How would you feel realizing that the only time you’ve truly loved wasn’t so ideal after all and that you might have been emotionally abused?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

[ohsheeT]

There are people that come into our lives

We're sitting on the couch being bored maybe even lonely

And somebody comes into our life and it's a new start you're excited you're happy you feel a chemistry in your body changing I look at people like this that they open doors for us you start doing things together maybe something that you have never done before with this person

And you go out again and you do something else and you go out again and you do something else and so on and so on and each time you do this they open that door for you

And you start feeling things you never felt or that you haven't felt for a long time and you're having so much fun with this person and you think you like them because it's better than sitting on the couch but you don't look at it exactly like that

But you're having fun with this person they make you excited and you think you start falling in love with them

Next time this happens really pay attention to yourself

Because all these emotions that you feel and all this excitement and chemistry changing in your body and you become one with this person you feel like and you're just super happy

You have to understand something that person has done nothing everything that you're feeling is you.

Because you are the only person on the inside of you it can make yourself happy or sad angry depressed giddy any emotion you want or any emotion that you feel that is you

So when I say he opened the door for you.

Is is open in the door within you a new experience you are the one experiencing it new and you're happy about it those emotions that you feel are only coming from you you are giving them to yourself because you're doing new things you're exploring your experimenting you're being challenged it's all you you have to love you in order to love somebody else you have to dislike yourself to understand what being mean or angrier or pissed off is and you can push that other people or you can just walk away

There's 500 different types of Love 5 billion different types of love and every time you experience one or have that door open for you within yourself for you to experience it it's a beautiful thing and you think it's that person but it's really not it's you you're feeling you you're becoming one with yourself you're allowing yourself to be you and free in a different realm then you're used to like sitting on the couch

I don't know if I'm saying it right but I hope you understand what I'm trying to say the more you love yourself the more you're going to like or love somebody else you can only love somebody to the same level as you understand it or you have been loved or you love yourself

And when you truly love yourself you will not put up with anybody's bullshit
Because that's not who you are if you don't like yourself you're going to settle and that's when things might happen because it's you're not with the person that you should be with

So when you're with a person that you say you love it's actually you are with a person that opened up the door for you for you to be allowed for you to allow yourself to feel something beautiful within you and you think it's them the more you love yourself the more you're going to love that person that is a person that's in your life

Well I wish I could use my words different so I hope you understand anyway what I'm trying to sayre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[OlderAndWiser]

After all your previous comments about your relationship, I am quite surprised to read this. I sure you are feeling devastated. Please feel free to DM me if you would like to talk about this privately.

[midnightmoon05]

I was heart broken when my hubby wanted to end our marriage. And breaking up our family. I was in a very depressed mood. He was very mean to me. I was told to take medications. I refused…those were the times I felt I gave up. One day… maybe took 2 yrs… I had to wake up and be a mom to my two little babies… ever since then, I learned to rebuild myself to give the love to my babies… it’s been 10 yrs… I am now happily remarried.

in fact…I teach my children to love their father to help out with their stepmom and their new baby and to help out with their grandma. Since my ex hubby is an only child and he has a lot to do to care for everyone.
we share cooking recipes and discuss important things about our kids.
it’s okay to feel the hurt. Don’t stay there too long.
learn from it, grow from it. Try again! Better day tomorrow.
xoxo

[PeachyPie93]

I have only loved 3 guys and they all were mean to me so.. I just assume I am the problem lol. Looking back I put up with a lot of rudeness and disrespect from all of them, my longest relationship he poured coke on my head while we were out with his friends.. so I suppose like they always say we accept the love we think we deserve.

[7Phoenix7]

It has happened to me and I have healed from it.

It's a terrible feeling. But it's amazing once you learn from your mistakes and how to truly love yourself first.

[exitseven]

It would be really sad to finally figure it out.
I dated somebody for 4 years who did not really make me any kind of a priority in her life. I figured that sooner or later she would figure out that I was more than just a fashion accessory. I used to laugh at people that did that. It took me a long time before I figured out that I was doing it too. I was really heartbroken.

[love_conquers_lust]

All wounds heal with time. Perspective enhances as wisdom grows. You realize what you experienced wasn’t as bad as you thought it was.

However, hindsight is like that. Were you to know then that you do now, you might not have enjoyed it as much.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm way too retrospective... I would know much, much earlier... and I would end it if fixing it wouldn't be possible...

[superchan2011]

It's a terrible thing to experience. And you think you'll never get over that kind if heartbreak. While you may not completely heal time really does heal most wounds. I'm open to dm if you need to talk about it.

[NathanDavis]

looking at the bright side... I would feel relieved that I've realized it and then I can get away from it and start to heal...

[sawno]

Completely heartbroken, luckily I know thats not the case. Our love was as real as it could get.

[katiesmuff]

I'm sure very hurt for sure, but I would hope that I had the ability to shake it off and happily get along with my life.

[Agape93]

That would honestly break me for the final timere-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[9in_Serpent]

It felt like this…

https://youtu.be/D7fg3L4vfYQ?si=dJmRUX2ToBs6SRiL

[WhitneySnow]

Really unhappy. I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you.

[MoonFace2]

I give myself time to accept it and then I wait for things to get better.

[Nikki1989]

I would just accept it and move on. It is not the end of the world.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not much to do besides shrug and move on. That's just how life goes sometime.

[kaucky1]

Just move on,💫🫧💢🕳️🌀re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Intheclouds00]

Glad to have figured it out and hopeful for the next thing where I could apply the knowledge.

[Staximus]

It's better to realize the truth and be honest with yourself

[TheCoffeeisHot]

I'd feel sad, resentful, but it would give me fuel to become a better person