If your spouse confesses to cheating, would you forgive them?

[TheLovelyWoman]

We’re talking about over 15 years of sleeping with other men out of the 17 of marriage.

[Anonymous]

There is too much disrespect there to accept any type of apology. If someone cheated, and confessed right away, and they made all effort to repair the damage done to our marriage, yes, I could see myself working on forgiveness with them, but 15 years...no. That's 15 years of consistent lies, and putting myself physically endanger because I don't know if the person they slept with has anything. No. Sometimes you have to chose the hard path and close the door and that which doesn't believe in treating you the way you should be treated in the bounds of serious relationship.

[Bricealan]

@thelovelywoman Hard to answer now. Maybe different when I was 20. A girlfriend then cheated on me practically right in my face, even though we went out regularly. So blatantly, and no real reason for doing it other than maybe being drunk.

I guess NOW I would, at the risk of being called a cuck, 'forgive', if she did not 'sneak around' and cheat, but were more open about it and not lie to me about her intention of having had sex with another (s)

Had a one night wonderful episode with a married 'friend', with her husband away for a week. She said her husband had 'accused' her of us fucking, even before we did. Assume he did know or suspect, and she said she would keep denying it.

Setting this up for your reply only as I dont' want the 'cuck' bullshit comments from others.

[abc3643]

Depends, but likely not.
And, this is important: You don't let your spouse know the answer to such a hypothetical "What would you do if I cheated?" because that tells them what THEY would do. It's like the military... don't volunteer information.

[Screenwriter]

In this case, no. Clearly, this man is closeted and his preference is for being with men. He may love you and your children, but he's more gay than straight, though he's bisexual. Everyone has a preference.

But he lied to himself and to you over that time. That wasn't fair. You and he could've moved on if he had been honest.

I hope you can work things out in your divorce. I'd be very angry and disappointed.

Eventually, I'd forgive him. But not right away. I'd get a therapist to help me work through all this mess. Lordy.

Good luck with getting through this. Best regards.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, babe, that's quite the rollercoaster ride! 🎢 In my world of love and drama, forgiveness is a personal choice, and trust can be super tricky to rebuild. Each relationship is as unique as a snowflake, so weigh how you feel and what you truly want. Understanding why it happened and how you both want to move forward is key. No pressure, but communication is your knight in shining armor here! 🌟🔑

[Finchie40]

I might forgive them but I wouldn’t forget and that relationship would be over immediately

[Genie23]

I would forgive eventually once it doesn't hurt as much, but I wouldn't be with him anymore. I can't be with someone I no longer trust.

[princeofromance]

Yes, but you still must move on for they will cheat again.

[PeachyPie93]

Why do you always ask these retarded troll questions Mr. ladyman? lol
There was only 2 years of marriage where there was commitment. The rest was just lies and putting my health at risk. I would divorce and never speak to them again. That ain't even a friend to me.. lying for 15 years and leaving me to look like a fucking idiot while they are whoring around? They would be lucky if I didn't pay someone to beat them into a coma at that point.

[SotiCoto]

15 years of cheating in a 17 year marriage?
If I was married to someone for 17 years and they said they'd been cheating for 15 years and I'd never noticed... I'd tell them to prove it, because I'd like to think I'm a little smarter than to completely fail to notice something like that for a decade and a half.

[TheLovelyWoman]

What signs would give it off?

[SotiCoto]

Well... y'know. If they're cheating then they either gotta go somewhere to do it or someone else has to show up. And if it was going on for 15 years then sooner or later one or other of them would leave evidence.

[TheLovelyWoman]

Not if he travels a lot for work and she showers at the gym before coming home.

[Mangospacho]

If it’s been going on for that long with multiple people, I can’t see a way to move forward without getting a divorce. If the entire relationship was a lie then there’s nothing to repair because the entire marriage was based on the illusion of a commitment.

[Purpleronnie]

I would forgive them yes , it does sound like they would have some sort of deep seated psycho-sexual issue but the marriage would be over … nothing would remain.

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[DryGermanGuy]

Is she operating a male harem or something similar? That poor guy must be king of the cuckolds, if there is such a ranking. Oh, and the answer is „No, slut.“

[Joshydavid25]

That might be a hefty task considering the cheating has been going on for almost all of the marriage.. I would forgive them though as I hand them the divorce papers..

[Steelcore5280]

Hell no. Infidelity is an unforgivable thing to me. Once you've crossed into the realm of infidelity, you and I are done. You're outta my life forever and you can go and be someone else's problem at that point.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It would take a hell of a lot of convincing to get me to stay with someone who used me as a beard for over a decade and a half.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I could forgive but I would still divorce her. Whether its 15 years of cheating or just once, it makes no difference to me

[Gaylordslav]

@BonzoInBitburg 15yrs of her being a outside cat getting railed by various cocks, losing sexual interest in you, living rent free and eating your food just to get a divorce, take your home and potentially child support lol f all that.

[Caroline91]

Eventually for my own good so that I could move on. The relationship would be over.

[Flower7]

No definitely not. Forgiveness is for mistakes, not regular patterns of behavior.

[Julie07]

It's difficult to answer. Who can be sure how it will react in a real situation?

[strateguy632]

Confess... i wouldn't believe her that she did bad , not 15 years , not even once.

[Anonymous]

¿is this you, i think you mentioned in another question that your youngest child is not your husband’s?

[FreyaRed]

Forgive instantly, but dumping instantly as well

[capriVib]

Of course, I forgive she, which of us doesn't occasionally cheat on our husbands? 😂

[Berethor]

I would not forgive that, hos are for the streets. It's time to divorce her, or shoot her.

[Crankor]

15 years? Damn. I wouldn't after the first time. Its pretty clear they dont take marriage seriously. Unless you want an open relationship, time to be single again

[DonaldDarko]

Forgiving her would be irrelevant as it wouldn't change what she is.

[douride2]

Not a chance I will forgive a cheating spouse. If he cheats he is out the door gone forever out of my life.

[genericname85]

yeah forgive them. i think it shows great character to be honest about this. i will leave them tho. forgive them yes but not stay with them.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Maybe one day. But I wouldn't take him back.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

No my entire opinion of her would be destroyed.

[msc545]

I would forgive, but never forget. It would be the end of our marriage, and there would be no friendship or further contact.

[Oldschool1981]

Sure, no problem. So long as she doesn't get pregnant, I don't see the issue.

[soe11]

• On above case will not forgive.
• But ending relationship with peace.

[an_nMary]

Never going to give that a chance to proceed anymore

[Alex-Snow]

That is a lot of cheating. I could maybe see a one time fling or hookup but this is way too much

[Yannae]

No that's the end of the relationship. If I let her stay, that paranoia will most likely stay.

[Pohjolan]

15 years? Men as in plural?

Nah.

I could forgive one time if children were involved but that's too far.

[Anonymous]

No disgusting people don't deserve forgiveness.

[Anonymous]

no. that marriage is a LIE if it was happening that long. wow...

[Anonymous]

You are really disgusting you know that? Lovely my ass.

[Anonymous]

No, that’s a breach of fundamental trust. I wouldn’t forgive or forget.

[foxsquirrell]

I think the question should have been would you kill her! lol

[FenixG45]

*WOW* I don't think so! That's a BIG ask! I think the marriage is done!

[Gaylordslav]

No, I would probably just kill her. Good thing im queer or else

[Bklynbadboy12]

Hell no she'd be dumped Hella fast and divorced even faster

[Shihab_91]

No, maybe this means they regret it but it also shows they couldn't control themselves

[Jordi2525]

If you like cuckolding, there would be forgiveness.

[Jeanne_neko]

i dont think so cheating should be forgiven ever so kick him out

[BrownEyeGirl5]

Depends who it was with. If they lied about at first.

[EmmaMary]

NEVER.

[Miristheiss]

You mean STAY WITH THEM? No.

[BadApple69]

Does the other man have a nice fishing boat?

[alice55]

I wouldn't, I would leave them directly.

[tzdc21]

Nope. Never. Onve you cheat, it's over

[glennos89]

Never would I accept that. That really messed up

[exitseven]

Nope, it would be a big Adios!

[LiamJHayden]

Forgive, yes. Stay with, no.

[Dongie]

Yes, from a very far distance.

[dougeats]

first time probably

[BigSwingingBalls]

no but i might still punish fk them

[blackeagle007]

Nope and nope. C-ya

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Forgive, yes, but I wouldn't be with her anymore.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe I would.