Do you feel like the opposite sex expects you to chase them?

[victoriaxoxo]

Yes

No

[DishLady]

Yeah there's a really odd expectation from guys that women will chase them... AND SOME LITTLE CHIPPIES ACTUALLY DO IT... which bolsters the expectation.

The stupid thing? Women like this thing it's "empowering" but they are stupidly giving up the feminine mystique that makes a woman worth having. A woman who knows who she is and keeps her shit together draws a better quality guy.

Ladies... stop throwing your God-given gift into the fire. Eve bit the apple. Adam chased her straight out of PARADISE ITSELF, forsaking everything to spend eternity with her.

And that is love. Anything else is bs.

We're wired by nature to be like this. Why folks are messing with natural order is beyond me. We blame apps for "breaking" relationships, but it's stupidity and undue pride + entitlement that broke the universe we're now floating around in, desensitized to it and living "in the cloud" rather than savoring love "on cloud 9" with the one who deserves us.

[Apple1996]

Yeah but im fine with it. Doesn't bother me to have to put in effort for someone that I like

[OneViewpoint]

As a man it is completely apparent that we are expected to take all the risk of rejection, plan the dates, pay for the dates, and make women feel desired. All while coping with their myriad anxieties and baggage from past encounters with other men they refuse to let go of. Meanwhile guys are lucky to get a basic courtesy like a thank you in return let alone any feeling of being desired by the entitled, self absorbed object of his affection.

Which is why I'm extremely selective about and reluctant to engage with most women these days. It's simply not worth the effort in most cases. TV is generally better entertainment.

[OlderAndWiser]

Well. . . I only remember one woman chasing me over my past 54 years of dating, and that was a married woman who wanted to cheat. I told her to go home and work on her marriage. Otherwise, I have always been the one doing the pursuing.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to spice up your love life! When it comes to the chase, it sure is a classic dance we all know. Trust me, everyone loves being pursued and feeling special, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all. Keep an eye out for healthy balance and mutual interest. If it feels like a marathon, it might be time to pause and reassess the red flags. Remember, love should feel electric, not exhausting! 🌟❤️ Keep smiling and chasing wisely!

[Summeroflove]

Well depends on the person but mature people don’t run away from people who they’re genuinely attracted to. I’m not going to chase after someone for instance who isn’t showing me effort back it’s just not worth my time to play those games.

But it does depend on your definition of chase. Most people are looking for something genuine but there is that percentage of both sexes who just feed off the attention until one day they grow older and aren’t getting as much anymore.

[HawkPerception]

Yeah, the majority do. I don't chase though. If they need me to chase them, they aren't mature enough for me to be with. That's just my take on it. I want a girl who shows she's as interested in me as I am in her

[Finchie40]

Some do and some don’t , I prefer the girl to chase me , it seems I had better relationships with girls’ that chased me over the ones’ that didn’t

[Chazmatazz269]

Not me specifically, but most women still expect the men to whom they’re attracted to play their childish game of “hard to get”.

[Avicenna]

lol, I’ve never expected a woman to ask me out and I have absolutely no fear about doing it myself.

[TrimmedTip]

Yeah, sometimes it definitely feels that way — like it's always on us to make the first move, plan the date, keep the convo going, etc. I don’t mind putting in effort, but when it feels one-sided, it gets exhausting.

It’s way more attractive when someone shows mutual interest — chasing each other a little makes it way more fun.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Most of the time I do. I will blatantly say if I'd be open to a sexual encounter and that's it from me. If they don't even respond to that or play it off as a joke, then that's all it ever will be. I'm not going to chase anyone.

With that said, there has been plenty of times I know for a fact... I could be balls deep in her pussy if I just "played the game." I don't want to play games though. Fuck that shit.

[Anonymous]

As a guy, yeah I expect girls and women wanting to be chased. But after a while if it leads to a whole lot of no where. I’m not going to chase anymore because I don’t care. Dealt with a lot of immature, stupid, pointless girls and women in my life. I can’t bother anymore.

[Nikki1989]

The lazy ones do.

Some men actually think all they need is a dating app profile and women will approach them. Then, years later, they whine about still being single. Ha!

[Zack-Bann]

They expect it
I don’t necessarily do it


Because too many guys do and it makes me just another face in the crowd


I would rather attract.
Give her a reason no to avoid me and so on


It works way better

[alice55]

No with some guys you have to do it but it’s more cause they re super shy so they don’t date to do it themsleves in the end you just need to give them confidence.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't think they expect us to chase them, but they want us to let us know when we like them.

[spartan55]

I challenge anyone to find a woman who doesn't expect the guy to do most of the heavy lifting in a relationship. Especially early on.

[ManOnFire]

Women expect this 100%. This is not rocket science. I think a lot of dudes today want women to chase them, but they aren't actually expecting it.

[Leon1]

Most women will say No they don’t feel expected to chase. Most men will say yes they feel expected to chase. The reality is if you like someone you also need to put the effort in and if you don’t then don’t play games or lead them on.

[Beckybooboo]

I don't think it's expected but it happens, especially if the attraction isn't mutual. If it's a mutual attraction, in my experience, there really isn't much chasing that goes on.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I suspect the brevity of this question, in relation to the topic, must make poll answers totally chaotic lol

[Levin]

To do most of the work, yes.

I would not chase though. I'll make one attempt. Not into playing childish games.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh for balance and effort everyone of us do
If we noticed we are the only one chasing and chasing and the other passing isn't putting effort then it's a waste of time and energy so we all expect that

[lyrem04]

Yes which makes no sense I’m a woman c’mon that’s not how it works now but ig in 2025!!!

[Sunrising]

The problem is I'm a fast sprinter, and the females haven't a chance of catchng me. 🤧

[Sunrising]

@victoriaxoxo congratulations today on your promotion.

[Vegasrunner]

Yes. I believe women expect men to chase them. The problem is the type of man that chases a women usually isn't the type of man women want.

[msc545]

Yes, women seem to always expect this and will sit passively by until you do it. If you don't, they just go away and find some guy who will. It's not very difficult for them but it's terrible for men.

[ProbablyClueless]

I do feel like that... but women are also pretty straight up about that expectation.

[Drumlin2001]

I think men generally do the most work when in early stages of dating.

[MikeTheBartender]

For the initial pursuit yes. After that if she's not interested I'm not chasing.

[WonderingManII]

There was one time in my life when it felt like that. But I could tell for sure, so I didn't want to take the risk.

[Sal_Monella]

They have shown that.
Then...

[convo_king89]

women have have to wear makeup and have a nice body and wear sexy clothing.

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe, but from what i saw, it's women who likes to be chased!

[Gaylordslav]

No opposite sex uses hurtful language towards to create a sense of hatred towards them to stop me from trying to chase them

[Anonymous]

I think nk women still expect us to chase.. And in a post #metoo world that's just not going to happen

[Anonymous]

Well I'm a man, so of course I do. It's just reality. Women don't chase because they are entitled.

[Apple1996]

Some women dont have the luxury of being chased so we have to do it ourselves. It is a entitlement thing somewhat because those women can afford to act that way if they're attractive enough

[Jeff51]

Maybe. I don't know. I'm not chasing anyone.

[Arcadian222]

I dont think men do. For some reason ladies expect the same.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately yes, and I don't like that, I'm too shy, I would prefer if the girls would chase me.

[qwerty2469]

I think the opposite sex wrongly thinks they are chaseable. Thats why they are 43 and unwed. Lolz.

[CubaPirate]

That just ain't happening I'm too old for all that chasing around shit

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes women always wants us to chase them it makes no sense

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of woman misunderstand men.

[queenofcardio]

Now a days yeah.. I will not chase

[MisterWack]

No. Not really.

[WhitneySnow]

No not really

[Jennz6]

They always chase me

[shmeed]

@Jennz6 No shit Jen!

[Alex-Snow]

I have never had the need to chase someone

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Very much so.
But the joke's on them.

[jahaims]

Chasing or wanting to be chased is immature af

[Asgard356]

Sometimes, not all the time

[Anonymous]

No, that's a crime these days

[EmmaMary]

No..

[MasterKS]

They mostly chase me!

[Abbycado]

Nope

[lilBigPotato]

Nah 🤷‍♀️

[kavakava]

Not the smart ones

[Anonymous]

Yes I think so.

[12karen]

Nope

[Kelly6]

@ mostly yes