What's your toxic trait?

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It can be a previous trait that you acknowledged and dealt with or something you still deal with.

For me it was sometimes being too nice and too forgiving. Not wanting to ask for help is another i still deal with. And probably overthinking... making bad decisions based on emotions... lol etcetera, etcetera...

What about you? Be honest... judgement free zone on my posts 🙃

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

This might be weird but, I think I am a naturally arrogant person so part of how my relationship is structured is about deliberate ways to humble me, which are my idea, I feel like there are two parts of me and one part is trying to keep the other part under control (not like an actual split personality just like conflicting goals or something).

Other than that, I tend to be pretty organized, I like things neat and clean, I like it when people are on time, I annoy people sometimes by doing things like clipping coupons and carrying them around with me and. using them when I get a chance.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Controlling tendencies. A need to always have everything in my control. I think that's part of the reason my last relationship failed tbh.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there, lovely! 😘 As a relationship coach on GAG with a knack for understanding these things, I'll spill my own tea... I used to avoid conflict like it was a bad haircut. 😂 But let's be real, relationships need a bit of drama to spice things up, right? Now, I've learned to communicate better without wearing my boxing gloves. Cheers to self-improvement and a bit of sass! 😉✨

DishLady · Answer

That's a good question... Toxic to myself is the trait of letting people into my life who aren't "worthy" of being in my life. (It's something I was told by a few people this past week. I've never thought of who is or isn't "worthy" that way... sounds too snooty to me, tbh.) Toxic towards other people... I'd say possibly I hold folks to the same strict standard that I hold myself and I don't take any sass or disrespect from anyone anymore, which can register as "toxic" to loosey goosey personality types...

DangerouslyCute · Answer

when I feel hurt, I back off... I'm not really communicating when I try to get over my hurt feelings... especially if I feel that the person doesn't care...

my partners learned in quite early stages of our relationships that simple apologies work miracles for me :D

but there are people who are too proud to say it... or they never felt the need? I don't know... and then it takes time for me to get over it and resume the relationship we had

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

I always thought that I was a loner cos people didn't want to help or be close to me but in reality I rarely ask for help and when they start helping I get pissed off cos I want it exactly my way and turn them down in the middle of it.
Also some people around me helped me realize that when I'm thinking that I'm being friendly and social I am NOT in fact friendly and social at all so yea - I was the problem all the time lol.
I wouldn't say I have a toxic trait now cos it's hard to acknowledhe stuff like that whwn you're in the process so I'll just hope thos was my only toxic trait and I got over it

Anonymous · Answer

I feel things too deeply apparently. An on and off fling I used to have (2 years) made out with some girl at a club and I found out he’d been taking to another girl- I was throwing up so much that blood came out. I was sick for months and lost about 13kg in just under 3 months.
Found out my brother and my dad spend time together and are close even after my dad cheated and beat our mom and was abusive and neglected us. I hadn’t eaten that day but I was vomiting up foam and blood too from how much I was.
Honestly when people do actual bad things like this- cheating, lying, betrayal, ect- I get extremely sick.
Especially betrayal, sometimes that can sit with me for years.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

Let me see,

I used to be an angry alcoholic and a druggie, who thought the world was against me and I was against the world - nothing was worth fighting for: since shit would just blow up in the end somehow - so i would ruin relations and good things before it did, I manipulated, was controlling and could become violent.

Anonymous · Answer

Low key Manipulating and controlling my husband. He thinks he leads in the relationship and makes the decisions and plans but I just steer him in the direction.

I also don't apologise or admit fault when we argue and I usually start arguments and I use my sexuality and sex to make him forget if he's really pissed off at me.

SotiCoto · Answer

Honestly it is not for me to say. I'm pretty sure people have called me "toxic" for things I'm actively proud of or don't regard as important at all.
And frankly I don't like the term "toxic" in this context at all as I'm literal-minded, and my body is not poisonous.

I suppose if I have any particular trait that has probably caused the most trouble over the years, I've got an insanely overclocked sense of justice... combined with having very non-standard ethics. I tend to go into full crusade mode at the drop of a hat against things that most people wouldn't even think about at all, let alone regard as wrong... and if I can't get them to admit their wrongdoing and repent then I tend to mentally mark them as unforgivably evil and in need of extreme purging... which I've done to tens of thousands of people I've interacted with over my lifespan, and probably billions I've never met based on character traits.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Working in the blue collar field for so many years honestly kinda turned me into an asshole.

And I don't mean I'm trying to be that way on purpose but that I just come off that way. So I kinda have to check myself when interacting with people outside of work.

Also I can be really, really stubborn.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Nothing! I always keep my boundaries intact. A typically masculine toxic trait is to make any two girls jealous of each other. That’s a man’s legacy. It’s weird to watch their inferiority. They simply can’t love two women at the same time. They fap to it I guess? It’s always better to have sex with two than fuck one and fap to the other one. Yikes!

Cormac995 · Answer

I can get really really angry and hit things. "THINGS" not people or animals but sometimes I get so angry I punch furniture or pound my hands on tables. Sometimes I might throw something but I'm always careful not to hurt anyone or anything. I don't know how to describe it other than controlled rage.

serious · Answer

Good question but for me I would say it would that I have plenty of self respect and there are many things I will never accept and tolerate. Yes, I am also a man who is very defensive, rigid and closed minded and I believe in protecting myself from getting hurt instead of exploring life be it in any area.

sage2021 · Answer

Patience. I used to be so impatient until I became a Mommy. I had the patience of a saint with my son.

Jay-_- · Answer

Overcaring, I support the saying "don't do what you don't want done to you" so when certain things are said or done and I know I kept myself in check I snap. Sometimes depends what it was tho obviously.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Being nice and forgiving aren't toxic traits at all 🤗

Me? I'm imbalanced and abrasive. I might make a joke about something or someone and rather than just let it sit (assuming I have a good delivery...which I very often don't 🙄), I end up worrying if it was truly hurtful.

If the joke is about a thing and not a person, one of my friends might say something to the effect of "tell us how you really feel."

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I am critical but it's because a good reason. I won't say nothing if things are done right.

Otherwise I'm chill and don't have toxic traits unless you consider me being prone to random isolation toxic and selfish with my time.

Communicationisking · Answer

Not really a toxic thing but not something that does me any favors... being too trusting

Crimsyjo · Answer

Ha I can match you on your traits exactly. Add some jealousy and insecurity lol

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I don't know if it's toxic but I had a tendency to not speak up for myself and bottle up my feelings

Sugar100 · Answer

I’m clingy need be with guy daily.  I want things move fast as from my experience moving slow wastes your time & is not serious.  im shy , not good at making long convos.

fonduegirl · Answer

All of the above, except love tests. I don't believe in love 😗

Stevepro68 · Answer

I have struggled to not not correct my loved ones that say something ridiculously bad informed about medicine. Especially offering unmasked for medical advice.

girlboss · Answer

my man says i manipulate him, and he says that when im trying to openly share my feelings w him...

dragoblack · Answer

I have a tendency to motormouth, overshare, advertise things i like, and unconsentually verbally vent when stressed.

Anonymous · Answer

I shut down instead of talking about how I feel because I was taught to keep things inside

WhiteThought · Answer

I wouldn't really consider it toxic, but I am very blunt and keep a very neutral tone while doing so, so people immediately assume I'm an asshole. They aren't wrong, but I'm not always trying to be.

OddBeMe · Answer

I have no toxic trait! How dare you! I'm perfect

Kokishin · Answer

I enjoy having secrets, even if they are not important. I do not always give answers.

Zack-Bann · Answer

According to others at least, I don’t open up very easily  I never felt like I keep things hidden but maybe I’m not as vulnerable as I should be at times

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes I get angry too fast. Luckily, it doesn't last long :P

Shiprex · Answer

I have been described as being defensive as a trait

AydenHazor · Answer

I'm right there with you. I've been too nice and accommodating, and I still struggle to ask for help.

WonderingManII · Answer

overthinking.. bad decisions based on emotions.. I agree with these, as maybe something I do.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Sometimes i get angry fast and becomes aggressive! 95% of the times i'm right...

lostghost · Answer

I too overthink.. my bad quality i forgive people easily

exitseven · Answer

I have a lot of rage. I am working on it

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Nothing. I am perfect :P... heh heh

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'm too honest for my own good. It costs me repeatedly in life.

Anonymous · Answer

Too intense  Maybe in autistic  People have said it Comes out in work where I'm fixated if something of mine isn't working

clampfan101 · Answer

Self toxic ones, like being too hard on myself.

Emmytexrex · Answer

I don't have I am an angel lol

Staximus · Answer

Highly critical

Demi89 · Answer

I need to be right especially when I’m right.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Arrogance and self serving

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Taking people for granted.

worldscolide · Answer

Im honest, no matter how bad it hurts.

Brandi555 · Answer

I feel like I have to please everyone.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I'm opinionated. Who knew?

Panthero80 · Answer

I suppose needing to be right.

Professor-college · Answer

I don't do any of those things

Massageman · Answer

Too logical.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

For me it was being to clingy

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