Is it wrong to expect my husband to be nice to my family when I wasn't to his?

[Anonymous]

So I been with him for a long time and did go through some rocky situations with my inlaws. I have badmouthed them to him and personally insulted indirectly. I noticed he's also been starting to be the same with mine , like every time seeing them starting arguments. It hurts me to see him to do this to people I love in my blood, but when I think about it maybe I'm in the wrong? Because he also has a family

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5 mo

I also started drama like never really went to visit when invited

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5 mo

Or is he just being immature

[Hawkes_Lady]

If he is doing this in retaliation for your behavior, then yes, he is being childish, but as an adult, you should also have been mature enough to realize that your treating his family disrespectfully could and would hurt him. You both need to grow up and respect each other's family. They are also your family now that the two of you are married. You both choose to marry into these families, even if you don't like each other, you need to both tolerate and respect each other for the sake of the person you love.

[Anonymous]

Yes you’re in the wrong. Both do you are. I don’t like some of my girlfriend’s family member but I keep it cordial. I don’t go out of my way to do things for certain ones but I have respect for them, mainly for her as my girlfriend. She knows it as well, some of the ones I don’t like she feels the same about these same family members of hers. You sound as though you just like to start problems, like you have a lot of issues. Maybe I’m wrong. I’m not trying to pick on you, just the feeling I get from what you wrote.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are in the wrong here, so try being nice to his family.