Love hurts too much. Why bother? Agree or Disagree?

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Nik1hil · Accepted Answer

We all were once, one with God there was no Pain or Misery!

It was Boring, so to experience all this we decided to fall asleep into a Dream called "Life", It's a Beautiful dream, where we are not Omnipresent, Omnipotent, we cannot just Create a body of our own, we cannot Create a person magically and Make them filled with Love for us, Imagine making a Robots and Programming it to Love you, that Love isn't Real.

The Real fun part is when you make yourself powerless, and forget you are God, you choose to Take Birth have a body that can be injured, a Heart that will Break and ache and you Have to fall on your Knees and Beg for love and it's your free will to do so, and It's their free will to grant you or decline you, than the Drama happening on this "Cosmic Stage" will Feel Real for a Moment!..

It's Just Universe in Its All Glory, Spanning across 96 Billion Light Years, Trying to Experience being helpless on a ball of Mud Floating in Space, near a Lantern of a Sun🌞!.. It's like little girl Playing with Dolls in her Imagination, universe wants to see things Happening, so it Pulls Strings of Its Marionette!..

It's a Show @thegreenyogi , You have a choice to Either Sit below a Tree and meditate and enjoy the Show, or Be part of the Show, be a Marionette.. Risk it, experience life.

Sure Love Can hurt too much, but When you wake up from this Dream called "Life", You will Realise the "Risk of getting Hurt from Love" wasn't a Real Risk, as Compared to Reward of "Finding Love"!

If your Dream of "Life" Get's too scary and becomes a Nightmare, You will up from the "Nightmare" Leaving this Body, and Realise, "Oh! I didn't lose anything".

But if you Found Love, "This Dream of Life, Would be the Most beautiful Dream, you would have ever seen".

Risk it, When you are Dead and you wake up from this Dream of Life, you are going to be Glad you Risked it!

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I sincerely hope you’re just asking a question and not suffering love sickness right now

If you are then all I can say is “chin up” things like that don’t last forever

As far as the concept goes: I disagree

Love might hurt but it’s a feeling
Having no feelings is far worse
So not opening up to love might be a way for self protection but it’s harmful to the spirit in the long run
We become cold, jaded, distant, everything seems gray and tasteless.

We are unfortunate creatures who require one another’s affection to be fulfilled on a chemical level

It’s not even a question of ideology or personal preference.
It’s just how our bodies are wired

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I can understand… But here’s one thing I learned about men from my mom and my life - Men love women who love themselves, if you love the men the most, he will love himself the most, if you love yourself the most, he will love you the most. Men love happy, selfish and carefree woman.
We are devoted and dedicated, we are women, it’s in our nature to love that deeply, men hate to be loved that deeply, they love to be the ones who admire you more,

so never forget to love yourself first, it will hurt less…

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Love can be one hell of a pain especially when someone breaks your heart or abandons you.. It could take years to get over it. I have had it happen twice.. but once you start getting over it and meet someone special. Someone who just clicks with you so much, it just pulls you right back in lol. I honestly am so scared of love but one guy just really has my eye rn.. 😍

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Well, love can be as complicated as trying to assemble IKEA furniture without instructions! That said, the rollercoaster of emotions may come with twists and turns, but those heart-fluttering moments and soulmate vibes can make it all worthwhile. It's about learning, growing, and text messages at midnight that keep you giggling like a high schooler! Love might sting sometimes, but don't let the fear of being ghosted keep you from the dance of romance! 🕺💃

HawkPerception · Answer

Absolutely disagree. Heartbreak happens. It's a part of life. Life is a roller coaster of emotions. Sure there will be bad times, but we live for the good moments. The moments where we can laugh and smile with each other. The moments we can hug and embrace each other. The moments of intimacy. Sailing through life together.

It didn't work out in the first relationship? No worries. Learn from your mistakes and try again. Become a better person in the process. Don't be hateful or bitter and assume everyone is bad just because one or a few relationships failed.

"It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I'm sorry that your experiences have led you to say that love hurts too much. Of course failed relationships hurt, but the goal is to find a relationship that doesn't fail.

Finchie40 · Answer

Disagree , cuz if love hurts you, in a relationship, then you are just with the wrong person period

AviatorTom · Answer

Lack of love hurts too, so why not bother?

OneViewpoint · Answer

Get Hollywood out of your head. Adjust your expectations to the reality of human existence. Stop comparing your life to ridiculous romantic fantasies.

For most of us "Love" is not some hot burning super nova event that lights up the sky for the entirety of our life. That's lust. Very fun. But very ephemeral. More like months than decades. That is the rollercoaster. Lust is easy to find. And easily lost.

Love IMHO is a slow process that involves quiet sacrifice and compromise over a long period of time through good times and bad. It's not A choice. It's a continuing series of choices. And we stay because someone else is making sacrifices and compromises in return. There is balance and a sense of teamwork.

So why bother? Because we are conscious, self aware creatures. It is our nature to search for intangible concepts like love, justice, freedom, and truth.

I'm not sure Leonard Cohen had it completely right but there's an element of truth in his lyrics.

From Leonard Cohen's song Hallelujah...

Baby, I've been here before
I know this room, I've walked this floor
I used to live alone before I knew ya
And I've seen your flag on the marble arch
Love is not a victory march
It's a cold and it's a broken Hallelujah

There was a time you let me know
What's really going on below
But now you never show it to me, do ya?
And remember when I moved in you
The holy dove was moving too
And every breath we drew was Hallelujah

Maybe there's a God above
But all I've ever learned from love
Was how to shoot at someone who outdrew ya
And it's not a cry that you hear at night
It's not somebody who's seen the light
It's a cold and it's a broken Hallelujah

msc545 · Answer

I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this, Greenyogi. It sounds like you’re hurting a lot right now. When love ends or feels painful, it can feel overwhelming — almost like it’s not worth the risk anymore. That’s a very human reaction, and you’re not alone in feeling it.

Sometimes it helps to remember a few things -

Pain and value often coexist. Love can open us up to pain, but it’s also the same thing that gives life meaning, connection, and joy.

This feeling isn’t permanent. The intensity of heartbreak usually softens with time. People often find that when the pain recedes, they still value the memories, growth, or closeness they experienced.

You’re allowed to take breaks. You don’t have to rush back into dating or relationships. It’s completely okay to give yourself space to heal and focus on yourself.

I hope this helped you a bit...

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

Love is also too expensive and then that person brings their own baggage and drama - sure they may seem on their best behaviour and then once the ring's on the finger or they have moved in or there's shared resources in legal documents, lol hell talk about book, line and wheeled in big fish 🐠🐟 🎣 besides, I've known of people who've been divorced, or relationships that lasted 4-5 years, and lol the way them folks talk like all along relationships romantic ones are just relationships of convenience lol 🏪❣️

Phoenix98 · Answer

Heartbreak happens but that's part of life I think it's silly when people say they don't want to be in a relationship because they'll get hurt.

Life is full of pain and hurt. If you don't experience struggle, strife, pain how are you supposed to grow as a person, to learn from mistakes, gain resilience, etc.

Pain is a reminder that we're alive and feeling someone else pain is a reminder that we're human. While you shouldn't go looking for it you also shouldn't shrink away from it.

Anonymous · Answer

Because through all the pain, all the torture, all the crying, etc, etc, once you find that person it drowns all that away. That’s not to say that you won’t have problems in a relationship w someone. But all those past hurts go away. As the saying goes, nothing in life is easy. I’ve been through a lot. Too much. But to be w the one I’m w now going on 18 years, it was worth it. Why would you want finding love to be that easy? In the end it makes you appreciate it more, you’re stronger for what you’ve gone through. The reward in the end is beyond infinite knowing everything you’ve gone through to find that one special person. Like a piece of gold it’s worth more cause it’s rare, that person is rare so you cherish it more. You love it more.

stevejon · Answer

I get why people feel that way — love can be really painful when it doesn’t work out, but at the same time, those experiences often help us grow and understand ourselves better. For many, the joy and connection outweigh the risks, even if it doesn’t last forever. I think it’s similar to how we invest in things that make life meaningful — like how bnlbostonlimo invests in creating comfort and reliability for travelers — even though nothing is guaranteed to be perfect. Do you feel the pain of love is worth the lessons and moments of happiness it brings, or do you think the cost is too high?

aaron13547 · Answer

Disagree if you want to have more of something you have to know what it's like not to have it... to have to much love you also need to know what it is to not have love. If you want to feel all the love in the world you also have to be open to feeling all the pain in the world. I think it's about balance. The reason is you... Shoot for the moon and even if you miss you find yourself among the stars. Lifes about the journey

Screenwriter · Answer

Though breakups in relationships hurt, most of the time, the positive aspects of love, friendships and acquaintances make life sweeter. I'm always up for making new friendships and good relationships of all kinds.

It's what make the world go round!

dwreborn · Answer

Man i just dont know right now disagree love is worth every min when you have them feelings for someone there is nothing like it but I've only just began the separation process and we are both trying to make it work and it hurts already and if we do end it iam gonna be devastated for a long time so by then i might agree

Purpleronnie · Answer

Nah , the rewards outweigh the risks.

Most of us can absolutely appreciate that so much pain ‘may’ follow after love but at least there ‘was love’ no matter how short , who’s to say it even should last? We all change.

I’d always choose to love and loose than to never love

lightbulb27 · Answer

because you want something and it's programmed into your soul and genes. the propagation of life and as well the friction which causes growth.

I'm sure plants don't want wind but without it, they'd be very weak and generally not survive and propagate.

Love... that emotional energy, is one of the ultimate stimulus and quests. Where does it come from?

Travi186 · Answer

Disagree. Any decision made comes with risk. Pain is inevitable. Whether you love or avoid it, you will experience hurt either way and neither one trumps the other. The difference is you gain something from love while avoiding offers nothing in return. Choosing not to try doesn’t eliminate hurt.

razor97 · Answer

To have a baby in order to not end up alone when you end up very old. You will end up realizing everyone dies and you'd need a reason to go on without feeling lonely when you get very old. For most parents and adults, it's all about fulfilling some emotional need.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Disagree. I believe that everyone needs at least one form of love in their lives. Without it, what are you fighting and striving for?

Tarifa · Answer

Love doesn't hurt. It's the best remedy for just about anything. What hurts is losing the one you've loved, or loving someone from afar you can never be with.

Shiprex · Answer

LOSS of love hurts so much rather than the time of being in love. I think it does hurt when it's lost but worth it when it's there, I hope else what's the point of being?

McLlovin · Answer

Life in general is painful. Don’t stop, the pain is proof you’re alive and that you actually care. Without pain we wouldn’t know how valuable the good ones are.

serious · Answer

Yes of course. It is much better to protect ourselves from getting hurt instead of exploring the area of love and romance. Hence agreed.

Shehnaz · Answer

If love is in your control and you can take a decision on whether to love or not then it is not love.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

My Dad used to say if he hadn't married my mother his life would have meant nothing. And I'm proof of that because when I die my body will be dumped in a landfill and no one will be there to mourn my passing.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Firm disagree. I think that good, genuinely love (and human connection in general) is absolutely worth the struggle and pain.

avery58 · Answer

Honestly I can see why more and more people are giving up on love and relationships

northerngal · Answer

Disagree strongly. Finding love is always worth the risk.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Both: Agree: Love hurts when someone is taken away involuntarily. Disagree: If someone chooses to walk away, there is no reason to waste any energy on that person.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Disagree. The high points are worth the hurt.

Greek_goddess_Iris · Answer

I believe in the saying "rather have love and lost, than never have loved at all".

Nikki1989 · Answer

How can something feel so good and hurt at the same time?

MysticDevice · Answer

Dispite the heartaches I've dealt with I think its still worth it to keep the search going for Mrs. Right.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No! 👎

exitseven · Answer

It id hurts , that means that you are doing it wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

disagree. sure it can hurt. but it can also be the most amazing feeling in the world. can't have one without the other.

KishasDarling · Answer

I'd say I mostly agree, but if it comes to me again, you bet I'm not turning it away. :)

Grond21 · Answer

No, that is false. It hurts when we love badly or don't understand it.

foxsquirrell · Answer

I tend to agree. Even the Holy Bible says "Any wound, but not a wound of the heart." !

Sal_Monella · Answer

You have to accept the risk and challenge if it to feel the joy of it.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not a believer of love but I do believe in forming a healthy relationship hopefully with someone that you want to have sex with.  Life is hard it’s hard not so much with someone.

Surely · Answer

Somewhere out there. There is someone who you can spend an enjoyable life with!

Jay-_- · Answer

I am currently on that boat but still hopeful for one who can bring me to shore.

Staximus · Answer

Love is great if you don't pick the wrong person to love

Twalli · Answer

It hurts, but the rewards more than make up for it.

bunniesrcute · Answer

probably, never tried but it seems awful from what I've heard.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Disagree. Love doesn't hurt. If it does, it wasn't love.

stayorgo · Answer

Well girl i gave up in 1994 you probably weren't even born yet. I THINK YOU KNOW MY ANSWER

Anonymous · Answer

I know how you feel, all of my loves were unrequited :( But there is always hope.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

It only hurts when it falls apart, when you click with the right person it shouldn't hurt

Allmenrsick · Answer

I guess thats why the bible say its best to be single unless you are horny.

Fungirl44 · Answer

It’s better to have loved and lost than never loved at all

stratford · Answer

Not a much as anal if the guy doesn't know what he's doing.

Anonymous · Answer

Agree, the low is always lower than the high.

Anonymous · Answer

I still did. Foolishly knowing it hurts i still did like a fool

Paige90 · Answer

Disagree... You have to take a chance

Miristheiss · Answer

Fortune favors the bold.

jazzy34 · Answer

If it hurts, that's not love to begin with.

ariadneR · Answer

It does hurt, but it's worth it

Ninania · Answer

Life hurts, love makes it worth trying anyway.

loveslongnails · Answer

Bad love hurts. Good love is fine.

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