What's a "checkmate" or "point of no return" for you in a relationship/friendship?

[DishLady]

I generally believe in "turning the other cheek" and offering second chances, however there's a point at which I do have to just "fold" and declare the T. O. D. on a relationship or friendship. What's the point of no return for you?

[Summeroflove]

I agree there is two extremes nobody is perfect but there is also behaviors you shouldn’t tolerate.

Cheating obviously. Abuse. If someone’s entitled. Ungreatdul. Demanding. You can tell someone’s intentionally testing your boundaries and doesn’t respect them. Leave…. Not worth it.

[OlderAndWiser]

When someone does something which is inconsistent with any level of respect for me, it's time to pull the plug.

[MrChinaski]

I can one-up you. "When someone does something which is inconsistent with any level of respect for me **and blames me for doing it**, it's time to pull the plug."

I figure everyone has a bad day and says or does things they regret. But if they project responsibility onto me then I am walking every time.

I would probably still take them back if they apologised unconditionally, but almost nobody is strong and beautiful enough to be that humble. I believe in multiple 'second' chances. But a wound like that would still take a good time to heal.

[HawkPerception]

When friends or my partner stop having faith in my character and start believing rumors of things I've never done or said. That's the big "I'm out" moment for me.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

For me, “checkmate” is when trust is broken in a way that can’t be repaired.

Not a mistake, not a bad day but a pattern.

Once I see that someone can look me in the eyes, promise one thing, and consistently do the opposite, that’s the point of no return.

After that, I don’t get angry.

I just disconnect.

Respect can’t be rebuilt if the foundation is gone.

[ryanrhino]

Not at the time, but it did become infidelity.

[ryanrhino]

and would be being untrue or taking advantage of me for a friendship

[DishLady]

Yes, same.

[Jack122112]

Lies. The moment I see your dishonest... im done. Do not pass go, do not collect 200$

can't build with a liar. They will always default to their dishonesty. Its poison for a relationship. Once lies happen, respect and trust are gone. I am too old to rebuild bridges that you burned with your dishonesty. Next

[Unap0logetic_]

Not defending me or lying. Those are my deal breakers.

[DishLady]

Agreed

[Anonymous]

Cheating, but I think a lot of people feel that way. Also abuse, but I’ve never been abused. I have been cheated on.

[DishLady]

Both are bad. AND in my opinion cheating is a form of abuse bc it comes with gaslighting and other toxicity issues.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a good point

[worldscolide]

If she got into drugs, cheated, or did something to financially destroy us.

[worldscolide]

Oh also if she started smoking, or drinking heavily.

[DishLady]

Oh! 2 out of the 3 are the reason I split with my hubbie. Third was violent personality.

[DishLady]

Yeah, I presumed that with the "drugs".

[Spencer10]

Hatred, bigotry racism and a closed mind. If I see these traits I tend to "fold" pretty fast.

[YourExLover69]

In relationship: cheating, flirting with other guys, lying, consuming drugs, alcohol.

In friendship: not showing respect, not helping in bad times, consuming drugs.

[Anonymous]

I never had a relationship, so I can't be sure.

As for the friendship, betrayal is usually red flag.

[beenherebefore]

In a relationship is cheating. In a friendship is disliking my Partner.

[loveslongnails]

Finding out she voted for Trump... not once, but three times.

[DishLady]

Oh my...

[loveslongnails]

Yeah... couldn't end it fast enough.

[Ironco]

I'm old school. If she cheats, or disrespects me. Is full of only her shit. Or gets violent (physically or mentally).

Then I tap out and leave.

[Mark987]

Cheating

[beefcakebradybatson]

Dishonesty.

[Sam1133]

Betrayal