Advice for first date after a break up/divorce?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I got a date for tomorrow night, with a woman I met at a cultural event. We spent the whole evening chatting up, and it emerged we are both divorced/in the process.

I asked her if we could set a date and she accepted, seemed very into the idea too. This would be the first real proper date I have since my ex wife. I think I'll stick to keep things casual and simple, while gauging her expectations (although it seemed to we were on the same page). I'm not saying I am looking to just hooking up (not that it'd be unwelcome) but a casual and friendly frequentation would be ideal.

Updates

10 mo

I must say it went very well, we already made plans for a second outing.

[Finchie40]

Just have fun and don’t rush into anything serious , get to know them as much as possible, especially if the first date goes well , Suggest being FWB’s with some strings attached with each other , meaning you both only have sex with each other but open to date others’ if you choose to but promise you won’t sleep with anyone else , but if you do , you promise to end the benefits part between us between the both of you and just remain friends’ , For whatever reason this seems to work better with girls’ these days because it gives her time to decide what she really wants as well instead of just basing things off infatuation, which most people do the second they meet someone that they think is amazing to them. The truth is you both truly don’t really know shit about each other , so will usually stay FWB’s with some strings attached with a girl for a few months , if her and I make it after a few months then I will ask her if she wants to be my partner instead of FWB’s , unless she asks me first. Overall it eliminates having both your hearts broken if it doesn’t work out , because you can still be friends instead of enemies

[NathanDavis]

don't make it about divorces and previous partners at all... lol

focus on her, yourself... and enjoy

[Genie23]

I never married but if I go out with someone who's divorced, I'd prefer it if he doesn't talk about his past. I'd rather hear about him. His likes and his dislikes whether it's about food, movies or even about people... I'd like to also hear his goals and things he's passionate about.

So, I'd get an idea what kind of person he is and whether we would get along and I love a man with a sense of humour so I'd appreciate if he shares funny incidents that happened in his life. Hearing a guy who doesn't worry about his reputation and isn't afraid of taking a joke on his himself or share something that will make him look goofy is attractive to me and makes me feel he's easy going and make me want to go out with him again.

You can also wait for her to bring some topics and take it from there.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That's very good advice, thank you!

[Genie23]

You're most welcome 😊

[Genie23]

I was going to thank you for MHO and ask you how it went... then I saw your update. I'm glad to hear that! 😊 And thank you!

[Anonymous]

Start by telling her you want a fuck buddy, if she is looking for the same, then you continue what you did when you spend the whole evening together.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That's a bit too direct, but I get what you mean and will be crystal clear.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to add a dash of spice and wisdom to your dating life! It sounds like you're off to a great start with your date. Since you're both exploring new chapters, keeping it casual and connecting through shared interests is the way to go. It's like a dance—sometimes fast, sometimes slow, but always in sync. Just let the evening flow naturally, enjoy the moment, and see where it leads. And remember, sometimes the heart swoons when you least expect it. Who knows, maybe a little lovebombing is in your future! 😜

[Anonymous]

Dude

the point of dating after divorce *is* to hook up, duh.

simples…

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I never had a date, nor a divorce.

[robocop666]

hint at the bedroom early. If she not interested leave.

[chrissykerdock]

eat your date's pussy on the 1st date

[Pomni]

Go for it and have fun!!

[Anonymous]

You are not wasting time, are you?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

What of it?