Why would a good looking, successful 40-something man be single and never married?

[Anonymous]

He has had casual things with very pretty girls but is single and never married before.

[Gyno-Nurse-Chad]

I know I shouldn't expose medical information, but in case you're interested, here's a quick rundown of his STD collection: Clap, Liberace, LGB, Iron Deck, and the occasional Box. Oh, and don't forget Chlamydia! She's one feisty little jezebel!

Now, his pretty girlfriends? They gotcha covered, sista! They got those STDs in every shade of the rainbow: Thrush, VD, Cytol, Trich – Oooh, Trich is a doozy! Let me tell you, it's like a frolicsome date with a walking pubic lice party! Man, those pests be wily! But don't you just love the way they giggle when you try to comb them out? Such a hoot!

Yeterday, I heard one of 'em girls even had Herpes, sheesh! I mean, it's not like they can't put it on a slideshow an' do a little medieval jig, but still, ya know? Swollen glands and fever? No thank you!

But hey, he's obviously not shy when it comes to lovin'. I mean, Romeo's got dat playboy spirit, an' he's not gonna let a little' somethin'-somethin' get in his way. I mean, he's got more STDs than an NATO Summit! Haha! Who says romance is dead?

[DoggyDude]

Possibilities:

• He never met the right woman
• He did meet the rigth girl but she wasn't into him and he never quite moved on
• He's shy as anything and keeps giving the girls the impression he's either disinterested or a bit wet
• He is happy with his own company and doesn't want drama in his life (as he sees it)
• He's had a very serious relationship that went badly wrong and he's still recovering himself to know what he wants now

Could be many more.

[Anonymous]

My brother in law was like this. He had a LTR for a while but never married. He’s a great guy and married my sister, eventually. Some guys just are so work focused they don’t care to settle down.

[Asker]

Do they have a big age gap?

[Opinion Owner]

9 years (she’s younger)

[Apple1996]

Most likely cuz he's a piece of shit and no woman will stay with him long term. Its a huge red flag if someone is that old and never been in a real relationship

[Asker]

He has been in a relationship just never married.

[Apple1996]

How long was his longest relationship? If not a few years then it doesn't really count

[Asker]

I haven’t asked.

[BarryLiverstone]

3 months and never asked about his past? That’s sus

[Apple1996]

@BarryLiverstone I assumed since she said causal things with pretty girls that he's never had anything serious

[BarryLiverstone]

So he told her about all the pretty girls he’s pulled but never discussed any relationships? I’m not believing her story tbh

[Asker]

@BarryLiverstone He didn’t tell me. I figured out myself by his followings and so on.

We are mostly talking about our daily lives.

[BarryLiverstone]

Pretty girls following his social media isn’t reliable. If that’s what you mean

[Asker]

@BarryLiverstone He’s also following all of them back…

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you met these girls irl? Lots of fake accounts are online with attractive profile pictures of girls to trick guys

[Asker]

@BarryLiverstone They are real. He travels a lot and he has a decent pretty and a real girl following him from every country he has traveled to…

[JHAYES317]

@Apple1996 I’d say it depends on why…I’m 25 and have never been in a relationship due to trust issues…because so many women cheat…

[BarryLiverstone]

Being an incel isn’t logical jhayes

[JHAYES317]

@BarryLiverstone I didn’t say I was an incel…I’ve slept with women before…and I’ll date occasionally…just not worth the effort, most of the time. But if I run into the right person, we’ll see…

[Avicenna]

You answered your own question. He gets plenty of women so has no need to get married and risk losing much of it.

[Asker]

He has been interested in me lately and has stopped talking to those younger girls in the couple two months.

I don’t know how I made him interested, but I can picture us together in future and he’s very slow and patient and romantic with me.

He’s 18 years older than me and usually the girls he has had things with were 20-24 years younger than him.

So, I don’t know why me. I like him a lot and he has told me he likes me and I am very mature.

I am just worried if he wants something serious or if he’s a player

[Avicenna]

I would assume he's a player until he shows you otherwise, and that takes time.

[Asker]

You might be right.

But we are long distance,

He has been texting me everyday for 3 months,

Has been very sweet, attentive and caring.

Why would he play so hard to get me? He can get very pretty girls everyday.

The ones closer to him.

[Avicenna]

Long distance? Then you're one of many he's sweet talking

[Asker]

Well… That sucks. I really like him.

[Asker]

I just think he puts time in me and texts me consistently everyday, wouldn’t a player get tired at some point?

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@asker You're getting played. Players get tired after they've gotten sex.

[Tomisworthless]

@ImalwaysrightOK bro just tell her what she wants hear

[Pinay_ako]

Because he hasn’t met the one who’s going to change his mind. Once he does, he’d be married to that one.

[slatyb]

He doesn't want to be? Plenty of people don't want to marry.

[Chelsdope0]

Probably closeted


I had the same question for a guy I was talking to

[JayBones]

I don't know where you are but there isn't very many reasons for American men to get married. Especially if he is how you describe him. Marriage is a trap for ugly dudes or dudes that want to have kids.

[JacobJordan]

Have you seen the selection of women today? I wouldn't marry an std riddled no self respect fake woman

[FreyaRed]

When you like pizza you don't need to buy a pizzeria

[jamesgoldman]

Because divorce is expensive

You can lose 50-90% on the rings with out the costs of selling a house and splitting accounts

[OtterMan68]

he never found the right woman.
he doesn't have any interest in settling down into the married life

[Yannae]

He's just after no strings attached from the info you're giving us.

[Booklover_90]

Maybe he doesn’t want to get married. It’s really no one’s business.

[Paul09]

Why is it always about marriage and kids? Not everyone is religious or wants kids. And he definitely sounds like a player.

[Vesuvius87]

You don't have to be religious to get married. Some atheists get married in courthouses instead of churches.

[Paul09]

@Vesuvius87 yeah I know. If still was created by religion. Either way not everyone has to do what everyone else does.

[Vesuvius87]

True. I was just pointing out the religious part when you said ''not everyone is religious or wants kids'', as if saying you have to be religious to get married.
Your last sentence makes more sense, not everyone will do what others are doing.

[DextroShade]

He has no incentive to get married unless and until he wants to start a family.

[Luckycharms12]

Hasn't met right person and didn't settle for just anyone

[Anonymous]

I am close to 50 and never been married.
I will retire in 4 or 5 years.
Early retirement is a great motivator.

[DarkWinterNights]

That’s most 40 year old guys I know.

[Asker]

Why though?

[DarkWinterNights]

Don’t know. Maybe some just never emotionally mature in that area.

[JacobJordan]

Because western women are a travesty by and large. Yeah there is the rare unicorn woman that checks the boxes but most guys can't tell off looking so most just avoid American women as a whole. Well technically not most as it comes down to 47% choose to stay single. 53% are looking for relationships of that number I think most recent figures has around 30% seeking outside the US

[dustybiker2]

Sounds like choice. Man must have his reasons.

[laly520]

personal choice

[Iron_Man]

it happens look at me

[Asker]

Why does it happen?

[Iron_Man]

Relationships broken and the girl didn’t wanna get married crisis that come up things happen

[jahaims]

He likes money and sex

[RossyBoi]

Maybe he's not interested in marriage?

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s a player

[Asker]

He’s been texting me everyday for 3 months, asking about my life, caring about me. Being attentive.

We currently can’t meet because we are in different countries, but he’s planned us to meet up a few months later.

He doesn’t get any benefits from me, how’s he a player?

[BarryLiverstone]

Player because he knows he can’t meet you but he’s able to keep your attention for months

[Asker]

Yes, but why does he need it?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he’s lying to you. Clearly he’s a player. You can’t see why?

[Danny_dan92]

Read the room

[Dreamclouds]

Why not?

[Kristierose]

He likes his freedom