Girls, Would you have a relationship with someone who has killed another person?

[Shiprex]

Girls of GaG, there are many scenarios where it's occurred that a guy has caused the ending of a life of someone else.

What do you feel about that? Would that be a deal breaker for a relationship? Does it matter the context it occurred in?

[Amy_Mi]

No, because actions define character, and that’s a line too extreme to cross.

Even if there’s context or remorse, someone capable of taking a life carries weight that can’t be erased.

Safety, values, and peace of mind are non negotiable.

A relationship isn’t just about attraction, it’s about trust, integrity, and alignment.

Some boundaries aren’t flexible, this is one of them.

[Shiprex]

What about soldiers, police or folk preventing crime?

[Amy_Mi]

Context matters, service roles like soldiers or police operate under duty, law, and protection, not personal malice.

The distinction is intent and responsibility, taking a life in defense or for justice differs from harming out of selfishness, anger, or recklessness.

Boundaries in personal relationships remain about safety, alignment, and trust, not societal roles.

[Shiprex]

That was why I framed the question to be ambiguous around the context of the killing. Are soldiers killing others (could be civilians if they're using long range weapon systems or flying aircraft/submarines with missiles) thus given a pass for their role in the deaths of others? Same with police or self defence. Or those who may kill someone in an accident.
This wasn't framed in the slightest as a criminal killing because that's too easy to judge.

[Amy_Mi]

That’s a fair distinction, ambiguity changes the entire moral lens.

When context blurs, morality becomes less about legality and more about intent, awareness, and accountability.

A soldier, a defender, or even someone in an accident each faces a different ethical weight depending on choice, foresight, and consequence.

Not every act that results in death is inherently evil, but every act that ignores its gravity is.

The real measure lies in whether one acted with conscience or convenience.

[thegreenyogi]

Depends on the reason for killing. If it was to protect someone he once loved or cares for I would certainly gain perspective and have a relationship with that person without judging him for it.

[Shiprex]

Soldiers though?
Or by accident/misadventure? Driver in a car crash for example

[thegreenyogi]

If I was attracted to that person and I had strong feelings for him, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!

[MemeSupreme]

probably

really depends on what happened, why he did it, how long ago it was, and what's he like today

[jazzy34]

That’s an absolute dealbreaker for me. Further, i would wonder why he wasn’t in prison.

[Shiprex]

What if he were a soldier, armed police, bystander stopping crime?