What do men get from marriage that they can't get from a regular relationship?

[Vegasrunner]

[Purpleronnie]

In my opinion nothing , but then I have never sought to marry. However I don’t know that other men’s expectations are realistic or even fair or that it isn’t more about the union or ceremony than anything else. I accept that some men may just believe it’s what they “should do” because that’s what their parents and peers did. Some likely because the other wanted it and for the sake of the relationship , went along with it. Some because union made sense before having a family as that’s considered more socially or culturally acceptable.


Perhaps overwhelmingly though it shouldn’t be about what men get out of it , or what women get out of it. I’d say if you’re looking at it that way marriage just isn’t / shouldn’t be for you.





Personally i

[Zack-Bann]

A family


And yes you can build one without formal marriage but it will always be missing something


Imagine if your father referred to your mother has his girlfriend instead of his wife
There’s something truly broken about that

[alli-112]

I mean, aside from the whole vows thing that's just sort of symbolic (good for the mind or soul I'd argue), there's some legal stuff that many couples find helpful. Mostly stuff to do with hospitals and taxes and the like.

I think that marriage is worthwhile if you're with someone that you want to commit to figuring it out with for the rest of your life.

[Vegasrunner]

@alli-112 The question asked what's the benifit to men?

[alli-112]

I know. I answered the question. You can read it above.

[Vegasrunner]

@alli-112 You literally outlined no benifits for men. Are you attempting to validate the point that there isn't one?

[alli-112]

1. Certain rights in hospitals, etc if your spouse is injured
2. Combined taxes resulting in better deductions and the like, as well as the ability to open joint accounts, etc (basically, more efficient finances)
3. The mental/emotional benefit of being committed to a life partner (arguably subjective, but it's something a lot of people enjoy, so I list it.)

None of these are exclusive to men, but they are still things married men can benefit from. There definitely other things that legal marriage allows, but frankly it's easily google-able if you want the nitty gritty. I'm personally not married, so I've never had to look into it too closely.

[Vegasrunner]

@alli-112 TY for sharing as this validates my belief that women don't understand men. All these things are either not a benifit or only a benifit to women. Ei: Joint Bank Account. Women create 2/3 of the world's consumer debt, how would providing them access to your money benifit a man?

[alli-112]

I mean, it's only a benefit if it's something you want. If being married isn't something you want, then it's not going to be beneficial to you any more than a lifetime supply of ice cream would be to someone who didn't like ice cream.

If the idea of a committed relationship in which you share in all or most aspects of your life with a partner doesn't sound like something that you'd enjoy, then you probably should just not do it. If joint finances, for example, isn't useful to you, then don't join your finances. To a lot of people it's very useful in terms of managing a shared household, but that doens't mean it's the right fit for you.

I feel like you're looking for an argument that marriage is beneficial even to the people that don't want it, but I don't really think that's true to begin with, so I can hardly argue in favor of it.

If you really want to get into it then theere's some research regard how men and women psychologically benefit, on average, from marriage and some studies suggest men tend to benefit more since women tend to take on more emotional and domestic labor, even when contributing equally financially. But I don't think those are objective truths about marriage, just current trends, so I didn't include them initially. And I still don't think it's enough to validate a individual, male or otherwise, marrying when they are not inclined to do so.

[Vegasrunner]

@alli-112 Its a straightforward question. The fact that you have to apply all these exceptions, prove that there is little to no benifit of marriage to men.

[linguistrosey]

They get to be actual fathers to their children rather than being deadbeat dads with no legal obligation to provide for their children and contributing to a fragmented society.

[Vegasrunner]

@linguistrosey That's a benifit for women.

[linguistrosey]

It is not. Having children is very much tiring. A woman risks her body and her health to have childrem, not to mention her mental health postpartum. If you don't want children and the consequences that come with it, don't have sex. If you want a collapsing society and fragmented family unit just for 5 min ballbusting, don't.

[Vegasrunner]

@linguistrosey How is this a benifit for men?

[grega239]

Marrige isn't required to be a father

[linguistrosey]

@grega239 it pretty much is unless as I said you'd like to live in a broken society, exactly how feminists intend for it to happen.

[Vegasrunner]

@linguistrosey Still not an answer to the question asked. Your simply taking your personal opinion and pretending it's fact. You don't need to be married to be a father.

[linguistrosey]

@Vegasrunner I was not talking to you

[grega239]

Cavemen didn't have marriges and they managed

[linguistrosey]

@grega239 Cavemen also raped and murdered. Not a great analogy

[Vegasrunner]

@linguistrosey How is that relevant to the fact that you're providing false information?

[linguistrosey]

@Vegasrunner I was not talking to you

[grega239]

Not sure about the rape part.

Still didn't need marrige

[linguistrosey]

@grega239 still not a great idea to compare today's civilization with the prehistorical era. Cavemen were closer to apes than today's humans. Yes, they raped and murdered. There's a reason why marriages are a thing and why it's so widespread that even homosexuals were fighting for that right.

[grega239]

Still dont need a marrige to be a father.
Still dont see how it benefits men

[Vegasrunner]

@linguistrosey There's an obvious benifit to homsexual marriages.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, love experts-in-the-making! 😉 Marriage offers something magical that a regular relationship just can't capture. It's like leveling up in the game of love! With marriage, you get a deeper commitment, shared life goals, and often a sense of secure partnership. It's an emotional and legal vow that binds two people together—like a long Netflix series but with a better plot and no remote control fights! 📺💖

[RavVid]

Nuthing absolutely nuthing.

That is not quite true.

Probably they won't get nagged as much or get refused sex as much.

[captain_voidwalker]

Well they get the risk of losing thier house thier kids 50% of thier savings and 70% of thier future income

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

You can't put a price on something like that.

[Vegasrunner]

@captain_voidwalker Good point, so you're saying they're just taking on risk?

[captain_voidwalker]

Pretty much

[altaboy]

Men get a partner, a second income, certain tax advantages (in my country) and maybe a family.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

nothing, women dont get anything either, its pointless

[Vegasrunner]

@chocolatetwopointtwo Women get protection security, legal rights etc.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

what legal rights? and protection from what? dont men get this?

[Vegasrunner]

@chocolatetwopointtwo Custody, Financially etc, physical protection, provisioning as well. No men do not get this. Court systems are designed to favor women, and women can't protect and dont provide for men.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

its not the 1950s anymore. women provide for broke men all the time, and protection fron what?
and if marriage is so awful why haven't u done anything ab it?

[Vegasrunner]

@chocolatetwopointtwo Correct its 2025 and women provide less value to men. Women don't provide for men a fraction of the amount vs men providing for women but I understand why you don't know this. I've done a great thing about marriage. I didn't get married and I warn men about the risk.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

in what world r u living in? ik women who provide for their broke and unemployed boyfriends. protection from what? and why haven't u changed marriage if its so awful?

[Vegasrunner]

In the real world. Adult women don't provide for adult men.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

then u have never been in the real world

[Vegasrunner]

@chocolatetwopointtwo That's a position that you need to take to help deal with the fact you're incorrect about this subject matter. It's pretty standard female tactic.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

nope. many women help their boyfriend while they’re unemployed by providing for them.

[Beckybooboo]

@chocolatetwopointtwo If it wasn't for men, you wouldn't even have a right to vote or own property or have a bank account lol You're so cute 🥰

[LiamJHayden]

Other than an heir who does not have to pay inheritance taxes if it is done right? Nothing.

[lorenzomichael]

Someone to do your laundry.

[Vegasrunner]

@lorenzomichael Don't need to be married for that.

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah that’s true but that’s what came to mind.

[Anonymous]

Tax breaks and a wedding ring

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous Female benifit

[grega239]

Jack shit and fuck all

[qwerty2469]

Poverty

[Pterodon]

Real commitment

[Vegasrunner]

@Pterodon That's a benifit for women.

[Anonymous]

Divorced