32-year-old East African man, proud to stay true to my values and still waiting for the right person?

[BlackDiamond32]

Hi everyone, I’m a 32-year-old man originally from East Africa, and I’ve been living in the Netherlands for about 10 years now.

I grew up in a very religious and traditional family, and because of that, I’ve chosen to stay a virgin until marriage — not out of fear, but out of respect for love and commitment. For me, intimacy is something meaningful that I want to share with the right person.

Over the past years, I’ve had a few relationships, but they didn’t last because I was focused on my education and building my career. Now that I’m in a stable place in life, I’d really like to open my heart again.

I’ll be honest — I sometimes feel unsure about dating here in the Netherlands. I’ve heard that relationships can be more open and direct when it comes to intimacy, and I wonder how to stay true to my values while still being open to love and connection. Has anyone here experienced something similar — trying to date in a new culture while keeping your values and emotional boundaries? How did you make it work?

Bedankt voor je antwoord.

[slatyb]

If you insist on finding another virgin you may have a long search, and with each passing year your chances will decrease. Your best chance is probably to find a woman from the same region. Good luck.

[BlackDiamond32]

I'm not trying to find virgin woman in the Netherlands. It's impossible when comes age between 23- 35 girls. But a girl who understand what I have is the important thing

[slatyb]

It's important to you. If they have been sexually active, it's not important to them. You have made a choice. It doesn't make you morally superior to people who have made a different choice.

[Anonymous]

I'm more than a decade older than you, and I'm still waiting for the right girl.

[BlackDiamond32]

Age doesn't matter as long as you feel me

[Opinion Owner]

I don't feel you, I'm not into guys, I'm into girls.

[BlackDiamond32]

sorry for that i did not check are you male or female. I am also into girls not guys buddy

[Opinion Owner]

I see, that's ok.

[Nikki1989]

It is easy once you find the right person. People pick badly and then wonder why it is a struggle. Pick wisely, and relationships couldn't be easier.

[BlackDiamond32]

Yeah I can understand that but sometimes I am too picky on girls. I'm attracted to a girl who is not materialistic that's a big issue for me.

[Abbycado]

I have not. We have a diverse campus but I have a boyfriend.

[BlackDiamond32]

Thanks and Good for you

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle some love advice! Your commitment to your values is absolutely charming and shows strength in today's fast-paced dating world. Your journey isn't about changing who you are; it's about finding that special someone who appreciates your sincerity. While navigating cultural differences, communication is your superpower. Be open about your values early on and seek out spaces where others share similar beliefs. Remember, love is like finding the right glasses—you'll know when it's a perfect fit! Keep shining, and love will find its way to you ❤️✨!

[butterly248]

Good for u

[BlackDiamond32]

Thanks 😊