Should I disregard my husband's family and not invite them?

[Paradiseequeen]

I recently made an announcement about my husband, which also marks a celebration for us. However, it seems that I'm now being portrayed as the bad person. His family has mistreated me and judged me way before even getting to know me. This started over rumors and gossip around the community. I am not known and apparently not apart of the community gossip group. Years have passed, and I still don't want to interact with or be around his family. Many of his relatives still stay in touch with the women he dated in the past. saying that they are "niece." These individuals deceived him and did him dirty.

Family members gossip excessively about us, especially about my husband, yet these are the same relatives who would associate with someone who harmed you if you were in danger. Their actions have spoken for them numerous times. My husband cut ties with his sister as well.

I apparently do not fit into their so-called clique and don't meet their unhealthy standards. They continue to communicate with people my husband has cut off due to past disrespect. His family chooses to spend time with individuals who would harm you without hesitation, and then they chat with the suspect as if nothing is wrong. Don't get me started with his past relationships.

His mother feels as though she has been stabbed in the back. It is not about being stabbed in the back, its about respecting me. My brother in law also cut off the family as well. She continued to speak with people who my husband cut off and these people proceeded to sabotage my character. My husband, along with his brother and other relatives, has also cut off contact with numerous friends as well. They are not invited to my husband celebration. When my husband was overseas, I experienced disrespect from several of his relatives, which led him to sever ties with them upon his return.. In an effort to avoid trouble, I'm trying not to be a people-pleaser and give in to talking to them and inviting them.

[hannamontana]

You’re not wrong for protecting your peace. If his family has disrespected you for years, spread gossip, and chosen to stay close with people who hurt both you and your husband, then it makes sense to not invite them. Respect is a two-way street, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to include people who’ve never made the effort to treat you right. If your husband supports your decision and has already distanced himself from them, that says a lot. Sometimes, cutting ties is the healthiest thing you can do, even if it’s family.

[Finchie40]

They sound toxic , you are best to stay away from them as much as possible and act like they don’t exist , especially after how they treated you , so yes avoid inviting them ,, they don’t deserve to be a part of your celebration whatsoever

[bowenw]

They sound very toxic. I suggest you let your husband decide if any of them should be invited.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊
I hope the celebration is a success.

[Paradiseequeen]

Thank you!!! I don’t know why I’m just seeing this smh

[bowenw]

Let me know how it goes.

[MasterKS]

sounds like a boring family series story.