Fiancé parents problem?

[AJ_Jeffrey]

Hey there so I'm writing this not because her family hates me but her parents are against her in everything she does

So I recently got a job and they expected her to treat me like a God even though I'm just a sales man for men's clothing
They expect her to run a shower, cook dinner and clean the house and take care of their baby and do washing for me (like a maid)

She's a beautiful person and I don't like how they are pushing something on her, she wants to get a job so they stop pushing her

I want to confront them but I have no idea about how to do it without everything blowing out of proportion

So my question is what do I do and how can I help her without having judgement dropping on us?

[PrettyPriya]

So, you are expected to have a job, do chores and otherwise treat her well? Oh, the horror.

I know this is supposed to be the womens job to cook for you, but you can pitch in from time to time.

She wants to get a job? Oh, poor you even more! How dare she want to work and then come home to a thoughtful man that cooked a nice dinner for the TWO of you.

You're right. Her parents are insane they expect something of you.

[AJ_Jeffrey]

I'm not the one who has a problem with it, her parents do. And I don't expect anything from her cause we both equals

[PrettyPriya]

Why are you complaining then if you don’t have a problem?

[AJ_Jeffrey]

I'm not complaining because I love my partner dearly and she's in a situation WHERE HER FAMILY IS MAKING HER cook and clean for me. IM TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MAKE HER FAMILY STOP SO WE BOTH CAN BE HAPPY AND NORMAL. we both love each other and I want to take care of her as much as she takes care of me

[AJ_Jeffrey]

They tell me to sit and relax while she does everything and when I go to help they end up yelling at her and me for it

[PrettyPriya]

Sorry. Misread this then. My apologies. How exactly are they controlling either of you though?

Do you not have free will? Do they come over every afternoon to hand out instructions? This is the oddest of situations I have heard of.

[AJ_Jeffrey]

So due to Australian living conditions we can't afford or find a place to move into so we have to be sharing a house with her parents and 3 others

[AJ_Jeffrey]

Also it's okay don't need to apologise

[PrettyPriya]

Ah, so you live with them. Yeah, that’s rough. Perhaps when she finds employment they will start to see that household tasks need to be shared.

Side note, I’m engaged to an Aussie. What wonderful gentlemen you all are.

[AJ_Jeffrey]

But they wake her up and force her do washing cleaning and when I come back from work they make her do stuff for me even though I say "it's okay I can do it" they pretty much call her lazy and I'm just hoping to get a solution so I can get them to back off, cause she has depression and she also wants a job so she has that freedom so we can do things ourselves and look after one and another

[AJ_Jeffrey]

Hahah thank you. We are hoping that's the case we both just want to move and congratulations on being engaged🙂

[PrettyPriya]

So, this is tough because “their house, their rules”. Other than both of you sitting down and discussing it, not much you can do.

I suppose that the best outcome is she finds a job and simply doesn’t have the time to do these household chores.

Perhaps the extra income will also allow you to move out on your own, where it is a shared responsibility.

[PrettyPriya]

Thanks! We actually marry in his home country/city of Perth on 31/12 this year. Looking forward to it as any girl does. 🙂

[AJ_Jeffrey]

That sounds beautiful. We've both have been talking about our wedding we are thinking big backyard/garden wedding next year on our anniversary on 13 of October

[PrettyPriya]

Well, my goodness me. That is precisely what we are doing. My fiancé’s family has a beachside estate in Iluka.

We our marrying there, as well as having a New Years celebration following wedding.

[AJ_Jeffrey]

Well we wish both of you well with everything coming up in the later year then🙂

[Guy13]

Do not be Purpose-Driven‼️ She may truly like the domesticated life. Your interaction needs to have a positive effect.
—LISTEN to her. Don’t be a Solution guy until you know she wants it. Confrontation will probably make it more difficult for her.
—Meanwhile, help her search for job. Talk about what she likes. Help with professional resume…AS ASKED for help. Ultimately, she has to get fed up with it all.

[ArtemisSilver]

You're against her keeping house why?

[In_Trance]

Support whatever she decides to do

[Iron_Man]

Just talk to them