doing that etc. are memes created by divorce attorneys’ that are hoping a marriage ends so they make money , As well as other things on social media that influence people to not love and care about their partner anymore , making people think grass is greener On the other side , instead of valuing what you already have in front of you. Back on the day before social media was really a thing , Salesman would knock on your front door trying to sell you some lame product that tried convincing you that it’s worth the price, to make money , Social media pretty much eliminated those salesman knocking on your door. So again the article was saying that people
In relationships should limit themselves or stay off aloof social media as much as possible because it can easily brainwash you to think your relationship and life is miserable and not where you should be in life. Making you assume you need better than what you already have in front of you

[Anonymous]

What a ridiculous idea. Let's go back to the stone age if you want. 🙄🤣

[spartan55]

Okay, then explain how social media makes relationships better?

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say that social media makes relationships better. If a couple loves and trusts each other, social media can't harm them at all. I think you are unnecessarily afraid of social media.

[spartan55]

No, not afraid of it, I just understand and have seen what it can do first hand. If you think it's ridiculous to avoid social media than how do you not believe it improves relationships? What's the purpose then?

[Opinion Owner]

A relationship is not a prison. Just because I'm in a relationship, why can't I watch my favorite sitcom on YouTube? Why can't I like an actor's post on Instagram? Why can't I comment on a food post on Facebook? If my spouse/partner is going to be jealous of me for doing these things, let's break up from the very beginning so that both parties can be comfortable.

Avoiding social media is ridiculous because being without social media nowadays is like being hungry and thirsty. However, I don't think social media makes a relationship better. Social media is just entertainment as long as you don't use it in a bad way. What do you think about this? If you were in a relationship, would you stop using social media? Can you explain why?

[spartan55]

That's where the nuance enters. The examples you mentioned are in not going to undermine a relationship. Imho the harmful side is the endless comparison of ourselves to others and their relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

I repeat, if the couple loves each other, then rest assured that they will not compare themselves to others. Why do you think couples compare themselves to other people?

[spartan55]

I'm not sure why. I think that solid longterm relationships are definitely less susceptible to the problem. But for new relationships? Ones that have existing issues? (lack of trust for example) Definitely helps thing move in a negative way.

[Opinion Owner]

A self-respecting person does not waste the person they love for the sake of social media. Don't worry.

[spartan55]

Sure they do, all the time in fact. This forum is full of evidence pointing to it.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmmm

[Anonymous]

I agree 100%.

[blackeagle007]

All ages. It fucks with everyone’s minds

[chocolatetwopointo]

disagree

[spartan55]

Of course you do.