Am I being delusional?

[nitrodumpling]

Hello internet friends, it's me again.

Background: Over the summer, I started "talking" to this guy. Let's call him August. We've known each other for most of our lives, but we didn't really become friends until about 6 years ago. We've never crossed that boundary before but we recently started talking romantically. August is the boy version of me. He's awkward and a cutie, nerdy and sweet, funny and kind. He's perfect on paper. But we are long distance and honestly, I'm not sure how he feels about us. We've both been flirty and have good banter, but I'm scared he won't be there to catch me fall. The thing is, he did like a girl and probably still does, but she did not reciprocate his feelings. At times, I feel like I'm pushing it with him. A recent conversation we had kind of woke me up

Me: Let's go on a night drive

Him: ok but you have to drive

What do I even say to that? I know it wouldn't hurt to drive, but if he really liked me, would he make me drive? I mean he did have a rough day, and I wouldn't mind it. I know love is not meant to be confusing, but there's a lot of mixed signals. I'm content with being single, but this is starting to mess with my head. Please send help.

Updates

8 mo

Update: he said I'm the Mia to his Dominic #sisterzoned Honestly don't know how we went from flirting to family...

[Finchie40]

It sounds like you have very high expectations and unfortunately those high expectations are
Going to hurt you in the long run, if you don’t lower your expectations some. We can only give what we hope to receive , but unfortunately that isn’t always the case , because we are all different people that come from different paths in life. So what you want might not be what the other person wants , so if you are turned off by him not offering to drive , that’s unfortunately selfish of you , considering you asked him to take a drive , that’s like you asking him on a date and you expecting him to pay for that date , so understand you are the one that asked , not him. Now if he asked you to take a drive and you said yes and then he expected you to drive instead , then that would be disrespectful and selfish of him to put that on you , considering he asked you first. So my advice to you is to look at the positives over the negatives , he still said yes and he still wants to spend time with you , and he is just being honest that he doesn’t want to drive.

[WhitneySnow]

Him saying he wants you to drive doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. On the other hand, it’s not evidence he does like you either. I need more context.

[AI Opinion]

Love and distance can indeed make your head spin like a DJ mix! 😉 It's awesome that you vibe so well with August, but those mixed signals can feel like trying to follow GPS instructions in a tunnel. 🚗 If he's making you do the driving, maybe he's hoping you'll take the wheel in more ways than one, looking for a little reassurance or control in the relationship. Just make sure you're both buckled in for this romantic ride, and see where the road takes you. Patience and some heart-to-heart talks could clarify if he's ready to be your co-pilot. 💕

[Anonymous]

Yes, it seems so.