It would depend why. There are a ton of reasons why a guy may never have had kids. Some would be flags, some would not. Best bet would be to ask him about it, if it is a concern for you.
He might not have found the right woman, or at least a woman he wanted to have a child with.
He might have been focused on building a career first, hoping that he could find love later in life after he had put in the late nights that can kill a relationship.
He might have tried to have a relationship and build a career at the same time, only to have late nights and tight deadlines constantly get in the way. Maybe this is something that is no longer the case. Maybe it is something you'll have to watch for.
He might be unable to have children.
He might not want children.
He might have had a lot of confidence issues with the opposite sex, and found women his own age intimidating. You might be young enough that he felt safe to harmlessly flirt a bit, and then was pleasantly surprised when it actually worked.
He might have moved around a lot, making it hard to build something long term enough to result in kids.
He might have had parents that divorced, and then promised himself never to get married unless he was sure the girl was the one and only (this reason kind of pushed me and both of my brothers into being mid-30s with no kids and no wife, though we found what we were looking for in our 30s). And if he was only willing to have kids with someone he was married to, it's not surprising that it hasn't happened yet.
There could even be more outrageous ideas. Maybe he was struggling with his sexuality, before finally deciding he was straight after all. Maybe he has a very particular fetish, or is only attracted to people with a very specific set of criteria, that you happen to have.
Could be tons of reasons. As I say... if you are worried about it, ask him. He would be expecting the questions, I'm sure.
Really depends, I mean everything is seen as a red flag. Same guy, 40 and never married having a bunch of kids seems like a red flag to me.
Does he only date girls half his age? maybe he doesn't want to be in a serious long term, relationship that's why he dates so young.
If he's that old just ask him whats up. He's long passed beating around bush when it comes to women.
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Depends why, if he's been focusing on his career and is now secure enough in his profession to date it might be ideal. On the other hand it might be that he's just not husband material.
Don't worry. Just be with him if he makes you happy. It seems he focused on his career rather than dating. If you flip the genders a woman like this would be a hero.
By the time George Clooney was 40 he didn't have kids and wasn't married. Would it be a red flag if you dated him? I'm assuming here that most girls fancy him.
Yep absolutely. Something must have kept him single and unattached for that long
Maybe he has a small penis? I was single into my 30s because of one.
That or he's just too nice for most women.
Your friends saying that's a red flag is itself a red flag to me about your friends...
Well not everyone wants kids, or marriage, also MGTOW FTW
It is possible he never wanted children and had no immediate desire to marry. Some people just do their own thing and do not follow social norms, that shouldn't be a red flag.
No! Don't even give a shit to what people say.
20 years does seem like quite a lot... 😕
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