Why are relationships so complicated?

Question

this is why im gonna stay single forever

aceleon · Accepted Answer

2 creature that is total opposites to each other tries to merge their lives into one.

what did you expect? why do you think most kids doesn't wanna spent time together with their opposite sex peers and prefers their own gender group as a company?

i mean where does the dislike or at least non-preference cames from?

maybe kids realizes something we don't due to hormonal changes, maybe they see that no matter the attraction we feel in the end of the day we are misfitting creatures that really is not able to see eye to eye.

also with regular friendships your friends doesn't put responsibilities on your shoulders and every kind of benefitting you have from each other is completely equal and same, you make them laugh they make you laugh, you most of the time enjoy the same things, there is no COMPROMİSİNG.

humans are inherently selfish creatures, compromising is a decent and necessary behavior but it is not something most people have the patience and selflessness to keep for regular periods.

and relationships are full of compromising because unlike friends and family you are trying to merge your life into one as in building a life together.

it is not a suitable idea for human brain, because inherently we don't wanna build a life together, to simplify, what we want is my life + you not my life + your life.

people most of the time doesn't see what being together will actually mean, they just think of it like spending time more regularly they don't know that their lives will start to influence your own.

in short we may love and want each other but we don't want each others lives.

Gobbyjobby52 · Accepted Answer

That's a complicated question tbh. Some of it is because of beliefs we hold in politics, religion, values and focuses. Also because the other person has automony to change their mind about things at all times if they are unloyal. Which can lead to things like cheating, divorces, bringing up exes, missing exes, family issues, personal issues etc. Some of which only come up when the person feels unsatisfied. Some people also have baggage that they carry and circle around in circles to which can create cinplication.

Zionne · Accepted Answer

Relationships feel complicated because they force us to confront parts of ourselves we don’t always see, our fears, expectations, insecurities, and desires. When two people with their own emotional histories try to move in sync, friction is inevitable. Staying single can feel simpler, but often what we’re really avoiding is the emotional work that relationships require. It’s not that love is too complicated, it’s that healing, communication, and vulnerability are.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

Is part of life. I can guarantee you that all relationships have ups and downs, it's how you deal with it that makes it work or not. Some people are just incompatible and sometimes it takes time to understand that they're not a good match. Regardless, if you want to stay 'single forever' that's your choice.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some wisdom and a little flirtation your way. Relationships can feel complicated, like a Sudoku puzzle where you’re stuck on level expert! 😄 But trust me, with a little understanding and good communication, they can be incredibly rewarding. Staying single is a choice, not a default. When you meet the right person, those annoyingly complex bits might just make the journey more exciting! Who knows, you might find someone who loves puzzles. 😉

Rei13 · Answer

They’re only as complicated as each part makes it. If it’s the right person then there should be nothing hard/complicated about it

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s Only complicated , when it’s the wrong people in the relationship, The right people for each other don’t have those problems

AviatorTom · Answer

Relationships are really not that complicated, but we humans sometimes tend to overthink things.

dragoblack · Answer

They're not, people just make them more complicated by being inconsiderate, lacking actual communication, refusal to emotionally mature & get over insecurities, objectifying eachother, forcing unrealistic roles, and not actually taking the time to get to know eachother as people, before just jumping into the relationship. A healthy relationship is like best friends with romantic benefits. Full communication about everything without the hinting bullshite & assumings, knowing eachother well enough to get along even after a fight without petty bullshite, no jumping to conclusions, know eachother well enough to fix eachother's favorite foods, shows... etc. which is what helps make being romantic so much easier on both ends, and being fully suppotive of eachother. You take all of that and add the romance & sexual fun, then you have a healthy relationship. Relationships take a lot of effort, communication, and consideration, there is no shortcuts if you want a healthy relationship that lasts.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Many create peace and harmony. Others create chaos and stress. It depends on the individual and how they were raised.

even though my parents can cause some stress and complications… I prefer simplicity and peace… so that’s what I have with my own family I build with my hubby.

he could have caused some complications… but I helped him manage and build a peaceful life.

so up to you how you want to live your life.

its not that complicated.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Try to date casually a little more, and find the right person, they are definitely not complicated when you were with the good ones. However, most do end. But I will say in my early twenties relationships sucked and were always complicated, when I got to my thirties, they were pretty awesome, I don't regret a single one of them. In the end they didn't work out, but they were not difficult, they ended cuz usually peaceful reasons.

exitseven · Answer

People are complected. To get two people to have their lives synchronize is very difficult. Sometimes people are it different places in their respective lives. Sometimes there are personal circumstances that get in the way. It is not as easy as it looks like on TV.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Let's be real; they're complicated because we make them complicated. If people didn't have expectations that don't match their effort, weren't terrified of their own shadows and didn't suck so bad at communicating the most basic of shit; relationships would be a lot easier.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

I'm hesitant to comment on this since I am in a same sex relationship but it has been very easy. I'd also like to believe it would be the same if I was with a guy tho. We need to be best friends first and all else will fall into place.

HighValue · Answer

They are USUALLY only complicated by women that don't know what they want and let their women friends and social media influence them too much when most women and social media intentionally give bad relationship advice.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Why is hot water hot? Things are what they are and what we make of them Water is hot so make coffee or tea  You don’t walk away from the kettle  Or you do. But then you end up without anything

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are not. They are only complicated by the people who make them so.

thatgirl2000 · Answer

It's two different individuals with different personalities different backgrounds. Humans are already inherently complicated.

katiesmuff · Answer

Life itself is complicated! Relationships do have there complications, but a smart couple can generally work things out and in the end everyone ends up very happy.

bunnyboo24 · Answer

You choose the outlook of your life. I choose to be happy and find love. Because relationships to me is good not conplicated

captain_voidwalker · Answer

They're not complicated, people just don't want to admit what they are. They're just a transaction, men exchange money and service for access to reproduction. If people would just admit it and work out the contract up front this shit would be easy.

noohair · Answer

It is not complicated, it is hard. Real life is very hard. So if you don’t want to put in the effort that is fine. But it is not complicated. You lack fortitude and courage…

Dargil · Answer

Because people complicate them. There is an argument for a relationship with dissimilar languages.

capriVib · Answer

This isn't chess. If it's not working out, it's better to stay single.

Unycorn · Answer

A relationship to keep is work. And some people dont know that both must work on it.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

In my opinion, it’s always the people who make them complicated.

clampfan101 · Answer

Because life is complicated. A relationship is about sharing your lives and experiencing them together.

dray995 · Answer

Because people are complicated and don’t always get along or have free time to do everything that they want to to do.

dudeinohio · Answer

They dont have to be. If you are with the right person, a relationship is easy.

Staximus · Answer

Because people are stupid and poor communicators

BruceWayne32123 · Answer

Only relationships worth having are purely physical.

Anonymous · Answer

Cause you’re dealing with two or more people’s intimate feelings

Anonymous · Answer

Because most people selfish. They don't really love anyone. Certainly not more than themselves.

Slave_submissive · Answer

It is not. Just have sex and it will be okay

iMolly7 · Answer

There is not enough communication, and some people insist on having things their way or the highway.

chrissykerdock · Answer

shakespeare said that too

Flower7 · Answer

Because guys only care about sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Human nature is terrible according to the bible

Phoenix98 · Answer

Because people make them so.

Crankor · Answer

Id say its because society makes it that way

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Anything worth having forever is hard

loveyouoak · Answer

Because men are toxic beings.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Some take work, I;ll admit that

qwerty2469 · Answer

They aren't. You are just combative and unlikable

stayorgo · Answer

They don't have to be don't bother

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

Any thing worth doing is challenging.

Anonymous · Answer

Because of women like you.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I never had one.

billy07002 · Answer

I do not know i am trying to see my self

yotaman99 · Answer

That’s why I like friends w benefits

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Because humans suck

Anonymous · Answer

Do us a favor and stay single

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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