Have you ever felt like you were truly loved by someone , to eventually find out they just liked using you?

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately I experienced some of these relationships in my lifetime and it can sadly put a question mark over your head , by making it harder for you to trust someone again , and it can make you question on whether true love really exists or not. You can be an all around nice person , that treats everyone the same way you like to be treated in return , hoping to find someone that loves you like you love them , but unfortunately that isn’t always the case , sadly there are a lot of selfish assholes in this world that take advantage of nice people and use them for their own selfish benefit of what they can receive from them , pretending to be your gift from above. Unfortunately being a nice person can easily backfire on you , without you realizing it is, I’m the type of guy that isn’t very judgmental, if someone is nice to me, I will be nice to them , but through the years , I came across people that I thought had good hearts to find out they didn’t , that took advantage of me and backstabbed me and betrayed me , to the point , I kind of lost respect and trust for a lot of people. To the point I put walls up protecting my heart from getting shit on again , I’m not saying everyone is an asshole , but unfortunately it seems there are a lot out there that are. So through the years I realized being to nice can easily backfire on you when someone decides to take you for granted. My relationships with girls’ has gotten better because I practically taught myself to balance between being a good guy an a bad guy , pretty much making it clear to her that I will not tolerate her selfish behavior and bullshit lies , basically saying you either want this relationship or you don’t , so make up your mind because I am starting to walk the other way. I hate being this way , but for whatever reason it works for the most part.

[dwreborn]

Ya I've been right nice to my wife for a year of her running around doing whatever and I've asked what do you want? Is it over do you want it to be over? Do you have feelings for someone else? I get nothing but just need time I dont want to leave but is she just sticking around to see if life could be better while i wait for her? Well i can't wait forever so i think iam being taken advantage of

[Finchie40]

It sounds like it to me , when a girl uses the words she needs time? she is basically implying she needs time to see if the other guy she is seeing is going to work out , but if not, she has you to fall back on , My advice to you my man, is to kick her ass to the curb where she belongs, and tell her it’s over, tell her that you no longer want to be with a girl that needs time , especially time away from our marriage , and say something you should of thought about before saying I do , So grab your things and go take all the time you need , because I am using my time to focus on myself since I no longer have a partner , so get your shit and get out , or I am putting the house up for sale , so start making your plans. Do not give into her whatsoever my man , and if she tries to play a victim , let her play victim all she wants while you are moving on without her

[dwreborn]

Ya we have counseling next week iam gonna see whats up if i can get her to talk its strange i hate to even say it but she goes through my phone all the time and so i grabbed her and went through it when she was sleeping not even caring if she woke up and i found nothing on her phone

[Finchie40]

Well if she is willing to go to counseling with you then that’s a good sign that she is willing to work on the marriage , best of luck my man

[dwreborn]

All i can do is work on making myself happy and if she is there to join me then great but if i dont see any improvement over next couple weeks then it will be time to end it as much as i dont want it to

[Finchie40]

Yea sometimes walking away is for the better , even if you love and care about them , but if they aren’t doing the same for you , then it’s wise to move on from them and start a new chapter in your life , My ex didn’t know what she wanted , one minute she wanted our marriage and they next she didn’t , I got tired of the head games and told her it’s over between us , as hard as it was for me to do , it was worth it because I realized I deserve someone that doesn’t want to be apart from me that wants to love me like I love them , not someone that just likes the convenience of me My ex wanted her cake and wanted to eat it to and that didn’t sit well with me whatsoever, life is too short to be with someone that isn’t on the same page as you are , I don’t hate her , I just know she isn’t a match for me anymore

[dwreborn]

Ya they say people dont change thats bullshit cause iam seeing it before my eyes and maybe i have and dont know it and we are just different now I've got to decide if i want what i used to have versus this way just a lot of thinking to do and a lot of decisions

[i_Jedi]

Yeah, I’ve been there. I once thought someone really loved me. they’d text me every morning, wanted to hang out all the time, and made me feel special. But over time, I realized they only showed up when they needed something, never when I did. It stung, but it taught me to pay attention to consistency, not just words.

[Braylee]

honestly it was way relatable until you went into nice guy stuff. I have felt that way but it's always made me question everything to just them, maybe in another life where I'm better things would be different.

[Finchie40]

The girls’ I been with through the years always loved my personality and said I was a nice guy , which made them drawn to me to begin with , but once we started to get serious with each other and I gave them my heart , that’s when the tables started to turn and she no longer really liked me being a nice guy , like she was expecting me to be her constant punching bag which didn’t sit well with me whatsoever, and we started arguing and butting heads , and then she would leave me or find out she cheated on me with someone else. after I experienced a few of these relationships that’s when I realized I can no longer be a constant nice guy , when I started throwing on some of my asshole side to her , that’s when she would come chasing me back , So why is that? Why do I have to be somewhat of an asshole to keep a girl interested and loyal to me? Why can’t she just accept that she has a nice guy that actually wears her shoes the same way I expect her to wear mine? It never
Made any sense to me, but shockingly it works for the most part

[AvaRay]

Yes I hv.. wish that I can turn my time back n change my decision

[Finchie40]

Yea I felt that way as well at times , wishing I could go back in time and stop myself from falling for her shit

[AvaRay]

I understand how u feel n what u going through @Finchie40..

It's hard to differentiate nowadays between true love n 'true love'.. time can reveal their true colour

Too many wolves hiding under sheep's skin tho.. 😅

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s the chance we take I guess , with hopes that they are on the same page as us , but unfortunately that isn’t always the case

[AvaRay]

Exactly… 😊

it’s part of the journey, learning to recognize the signs earlier and valuing yourself enough to walk away when needed..

Still, every experience teaches us something important.. 😌

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the life of a nice guy, often sprinkled with unexpected adventures of lovebombing and misunderstandings! 🕶️ You’ve danced on the delicate line between trust and walls. It's tough when you've been ghosted or treated like a fallback option despite being the real deal. No need to play detective for red flags all the time; true love isn’t just a fairytale. Keep being the great mix of nice and assertive you’ve become. Your Cinderella won’t mind waiting a bit longer for the right timing. Hang in there, and remember, you're not alone in this bittersweet tango! 💃🕺

[exitseven]

I sort of think this happened. I dated a girl for 8 or 9 months. To me it was very intense and I fell in love with her very quickly. She dumped me and went back with her old boyfriend. I think she only dated me to make him jealous

[Nikki1989]

When I was a teenager, sure. I learned my lesson early.

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes, once. However, I learn to spot the type. Meaning, it has never happened again.

[Crimsyjo]

Ha. Sadly yes. Sometimes I wonder if I've ever truly been loved in my life.

Sad but true

[chrissykerdock]

it's hard to prove but it's often

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s sad that people can be that much of asshole users , you usually don’t see their true colors until something bad happens to you , that you have no control over , and you finally realize they don’t have your back the same way you had theirs’ i experienced this a few times with girls’ when I lost my job or got laid off , instead of having my back , they treated me like shit and left me for someone else , making me think wow , you were only with me for money?

[chrissykerdock]

it's different for a girl

[Anonymous]

There was someone i truly deeply loved her name was Danielle i loved her with all my heart and soul

[Anonymous]

There was one girl... I never deluded myself that she loves me, I was friend-zoned, and I knew she was using me (not in a good way), but I never complained about it, because I was in love.

[dean55au]

Yep... 😡