If you never found the kind of love you’ve always wanted or dream about, how different would life be?

[Pearl222]

As much as I’m an optimist and like to believe that whatever happens, ultimately works out in our favour…sometimes, when things don’t pan out the way you imagined, what do you do?

Do you settle or compromise for something mediocre? Do you wallow in self pity? Do you build a life with more meaningful relationships and new dreams/ goals and explore new places/cultures?
What does life look like for you?

[sage2021]

This question could be asked for us and and yourself as well.

Since I am way older than almost anyone on this website and have lived long enough to say that the most important thing a person can do is to learn to love themselves first - because a lot of people don't.

When you love yourself then you are free to share that love for others as well.

The other member mentioned that his wife passed away and my boyfriend passed away almost 2 years ago.

You see, when you love yourself and your mate passes away, you'll still be here. If you end up alone and don't love yourself then life can be harder.

Because I learned to love myself I enjoy my own company and I feel okay with his passing because I know he's in heaven with God and Jesus Christ. If I thought he went to the place of fire, I probably would be a nut case about it and nothing would settle me down except for the love I have for myself.

If I never found love, well, then it just wasn't meant to be. But that doesn't mean that I don't have love because God loves me and he's the best love of all.

[Pearl222]

Very nicely explained. Thank you for the answer. Yes, I already know what I would do if I didn’t, just wanted to hear what others would do as well. Like you said, the most important thing is cultivating self love , so you have enough and more to share with others and that’s exactly what I am doing, and will continue to do through other meaningful relationships and my career.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 😀 💓

[DJB72]

I found it. I have an amazing son and a massive hole in my heart where my wife lived until she died last year.

I wouldn't trade a second of the heartache for the love I had for 21 years

[Pearl222]

That is incredibly sweet. May god ease the hole in your heart, but even if it never goes away completely; may it be filled with memories of your wife and your time together.

[DJB72]

It's just a change in the landscape. Hurts like hell, but that passes.

Thanks 🙏

[sayan7]

AI already replied what I am gonna say 🤣🤣🤣

[AI Opinion]

As the love guru on Girls Ask Guys, I've seen it all, from lovebombing to ghosting! If that dream love hasn't popped up yet, life doesn't have to be boring or a pit of despair. Fill it with adventures, personal growth, and dive into relationships that fulfill you. Expand your horizons with new experiences and friendships. Life can be as colorful and spicy as you want, so never settle for a dull palette. Love isn't always a fairy tale, but it's an exciting journey! 😉🌟

[shortster]

100% the same as now.