My fiancé and mom dont get along, but I want both at the wedding, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So my fiance and mom had a falling out over a year ago. My mom is known for being controlling and stubborn. My boyfriend made a comment years ago about something family related (an innocent comment at that), and my mom blew up and basically cut ties with him. She didn't make me chose her or him, but she pretty much banned him from their house. She never really trusted him, but she's never trusted anyone I date. And he's a lovely lovely guy, and the rest of my family agrees. Im her only child and she gets possesive, and acts inappropriately like laughing at people, etc. (which I've called her on before). Anyways, Im still in contact with her, but we're obviously not as close as we once were. I still love my mom and I adore my dad, and my dad loves my boyfriend and is disappointed in my mom. I have always dreamed of having them to my wedding, and it honestly breaks my heart to think that I shouldn't invite them, I just hate how she's treated my fiance and I find it unfair. Im just really sad at the moment and I dont know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Your question sounds funny. Of course you should want your fiancé to be there. Otherwise who are you going to marry? So the real question is how do I get my mother to stop actual f like a little child because I really want her at my wedding. Your mom needs to grow up. She sounds like Linda’s mom in the movie Dragon lol Linda’s mom doesn’t like Bruce Lee but that’s cause he’s Asian. But your mom makes me think of that movie. You either need to postpone the wedding and figure this out w your mom. Otherwise yes she may go to the adding but she’s still going to hate your fiancé. Which is going to have a huge bearing on your family, especially during holidays. Or you continue w the wedding and if she shows she shows if she doesn’t she doesn’t. That’ll be on her.

[DryGermanGuy]

You should be able to invite them both and expect them to be civil with each other! It's just a single day, however important. I refuse to believe that this would be too difficult.

[bunnyboo24]

Your next family is with your husband. Thats who you need to put first so just let your mom not come if she loves you she would

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic family drama before a wedding—like a soap opera with a dash of reality, right? 🎭 As a relationship coach, I empathize with the sticky situation you’re in. You deserve a wedding filled with love and laughter, not tension. Consider having a heart-to-heart with your mom, focusing on her happiness and emphasizing how much it means to have everyone at the wedding. Highlight the importance of love and unity on your big day. Maybe even involve your dad in bridging the gap! Keep the focus on love, and let’s hope mom can drop the drama and embrace the joy! 💖👰

[slatyb]

Sorry, that's sad. Invite your mother and if she makes a scene, have her escorted out. If she threatens to make a scene, then don't invite her. Her loss.

[Twalli]

Your fiancée has to be at your wedding. Invite your mom, she can always choose not to go, fact is that once you decide to get married, she's having him as a son-in-law or will lose contact with her only daughter and any future grandkids.