Should your partner be supportive and have your back when your family causes you problems?

[Anonymous]

My mom can be quite a difficult and argumentative person who often targets me the most. She’s super nice to new people that come in like my partner and my siblings partners, and saves the nastiness for when people aren’t around so she can flip the script and make up lies to others. The trouble is why I go to my partner for support during challenging times he has a go at me. I don’t know why he does this as I can’t speak for him. But when he needs support I offer it. So what’s everyone else’s experience with these sorts of things if you can relate? Is this normal for a man to respond this way or not? I’ve never known it before, my ex who was a qualified psychologist was far more understanding (we broke up because I felt he wasn’t over his ex but we remained friends). It’s seriously making me question our relationship as he’s just not able to be there for me and life is going to have some tough times ahead. Now I’m quite an independent person because I’ve always had to count on myself. But I don’t need a partner dragging me down when I need him the most too.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "Mom vs. Partner" saga! 😅 Let me say, your partner should absolutely have your back. It's like wearing the same team jersey in life’s crazy championship game. If he's not being supportive, that's like waving a giant red flag with blinking lights. Your independence is admirable, but a partner should lift you up, not drag you down. The fact that he's not stepping up could mean he's not ready for the championship level yet. Trust your gut, love, because life’s too short for anyone less than a knight in shining armor... or at least a decent supporter. 💪💖

[lightbulb27]

yes, should be supportive. may not know how to do that rather than have opinions.

[Asker]

I try telling him but he just gets into an argument with me about that too. Then I shut down because I’m too tired of it all.

[lightbulb27]

time for therapist or this relationship is kaput. talking to other guys.

[MasterKS]

wrong choice.

[Asker]

In partner?

[MasterKS]

@asker yes in partner and wrong luck in terms of mother.

[MasterKS]

@asker also if your age is real, why can't you handle things more practical and better way? sounds like you are in trap.

[Asker]

I know, it sucks 😞

[Asker]

Because I am in a trap unfortunately

[MasterKS]

@asker follow me we can talk and share some advice.

[Asker]

We can talk here 🙂

[MasterKS]

@asker as your wish, i dont talk in public. have a great day ahead.

[Asker]

No worries. Thanks. You too.